LakersFan81 Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 Today would be our 7 year anniversary if we were still together. She left me last summer and I haven't heard from her once. I really want to text her today and just ask how she hasn't even asked how I have been one time, but I know she will probably just ignore me. Ugh. Probably shouldn't do it. Nothing good will happen from it. Iust don't understand and never will how we talked all day every day for years and then she ended it and that was that. Link to post Share on other sites
HowMightI-live Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 Dont do it, you'll only regret it in the morning when she doesnt respond back. Dont give up, you'll make it out the other side if you dont give up. Link to post Share on other sites
StrangerThanFiction Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 Today would be our 7 year anniversary if we were still together. She left me last summer and I haven't heard from her once. I really want to text her today and just ask how she hasn't even asked how I have been one time, but I know she will probably just ignore me. Ugh. Probably shouldn't do it. Nothing good will happen from it. Iust don't understand and never will how we talked all day every day for years and then she ended it and that was that. Ask yourself if there is any sort of likelihood of her saying anything to you that will make you feel better instead of worse. Her telling you she still loves you and misses you and wants to get back together would be wonderful, but if that was the case she would have contacted you already. I can pretty much 99% guarantee that if you do reach out she will either a)completely ignore it and you will feel awful and ashamed, b)she will respond and you will have an awkward "how are things?" conversation that will end in nothing being resolved, no questions adequately answered and leaving you wanting more, or c)she will be cold and ask you why you are contacting her after all this time and you'll go through heartbreak all over again. I know the temptation to reach out and get a fix from an ex can be overwhelming sometimes but in all reality, if you do, it will only be temporary and you'll end up feeling so much worse afterwards. You can do this, man! The desire to do so will fade. Try to distract yourself as much as possible until it does. I'm pulling for ya! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
aloneinaz Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 EVERYONE will tell you NOT TO DO IT.. Why would you want to contact someone who kicked you out of her life and clearly has no desire to ever hear from you again? Would you send a happy work anniversary text to an old boss who fired you? Yea, no, no you wouldn't.. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
WorkingOut Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 Seriously, I can predict the outcome. She won't reply. You'll feel awful. I was in a relationship for 3 years. We split last spring. Went NC in August. Managed NC till October. That was the last time we spoke. Tried beginning of December, no reply. Christmas passes, New Years, my birthday, I hear nothing. I write to her after 5 months, for her birthday...no reply. Seeing the pattern here? lol. Even with some big chunks of NC, she's obviously done with me. We aren't FB friends. She keeps it all private except for a profile photo change, but why doesn't she just BLOCK me? Trying to figure that out is what keeps you trying. Maybe she's too lazy?Maybe she wants me to see how great she looks? It doesn't change the fact that she won't reply and that will set you back every time. Sorry, didn't mean to give you so much history, but don't do it. I know how painful the result is. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Jonp219 Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 Don't do it, it's only going to make you feel awful. You're just going to come up short like the Lakers did this season (joke because of your name). I'm kidding lol. Just don't do you're going to be OK man. I'm pulling for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 Still thinking about it? STOP. DON'T. NO TEXTING ALLOWED. TEXTING PROHIBITED. TEXTING VOID WHERE PROHIBITED. TEXTING PROHIBITED WHERE VOID. TEXTING VOID AND PROHIBITED WHERE NOT ALLOWED. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
dyna85 Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 I think the title of this thread says it all. Even though you have a desire to contact your ex, you know it's best if you don't. You want to be talked out of it because you know it's not in your best interest, so go with that overarching knowledge and resist the urge. She left you. Ball's in her court to re-establish contact, in my opinion. She left you LAST SUMMER and hasn't contacted you since then. Even more reason to let sleeping dogs lie. Keep it moving. I know it's hard. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NopeNah Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 Of course you should text her! It's your 7yr! or...would it be like 6 and change,since she broke up with you? Hell NO don't text her..That's literally "crazy talk" ! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
brokengirl85 Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 You know you should not text him and I applause you for posting here instead. by now, the urges may be gone, and you'll feel better. Keep no contact, it's the only way to go Link to post Share on other sites
Author LakersFan81 Posted May 18, 2015 Author Share Posted May 18, 2015 Thank you everybody. I really appreciate it. For the most part, I am better. Definitely improved on where I was the first couple months after it happened. I still think about her basically every day though. I will never be able to comprehend how we talked every day for over 5 years and had a close relationship, and then she just left me, and that's the last I ever heard from her. I mean one day we are having a great time together like always, and a couple days later she ends it, and I've never heard from her. Not even a text saying she hopes I am doing well. Just hard to understand it. Call me bitter, but I feel it's gonna take a long time for me to be comfortable in a relationship again. I considered her my best friend, and she told me I was her best friend every day then boom, she's gone. I thought she would have at least reached out to see how I was doing by now. Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby65 Posted May 18, 2015 Share Posted May 18, 2015 Trust me, you don't want that "how are you doing?" text. It would drive you crazy. You'd be reading into it and posting to ask if it means she wants you back. You'd be pulled into replying and then agonizing over what/if to reply and then agonizing over when/if she'll reply to your reply.... and on and on. She's actually doing you a favor by cutting contact. Many dumpers try to keep their exes around as a backup plan.... or as a security blanket, so they can feel less scared about being single again. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
JollyDays Posted May 18, 2015 Share Posted May 18, 2015 Don't text her, because she'll offer you nothing more than breadcrumbs. Plus, she may trap you in the friend zone. BTW, despite their recent lack of success, what a great basketball choice. GO LAKERS! I was so happy the Dippers choked yesterday. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Author LakersFan81 Posted May 18, 2015 Author Share Posted May 18, 2015 Don't text her, because she'll offer you nothing more than breadcrumbs. Plus, she may trap you in the friend zone. BTW, despite their recent lack of success, what a great basketball choice. GO LAKERS! I was so happy the Dippers choked yesterday. LOL Just an epic collapse by the Clippers. Hopefully the Lakers can draft a good player this summer, and turn it around soon. Link to post Share on other sites
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