mammasita Posted May 20, 2015 Share Posted May 20, 2015 So I got some extremely random messages on FB from this guy I used to date like 10+ years ago. He's married with kids now and he's professing his feelings/love for me and I'm just totally weirded out.......like WTF. Needless to say, I ignored and blocked him. I'm just on the fence about whether I should even say anything about it to my current. I feel like it's a non issue because it is, but then on the same note I'm all about full disclosure. I'm thinking about just saying "yeah this guy I used to see a very long time ago messaged me about wanting to meet up but I ignored and blocked his silly married a$$" WWYD? Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted May 20, 2015 Share Posted May 20, 2015 About what you said sounds fine! I've had long-ago FWB's rear their ugly heads now and then; I usually laugh out loud, tell my husband, and we chuckle about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mammasita Posted May 20, 2015 Author Share Posted May 20, 2015 About what you said sounds fine! I've had long-ago FWB's rear their ugly heads now and then; I usually laugh out loud, tell my husband, and we chuckle about it. Agreed....and usually things left unsaid or hidden, resurface looking guilty when they were as innocent as could be lol Link to post Share on other sites
aloneinaz Posted May 20, 2015 Share Posted May 20, 2015 IDK, as a guy, we don't like when our gals tell us this old flame contacted me or that one texted me.. It seems like they are looking for a reaction or trying to make us jealous. My GF's ex has tried to contact her a few times in the almost two years we've been together. She has zero desire to speak to him. The last time she told me I said "babe, you don't need to tell me this kind of thing, I trust you". Likewise, I have an ex who says hello via email a few times a year. We're on good terms but she knows I'd never date her again. I don't tell my GF as to me it's really nothing to worry about for her or me. To me, you handled it fine. You blocked the guy and moved on. Why bring any drama to you guy. There's nothing there to talk about. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mammasita Posted May 20, 2015 Author Share Posted May 20, 2015 Aloneinaz - I very much get your perspective too, my man is 150% the type to not really care to know...I can see his face in my mind when/if I tell him. It would be "um ok, I don't know him you're with me and I trust you - plus you handled it. SO, What are we doing tonight?" And it would never be spoken of, brought up nor thought of again....... Link to post Share on other sites
Maleficent Posted May 20, 2015 Share Posted May 20, 2015 I got a message from a former FWB not too long ago as well. To tell me he had a girlfriend. Wooptydoo. : Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted May 20, 2015 Share Posted May 20, 2015 since you did not respond to the messages and since you deleted and blocked, I don't think you'd be wrong either way. What's done is done. If you wanted to tell him what happened, you can but I don't think you'll really gain anything from it. and by the same token I don't think any harm will come if you don't say anything. I don't know what could come of it down the road if you don't disclose now but if for some weird reason it does come up, you have already taken the appropriate action so what more can really be said or done? Us guys know that our women get hit on and we all know that old flames will pop up trying to get some extra nooggie now and then. It's when we find out down the road that you've been chatting and making time with an old flame without our knowledge that things get dicey. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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