How can I change my life around?

[wingman013]

Hello,

I am turning almost 25. I haven't finished University yet and all my friends are either finished or coming to an end to their degree. I have done almost 2 years of University and then got withdrawn from my program. I didn't take school seriously and was really feckless. I have done some courses at the moment and want to return to school and obtain a degree.

Currently, I still live with my parents and whatever I make I do my best to pay off my school and save money. But there is a problem, I feel anxious, depressed and pressured from not being at the same level as other people. Most of my friends are in a relationship as well and I haven't found myself a right girl. I don't drive a nice car either. I feel like if I want to date or impress a girl, I don't have the confidence anymore to show her what I can offer. I just feel horrible.

I want to change my life. And, I want to succeed in life while I am still young. I am a very motivated and dedicated person at this moment. I also have been going to the gym and training really hard. I'm mentally and physically strong as of right now. It just bothers me how everyone asks me why I don't have my degree yet, that I'm late to change, and how a decent looking young men like me does not have a girlfriend.

I don't know where to start. Am I to late to go back to school? Do I still have a chance to change my life around and succeed and catch up to my friends? What do you guys have in recommendation? Thank you and hope to hear from you soon.

[amtz]

As I read your post I sure did relate to my life back when I was your age. Not so far from 25 since I'm 28. I think you are going through mid-life crisis. More or less you get disappointed since you are not where you thought you would be at a certain age or point of your life. I believe I had this "lost" feeling in life entering my 20's till I was 24 maybe 25. I dropped out of school and made believe my parents that I was still in school for about a year!! One time I drove to a Walmart only to sleep in my car during school hours. I also stopped dating and going out all together, in fact I hardly ever did get out from my house since my self esteem was rock bottom!! I joined the gym and lifted like an animal and grew big!! Even though I was big in the outside I was miserable deep down in my soul.

 

 

This attitude went on for years going from one part-time to another... Seing how everyone else was living it up dating, going out, socializing and obtaining economic stability made matters worse for me!

 

 

Till one day I decided to change my life for good! I decided to join the Air Force and be someone in life! I had a great time while in the force! I completed my four year term and for some odd reason I ended up whole selling cellphone parts and accessories and now drive a brand new sports car & my dream motorcycle HD VROD. As far as relationship goes I had my heart broken many times whith in the process and now dating my dream girl!

 

 

Although joining the military helped me improve myself, 99.9% of all improvements took place because I decided to make changes in my life! I'm still trying to figure out my purpose in life. I'm a long way's from getting my first million, so I guess every day is a good day to fight and make a come back!

 

 

Stay strong! I'm here for anything

Edited May 18, 2015 by amtz

[d0nnivain]

You are never too late to change. You simply have to want to change.

 

Set some SMART goals (specific, measurable, attainable, realistic & timely). Then work toward them.

 

It's Spring of 2015 now. Set a goal that you will get your degree in 2 years so by Spring 2017. Sit down with an adviser & see what courses you still need to take & when they are available.

 

Set a goal that you will have a good job & be out of the house by Fall 2017, after you get the degree. Then figure out industry hiring patterns & minimum GPA to get an interview. Work on your interview skills & participate in resume building activities.

[empresario]

Hello,

I am turning almost 25. I haven't finished University yet and all my friends are either finished or coming to an end to their degree. I have done almost 2 years of University and then got withdrawn from my program. I didn't take school seriously and was really feckless. I have done some courses at the moment and want to return to school and obtain a degree.

Currently, I still live with my parents and whatever I make I do my best to pay off my school and save money. But there is a problem, I feel anxious, depressed and pressured from not being at the same level as other people. Most of my friends are in a relationship as well and I haven't found myself a right girl. I don't drive a nice car either. I feel like if I want to date or impress a girl, I don't have the confidence anymore to show her what I can offer. I just feel horrible.

I want to change my life. And, I want to succeed in life while I am still young. I am a very motivated and dedicated person at this moment. I also have been going to the gym and training really hard. I'm mentally and physically strong as of right now. It just bothers me how everyone asks me why I don't have my degree yet, that I'm late to change, and how a decent looking young men like me does not have a girlfriend.

I don't know where to start. Am I to late to go back to school? Do I still have a chance to change my life around and succeed and catch up to my friends? What do you guys have in recommendation? Thank you and hope to hear from you soon.

 

 

I tell myself this every day: It's NEVER too late to start doing the right thing.

 

 

I didn't start my true passion in life until I was just about your age. Ever since then every day has been a blessing. Do I ever think about how I Didn't start until I was 24? Hell no. Because I'm there now.

 

 

I think we often times have a misconception that we will 'enjoy less about life' as we age. It's a lie we tell ourselves. Truth is, you will reach the same level of happiness at 40 as you will at 20...as long as you're doing the right thing. What makes you happy may change in definition as you age...but your max happiness potential will not.

 

 

Do what you need to. Pursue a life of passion. Start now. You're already on the path with your health, which is the first thing I started changing, too. It helps a lot.

 

 

You're not crazy. You're not old. Just do your thing.

[empresario]

As I read your post I sure did relate to my life back when I was your age. Not so far from 25 since I'm 28. I think you are going through mid-life crisis. More or less you get disappointed since you are not where you thought you would be at a certain age or point of your life. I believe I had this "lost" feeling in life entering my 20's till I was 24 maybe 25. I dropped out of school and made believe my parents that I was still in school for about a year!! One time I drove to a Walmart only to sleep in my car during school hours. I also stopped dating and going out all together, in fact I hardly ever did get out from my house since my self esteem was rock bottom!! I joined the gym and lifted like an animal and grew big!! Even though I was big in the outside I was miserable deep down in my soul.

 

 

This attitude went on for years going from one part-time to another... Seing how everyone else was living it up dating, going out, socializing and obtaining economic stability made matters worse for me!

 

 

Till one day I decided to change my life for good! I decided to join the Air Force and be someone in life! I had a great time while in the force! I completed my four year term and for some odd reason I ended up whole selling cellphone parts and accessories and now drive a brand new sports car & my dream motorcycle HD VROD. As far as relationship goes I had my heart broken many times whith in the process and now dating my dream girl!

 

 

Although joining the military helped me improve myself, 99.9% of all improvements took place because I decided to make changes in my life! I'm still trying to figure out my purpose in life. I'm a long way's from getting my first million, so I guess every day is a good day to fight and make a come back!

 

 

Stay strong! I'm here for anything

 

Agreed, brother. I'm the same age as you. I started my first company at 24 and I thought I was way late to the party. Most of the biggest breakthroughs in history came from people younger than 25. I was pretty bummed out but tried anyways.

 

 

The result? Well, when you risk it for that biscuit it often times pays off. You are happy. And you are lucky. You are lucky because you put yourself in the position to succeed, not because of some supernatural force.

 

 

You will get that first million. On paper (funny how that works) I am a millionaire. My goal was to get there by 27...and my first valuation that made me a millionaire came at 28 years, 4 months, and 9 days....just missed it. But still, now half way through 7 figure worth and hoping to hit 8 figures by 30. Set challenges and you get there. Simple as that.

[wingman013]

Thank you so much all!