PrettyEmily77 Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 The deep desire for a Alpha personality diminishes, once she is pregnant & is into nesting mode. Then a beta personality becomes more attractive. Supposedly modern birth control can alter or tweak these instinctual urges, by altering hormonal levels. Remember that in most humans (male & female) there is a constant internal conflict between the conscious & subconscious parts of the mind. When a girl tells you that she's confused, or doesn't know what she wants, believe her & understand it might be due to things out of her control. Such as, for instance? Link to post Share on other sites
beaten Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 Most women want a bad boy who knows how to be a good man Don't get it but I don't think it's me. Link to post Share on other sites
beaten Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 ^^^^This^^^^ Bad boys usually exude confidence and often take a stand against society and its norms. Young women brought up to be "nice", can be drawn to men who can confidently pitch themselves against the norm, who can look society and everyone else in the face and say "who cares? I'll do what I want" Confidence is very, very attractive to most and especially to people who may not be all that confident themselves. "I may not be able to push my weight around, but when I am with him, we both can." Some see the "bad boy" as a project, someone to heal, someone to cure. They excuse his bad behaviour - "He had a bad childhood, his mother didn't love him, but I will." Some see him as a challenge, he may be a lion to everyone else but to me he is a big pussy cat - "I am soooo special, I tamed the lion." Being a dare devil is also highly attractive, because he dares, he is brave, he has courage, whilst others including herself will duck out. He is thus special, a one off and uniqueness is also very attractive. He may kill himself on a motor bike, and be pretty foolish with his own life, but his daring tends to trump all that. He is a hero. Being a real "bad boy" is not easily copied, those that try are often found to be weak. They are nasty to or push "helpless" women around, but when other men or real opponents arrive, they duck out. Their "daring" stunts flop, or are are seen to be easily copied by just about anyone. They are NOT their own man, they do not exude confidence in their own skin, they whine, they are sarcastic, they are arrogant or entitled. They see women as "the enemy" and disrespect them, because they are too weak to stand up for themselves and accept women for what they are, just other human beings. Women tend to grow out of wanting "bad boys" and those that try and fail to copy them - they just want real confident men. As Michelle says "men who walk to the beat of their own drum." Another reason why I'm done with the dating for good. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 'All' is a scary word and 'bad boy' has as many definitions as there are people. Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted May 18, 2015 Share Posted May 18, 2015 Not all but the majority of them do like bad blokes. Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 18, 2015 Share Posted May 18, 2015 Don't get it but I don't think it's me. I'm being cheeky. Listen to Tim McGraw's song "A Real Good Man" then you'll understand Link to post Share on other sites
Pillow Posted May 18, 2015 Share Posted May 18, 2015 (edited) Well, if you ask me now, at 24 years old, I would say no. I don't like bad boys but this has not always been true. when I was in college, I didn't notice anything but the bad boys. As in, the frat guys, the athletes, the hippies, the musicians, the artists, the gangsters. They made college life something spectacular because they amplify your level of wild and crazy. Anything goes. Nothing surprises you and Everything's a power play with a bad boy, so when they give in, you feel like you REALLY won. You feel special in a way. My heart was set on this incredibly beautiful runner, 6'3 with green eyes and dark hair, and sculpted face. He had a new girl in his bed every night and I almost volunteered to be one of them, but saved myself. He only had 1 girlfriend throughout his entire college career and just for a semester before they broke it off and went back to sleeping around. Taylor Swift, the leading pop star of today, writes her own lyrics: "You look like bad news. I gotta have you. I gotta have you!!" "I guess you didn't care. And I guess I liked that. And when I fell hard, you took a step back, without me. Without me." 'You know I love the players, and You love the game!" Bad boys never stick around, sadly and they can tear a wound in you. They are kinda like older men trapped in a young hot male's body. I feel like older men are set in their ways and nothing surprises them and they tell you exactly what they think. They are not impressionable or desperate and i think that's what's attractive about it. It's trying to impress someone who can't be impressed. And you feel very feminine and young with them because they think you're silly and ignore you because it's really all about them, but maybe for one second, they will give in and give you the attention you crave from them. And when they do, it surprises you, because they never give in. But I've learned. Edited May 18, 2015 by Pillow Link to post Share on other sites
Hawaii51 Posted May 18, 2015 Share Posted May 18, 2015 Does anyone think a bad-boy can provide a little more mental/physical security for a woman? Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 Does anyone think a bad-boy can provide a little more mental/physical security for a woman? Define bad boy. I've known athletic, tall guys who could definitely provide more "security" than the average man. They could look at most men, and the guys would RUN. One of them was a very sanctified Christian man who nearly got into a fit because he saw a man put his hands on a woman. I guess he'd still be a bad boy because he's successful with woman and handsome... I've dated a legit bad boy. He wasn't bad to me. Also, he was essentially a boxer so he would definitely provide more security than average dude. There were things about him that were dealbreakers. Now he's cleaned himself up, got a job, nice truck, and a baby on the way. He will probably get married soon, which is more than average nice guy can say. Link to post Share on other sites
leavesonautumn Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 I was into bad boys when I was ages 13 to 19. I was always drawn to them in my youth. The key term there being "youth". It wasn't so much that I craved their attention or wanted to change someone, I just thought they were fun and I didn't want the commitment either. Now, I am attracted to men who are sweet and can make me laugh. My boyfriend was a bad boy when he was younger and I've heard many stories of the **** he used to get up to but it's almost like he needed to live through that to become the person he is today. He was raised in both Canada and Switzerland so he is naturally a good little Swiss boy at heart. He can also be cocky without being a jerk. He just knows what he wants and goes for it and doesn't care what other people think or say about him. He's also respectful and caring. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
empresario Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 Girls are drawn to the confidence of bad boys, not the bad boy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 Do you have to be a bad boy to get hot women?. Stop worrying about "what women want". This mentality reinforces a self limiting belief that you aren't good enough for a woman. Be yourself, you don't have to be alpha. Just stand up for yourself when needed and respect others. Live your life they way you want to, whatever makes you happy. A woman can hitch her wagon to your train or take it down the road. Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 No. But please explain what "get hot women" means to you??? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 No, personally I don't even have "bad boys" in my friend circle, nor as aquaintances. But my walls are high and only the best get inside, people with ego problems aren't strong enough to make it. I guess I might not be single if I didn't have that anti-bad boy thing, but oh well. I'm happier single than in a bad relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 I'd argue that it serves most men well to have a touch of "bad boy", or call it "edginess" if that term is a little better. Even after decades of marriage. But of course you need to balance that out with being a good and reliable partner and father. Sort of the "whole package" approach. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jay1983 Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 I'd argue that it serves most men well to have a touch of "bad boy", or call it "edginess" if that term is a little better. Even after decades of marriage. But of course you need to balance that out with being a good and reliable partner and father. Sort of the "whole package" approach. Yeah I agree with you. That being said I don't know too guys who are complete push overs with no spine. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 Yeah I agree with you. That being said I don't know too guys who are complete push overs with no spine. I don't think that's the common opposite of a Bad Boy. What you see far more often are guys who are just kind of ... bland. They aren't doing interesting things or pushing any limits. They just sort of exist. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
davidromero43 Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 Do all women like a bad boy? Yes Do you have to be a bad boy to get hot women?. No Link to post Share on other sites
jay1983 Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 I don't think that's the common opposite of a Bad Boy. What you see far more often are guys who are just kind of ... bland. They aren't doing interesting things or pushing any limits. They just sort of exist. I see what you're saying. Link to post Share on other sites
Clarence_Boddicker Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 Actually girls want what they perceive to be bad boys. Most boys are not bad or even close to it at all. Girls are just looking for something they can grab onto as a bad boy trait that the guy she's interested in has. After the honeymoon period is over, she might discover that he's no bad boy at all & the relationship is doomed. Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 I've always liked smart jocks. (and yes they exist, even though they're all taken) Link to post Share on other sites
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