should i be jealous over my boyfriends female friends?

[lostINdarkness]

my BF has lots of friends that are girls. and i get jealous sometimes (well, i guess its jealousy i dont really know what to call it.) i dont really get angry with him, and i do trust him around them, but i dont really trust them.

 

for example, this one time, when my BF and i were walking, he had his arm around my waist and he was telling me a story. well, his EX girlfriend comes out of no where behind us and wants to hear this story. she keeps tugging on his arm to get him away from me, and when she finally gets her way she gave me a dirty look! but my BF also did kinda make me mad. when she finally got his arm off of me, he went back, walked beside her, and told the rest of the story to her! and i heard nothing. so i just walked off. i really didnt know what to do, and i really didnt want to argue with anyone that day because it was already a bad day.

 

he does this all the time to me with his friends that are girls, but the guys (there arent too many of them though) he stays along side me and talks to us both.

 

he told me he wouldnt talk to them as much anymore for me, but he still does it like he always did. i mean, i never wanted him to do taht because i dont want to be controlling and say who he can be friends with or not. i didnt want him doing that, but he insisted. but i mean, he shouldnt lie to me about that, and then sneak behind my back, right?

 

am i just being crazy? or is there something wrong with this?

[PeachyHalo]

Hmmmm

 

I understand where you are coming from, I would HATE this.

 

I don't agree him hanging out with an ex girlfriend, my husbands 'best friend' was someone he had sex with a few times and I didn't know otherwise I wouldn't be ok with them hanging out. They don't hang out anymore though.

 

It's perfectly fine for him to have female friends aslong as nothing happened in the past, although he needs to quit giving them more attention and give it to you instead. If he won't listen there's really not a lot you can do since he's not really over stepping any boundries.

 

If you can't handle the jealousy you need to get out before it drives you nuts, or you have to learn to deal with it.

 

It sucks.

[Nocturnal]

Tell him specifically that you dislike it when he switch from talking to you to talking to them when you two are already in a conversation (or him telling you a story) and remember, be specific. And I think the fact that you let him 'get away' and you wander off will make the situation worse. Hang on and don't let him switch track. Because the moment you walk off, he will rationalize it as you not being interested in the story anymore.

[bubblygrl5]

Hang out with your bf separately, without the other girls around, or its gonna be a fight for attention. If you trust him, and he hangs out with them from time to time, then let that be. But dont agree to hang out in a group if it bothers you.

 

 

Bubbly