gerkin Posted May 20, 2015 Share Posted May 20, 2015 (edited) Me and this girl hit it off straight away after meeting her on a night out in university. we would talk to each other everyday for hours and would often be doing things together, with me staying round hers or her staying round mine. This went on for about a month, but we agreed we'd just "stay friends". Over the holidays we stay in contact, being on the phone for hours and texting daily. We admit we have feelings for each other, but say that we're just going to be friends as she was going to work abroad for a few months soon. She told me she has never since her ex spoke to somebody as much as me. We get back to university, ends up going back to normal. But she drops a bombshell that she slept with her ex over the holidays. With her ex they had a bad breakup. She was with him for 2 years and then cheated on him, ended up developing anxiety and had panic attacks for months after splitting up. Over the course of the next year, she'd sleep with him every month or so. I began to think that she never got over her ex. One night I see he texted her while I'm at hers. I end up leaving and she tells me that she doesn't have feelings for me. I was like I'm done with this, decided if she doesn't have feelings now she definitely won't ever. I cut off contact with her for a week. i slept with somebody that week and told her when she asked if I had. She said she was upset by this but I continued giving minimal contact. At the end of the week I get a call begging for me to come round to hers saying how much she misses me. I refused for a couple days but said I'd go for a drink with her. One thing led to another and I ended up sleeping with her round hers. She told me that I don't realise how much she cares and we had a good night. She was going away in a week for a few months so I was just whatever happens before she goes it doesn't really matter. Once again a few days later she tells me she has no feelings for me, almost as if she's pushing me away constantly. Once again I was just like whatever. Rings me up the next day and we end up on the phone for 4 hours. She tells me how it's "scary" how well we get on. Yesterday was the day before she went away. I went round hers for a couple hours, just chatting in general and things. She refused to kiss me, telling me it's "pointless". I left and she's now away for the next few months. I came to a few conclusions about this: -she really still cares about her ex, and didn't give a **** about me -she began to really start caring about me, so backed off because of how **** her past was with somebody she gen cared about -she's a mess I guess there's no point worrying about it now as I won't see her for a few months. But any thoughts? Edited May 20, 2015 by gerkin Link to post Share on other sites
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