Jet96 Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Im 18 and i find myself more sexually attracted to much older women ages 35-50 especially the really curvy ones . I like girls around my age but i just like older ones better. I even talked to one yesterday in a casual conversation telling her how beautiful she was and even kissing her hand which she blushed but sadly she was married if she wasn't i would have gotten her number .I wanted to know are women this age are attracted to men my age (18-20) , the dos and donts to aproching one and properly flirting and dating her ?
jay1983 Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 I say hold off on the hand kissing. That might not play out so well next time. 1
Author Jet96 Posted May 20, 2015 Author Posted May 20, 2015 I say hold off on the hand kissing. That might not play out so well next time. Any other advice on trying to flirt with her ? Im open to hear it .
yxalitis Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Some are, some aren't... Why be so black and white Seriously... Mostly though, you'll just get laughed at...perhaps if you were mature, sophisticated, debonair... I don't read that in you.
clia Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 I'm 40 and there is no way in Hades I'd be interested in an 18 year old boy. 4
Author Jet96 Posted May 20, 2015 Author Posted May 20, 2015 Some are, some aren't... Why be so black and white Seriously... Mostly though, you'll just get laughed at...perhaps if you were mature, sophisticated, debonair... I don't read that in you. I actually am i just want to keep it short and simple about my intentions here .
JJCaliGirl Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 I'm in the age range described, but I've always been a more mature individual, so no, I would not date a guy who was significantly younger than me. In fact, even someone in their late 20s is almost too young for me.
thefooloftheyear Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 What type of relationship did you have with your mother? As for age gap stuff, what my experience has taught me is this... -Most women want to date a guy that's close to their age or a bit older... -Most men also prefer to date close to their age, but often go younger...I don't think necessarily due to compatibility issues, but more as a physical thing... -Most younger guys looking at older women seem to have more of a sexual cougar fetish, or mommy issues, rather than wanting to go older in hopes of a satisfactory LTR... Of course there are exceptions, but that's been my experience... TFY
carhill Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 In general, you'll probably have better luck with married women. However, that's simply been my life experience, rather than any sort of clinical advice. I personally can't think of one single woman I've known personally who's dated a significantly younger man, especially one who's still a teenager. I think I was first introduced to this concept at about age 18 when John Travolta and Diana Hyland got together and she died of cancer shortly thereafter. He was in his early 20's and she was around 40 IIRC. It's not uncommon for teenage boys to have crushes on older women but we usually end up dating and mating with girls and young ladies our own age. The fantasy is nice but, again generally, older women think of teenage boys like sons and the idea of sex is sort of incestuous. The boy wouldn't mind, perhaps, but it takes two to tango.
Shining One Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Im 18 and i find myself more sexually attracted to much older women ages 35-50 especially the really curvy ones . I like girls around my age but i just like older ones better. I even talked to one yesterday in a casual conversation telling her how beautiful she was and even kissing her hand which she blushed but sadly she was married if she wasn't i would have gotten her number .I wanted to know are women this age are attracted to men my age (18-20) , the dos and donts to aproching one and properly flirting and dating her ?It's going to be tough at 18. I would say go to YOLO during Happy Hour, but they check ID there. That place is swarming with cougars. At least, it was when I was young enough to attract cougars.
Maleficent Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 I'm 34. Love younger men. No way in hell I am dating under 25. 1
todreaminblue Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 dating a guy who i sone barely legal and two younger than my sons is a no go zone.....i see them as boys and i dont date boys.....havent dated a boy ever actually......all the men i have dated and had relationships with have been older...regardless of the fact its younger guys who have asked me out..... theres this equation type thing where you divide the age by two and add seven years.....i wouldnt go under...but thats me.... and honestly an eighteen year old or a guy in hsi early twenties...i raised two already and they still dont listen.....not interested in raising a partner...i admiore yougn men with conviction heart and passion..... but i think of their mothers a lot...how as mothers they should feel blessed..and what wonderful women they must be...i often try to picture them....by looking at their sons...and see the mothers smiles........and i see those wonderful young men i have met....maternally...and the overly aggressive young men who try it on....i want to kick their ass for not listening.......i want to nurture the wonderful ones......i would like to look at guy i am with....and not want to pat him on the head and prefer to hold his hand instead...and be someone i can talk about everything with....not as a mother....but as a confidante......who can understand life a bit with experiences of his own..............deb 1
jen1447 Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Oh my god, I'm an "older woman." I like down to early-ish twenties. Younger than that feels weird. 18 is definitely still 'boy' status.
Author Jet96 Posted May 20, 2015 Author Posted May 20, 2015 Oh my god, I'm an "older woman." I like down to early-ish twenties. Younger than that feels weird. 18 is definitely still 'boy' status. age is just a number you wouldn't even consider giving an 18 year old a try ?
jen1447 Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Age is just a number but it's generally indicative of maturity. No, 18 would be a no-go. Sorry. Try again when you're 24 or so. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 At least try and keep it realistic in the mid to upper 20's. In all honesty, older women like a lot of mental stimulation. Not just with seduction, but also with good conversation. So realistically, what would you have in common and be able to talk to a 40-50 year old woman about? I've been with my fair share of older women. However, there were factors that played into it. I developed sexually at a very early age, Started puberty at age 9, and by the time I was 15, I was already like a 35 year old trapped in a teenagers body. It's funny, I actually have a light mustache in my 8th grade grad pic..LOL Also, I was able to have really good conversations with older women because all of my interests were older. So from a communication stand point and common interests, I seem way older than I was. But in today's society with kids hooked on social media, texting, video games, etc the average older woman would get bored to tears talking to a younger guy IMO.
todreaminblue Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 When I was around 21-22 older women used to hit on me like crazy. If you are a good looking younger guy, they won't mind your age. If women did not find younger men attractive, 30 year old women would not have went to see those crappy Twilight movies. i love those crappy twilight movies...they appeal to my want for a guy who sparkles in sunlight plays claire de lune recites poetry and actually has lived 150 + years old....and knows his plays......still would want an older version though in real life....and he doesnt have to know how to play claire de lune....the soundtrack to twilight is quite mature and often whimsical................deb
El Pallasso Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 If you're attractive, it doesn't matter what age you are or they are, women will be attracted to you. If you're ugly, it doesn't matter what age you are or they are, women will be unattracted to you. Simple as that.
Gaeta Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Try your chance online. I am 49 and I get the occasional message from 18 yo. Usually it's a shirtless picture showing a hot body, a few times I went 'damn that's hot!' lol, but I've never replied, I am sure plenty of other women with a little less reservation would though. It doesn't matter if you can have conversations or not, honestly if a 40ish woman get interested in you it has nothing to do with your ability to keep a conversation going.
still_an_Angel Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Young, hot bodies I can admire, but not to have sex with, I'm in my early 40s and have a teenaged son. It doesn't sit right with me. But there are a lot of single, childless women in their 40s to 50s who wouldn't connect your age to having a child in that age group. Good luck!
kendahke Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Im 18 and i find myself more sexually attracted to much older women ages 35-50 especially the really curvy ones . I like girls around my age but i just like older ones better. I even talked to one yesterday in a casual conversation telling her how beautiful she was and even kissing her hand which she blushed but sadly she was married if she wasn't i would have gotten her number .I wanted to know are women this age are attracted to men my age (18-20) , the dos and donts to aproching one and properly flirting and dating her ? I'm not about that life.
d0nnivain Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 By the time I was in my mid 20s anybody who still had the word teen attached to their age held no interest for me. Ironically when I was 24, DH was 19. Had we met then I would not have given him the time of day. At 18, a boy has nothing to offer me. Hell, I can't even legally take him out for a beer. I certainly wouldn't want to go to his HS prom. What would we talk about? It's more about life stage then age per se for me. If I was single again in my 50s would I date a guy in his 30s, maybe. I can't rule it out completely but until both parties are close to or over 30 the life experience is too great to bridge IMO. There are women who would love to reclaim their youth by sleeping with a child but I doubt that is the majority. FWIW, I can aesthetically look at a young man & think gee he's handsome but usually once somebody that young opens his mouth, I lose all interest.
PogoStick Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Your best chance with an older woman is to be her sex toy. Older women will lust after a young, very fit body, but for the most part your mind will be a turn off to them. Believe it or not, 18 is not a great age for men. You'll even have difficulty with girls who are 21-25. There are exceptions of course. Truth is, you are lacking in experience and knowledge. There is no way that you can already know how to conduct a quality relationship. You don't know anything about the world, or anything about women. What are you going to offer them? Your best move is to date women your age to learn HOW to have a relationship. Learn how to treat women, how to communicate, how to deal with disagreements. When you are hitting 25-30 you can take that experience and start impressing all kinds of women, as a MAN.
MissBee Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Im 18 and i find myself more sexually attracted to much older women ages 35-50 especially the really curvy ones . I like girls around my age but i just like older ones better. I even talked to one yesterday in a casual conversation telling her how beautiful she was and even kissing her hand which she blushed but sadly she was married if she wasn't i would have gotten her number .I wanted to know are women this age are attracted to men my age (18-20) , the dos and donts to aproching one and properly flirting and dating her ? A minority might be but most women 35-50 will unlikely be interested in or have much in common with an 18 year old. But you can flirt and see if they are receptive like you would with any other woman.
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