Falling for a work colleague and not sure

[Lostone1979]

Hi all,

I'm hoping someone can help me with some advice on the current situation I am in.

I have a high profile position within the organisation. I work in the corporate headquarters. Many of the staff keep to themselves and hardly talk to others. However there is one person in there that I always talk to and vice versa.

 

 

She is divorced and in her mid thirties. I am mid thirties but never been married. We don't have any children.

 

 

When we talk she is constantly telling me about how happy she is that she is now divorced, but how she just wants to have children. I always tell her how much I just want to have children. She seems to come into my office all the time and has no regard what so ever to other employees seeing her in there and I do the same. We just talk all the time about life and the universe and what our ideal lives would be like etc. From what I know about her and what she knows about me, we hardly have anything in common, but I am really falling for her.

 

 

She flirts with me a fair bit, but nothing else.

 

 

I am too afraid to ask her out as I know we don't have much in common. The other issue I have is if I ask her out and she says no, the awkward position I will be placed in, and all I could envisage is quitting if she says no. A bit dramatic, but I might not have a choice.

 

 

Has anyone out there been in this position at work before? How do you know if the person actually has feelings for you?

 

 

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

[GoBlue]

I am too afraid to ask her out as I know we don't have much in common. The other issue I have is if I ask her out and she says no, the awkward position I will be placed in, and all I could envisage is quitting if she says no. A bit dramatic, but I might not have a choice.

 

So, basically you have your answer. If you don't have anything in common what would be the purpose of asking her out? I am assuming it's physical attraction. Co-worker relationships at their very best are filled with landmines and potholes. Do you really think it is worth the risk?

[Lostone1979]

Thanks for responding GoBlue. It is not a physical attraction. She is beautiful, but I am more attracted to her personality.

 

 

anyways, I have decided to quit the job. I can't handle going to work and seeing her everyday without saying something about my feelings to her