Fallen_Angel Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 Awww Merin I am so sorry!!! I also thought things had gotten better between the two of you after the Mexico incident. You shouldn't ever, EVER settle for someone who wants to revolve his schedule around his needs and his needs only. Sounds like you've done nothing but bend over backwards for this guy (between the cooking and being there for his kids and such), and now he's saying things like "I don't like feeling guilty about doing what I want"?! Sheesh. I don't get angry easily, but hearing something like that would really piss me off. Relationships involve sacrifices from both parties, do they not?!? You always give such sound advice to the rest of us weary souls on LS. I'm sure you'll be able to get through this and come back stronger than before. Link to post Share on other sites
Digital Retoucher Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 Hey Merin, You don't know me but I have cruising this board for about 6 months. This thread is the only time I have posted. I wanted to tell you how great of a person you are.. I have gotten so much from your postings and I wanted you to know that I hurt for you also.. Fall back on all Love that is on the Shack. I'm Sorry that you are hurting........ DR Link to post Share on other sites
fundamental Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 Merin, You are a strong woman, you will make it through this no matter what happens. He is going to definitely regret his decision. Link to post Share on other sites
purple21 Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 Awww Merin - I'm so sorry you have to go through this - you definitely handled it in a strong way He might be going through a lot now - but he is gonna realize he made a huge mistake You have given me great advice before and you always do to everyone - we will all be here for you You will find someone that will treat you like the queen you are Link to post Share on other sites
simplyconfused Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 I'll keep it short. He's selfish and he's not worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted April 24, 2005 Author Share Posted April 24, 2005 You guys are so great... From the bottom of my heart.. Thank you. Digital...I'm touched that your one and only post would be to wish me well...I appreciate that. Fun..where have you been? LOL I've missed seeing you! Thanks ... I'm hangin in there;) Fallen.. Girl it's hard.. but yeah I guess deep down I know I made the right decision for me.. so I'll have to find peace in that.. Thanks Honey. Purple... Thank you.. isn't it funny that the *best* I can hope for right now is his misery.. LMAO thats so mean uh? Simply... well put... thank you! Once again... to all of you... mad, mad you have all helped me so much today.. Link to post Share on other sites
shamen Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 Merin, Sorry to hear that things haven't worked out... sounded like after Mexico that things were going better. Totally his loss. Peace girl! Like ya said, keep yourself busy. Link to post Share on other sites
purple21 Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 Originally posted by Merin Purple... Thank you.. isn't it funny that the *best* I can hope for right now is his misery.. LMAO thats so mean uh? no that's not mean - that's understandable he probably isn't getting too many good vibes from the ls group either Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 Merin, are (were) you in love with him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted April 24, 2005 Author Share Posted April 24, 2005 Originally posted by RecordProducer Merin, are (were) you in love with him? Yeah I did Love him.. but it wasn't enough I guess... Thanks Shamen.. I'm hangin in there, doing not so bad. Purple.. LOL Voo-doo sister, voo doo! Link to post Share on other sites
fundamental Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 Fun..where have you been? LOL I've missed seeing you! Thanks ... I'm hangin in there;) I have been around, just dealing with my own break up...almost getting over it..lol. It's really great that you are able to stay positive through all of this. I am very sure many of the posters on LS are reading your posts and understand that it happens to the best of us. Things will get better, stay positive cutie!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted April 24, 2005 Author Share Posted April 24, 2005 Originally posted by fundamental I have been around, just dealing with my own break up...almost getting over it..lol. It's really great that you are able to stay positive through all of this. I am very sure many of the posters on LS are reading your posts and understand that it happens to the best of us. Things will get better, stay positive cutie!!! Well I'm happy to see you back! Nice too that your getting better and feeling stronger on your break up... One of those things for me I suppose, I would rather laugh then cry you know? Ruins my mascara and it really doesn't change things... I'll be okay... I have My friends to Voo-Doo his silly a** for me! Back to the drawing board.... Link to post Share on other sites
BigB Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 Originally posted by Lonestar Then we'll troll for some guys to use and abuse. *volunteers to be used* Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 ((((hugs Merin))))) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted April 25, 2005 Author Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by brashgal ((((hugs Merin))))) Thank you Sweetie... I can use all the Love I can get about now... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted April 25, 2005 Author Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by BigB *volunteers to be used* Isn't that like telling everyone in your office AFTER a meeting about Sexual harrasment that you DON'T mind and they should feel free? LOL Thanks, ya made me smile..... Link to post Share on other sites
emotionsmessmeup Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 just wanna let u know i m here for ya.. u learn something from every relationship and it is one that you need at that point of time in ur life... if u r strong, be stronger Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted April 25, 2005 Author Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by emotionsmessmeup just wanna let u know i m here for ya.. u learn something from every relationship and it is one that you need at that point of time in ur life... if u r strong, be stronger Thank you.. I did learn a lot from my last (before this last.. ugh!) and it's why I ended it now rather than 2 years from now... Can't change anyone but myself... Link to post Share on other sites
BigB Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by Merin Isn't that like telling everyone in your office AFTER a meeting about Sexual harrasment that you DON'T mind and they should feel free? LOL Thanks, ya made me smile..... figured you could use a laugh about now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted April 25, 2005 Author Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by BigB figured you could use a laugh about now. Link to post Share on other sites
Nubemeister Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 I really admire you, from the posts I have read and I know that you are an awesome person... I know things will be ok, because you are awesome lol Take care and reach for the stars... Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Wow, Merin... I haven't seen your recent posts and didn't know that things were looking down... I am so sorry. If this individual saw even 10% of the Merin that we see here on LS, then he must have known how superior an person you are. Your personality, intelligence, compassion, humour, good sense, and strong-mindedness come through clearly. Not to mention you good looks etc. Either he couldn't see that (moron??) or didn't want it (bad judgment??) or couldn't handle it (wimp??). Not to get kinky on you, but if I weren't the 110% hetero female that I am, and were looking for a woman, I would want someone like you... I don't understand this breakup...it sounded pretty cool on BOTH sides. Is there a chance that neither of you was truly into the other? It sounds like you're hurting, please let us take a little of that off of you. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Wow babe, I missed this too. OK, well I feel even better now cuz I made you laugh earlier today! I'll just have to keep on doing that. It's his loss in the end. He didn't get who you are and he isn't giving enough. Oh, I could go on and on and on and on like the durcell bunny but I won't. (For once, the BUNNY not being used for a sexual statement!LOL!) Last thing I told him was I hoped he really regrets this... he said "I already do" Yup. He knows he's just lost a wonderful person. He isn't ready to be with you. He has TONS of growing up to do in so many ways...That and some serious f**k'n therapy! I mean that whole holiday thing that just happened too! Freaky! Try not to be too sad, stay busy, love your little people (I love how you call them that...I don't have kids yet, but I have two nieces, 6 and 3, who to me, are LIKE my kids - I call them Mini Me's. They LOVE it!) and spend time with friends...AND ofcourse just hang out on here! Anyway, I think you did the right thing for now. I think inside you knew in your gut something wasn't working out and yeh, the signs were coming faster and faster. Hang in there and try to have a good sleep! Hugs! PS I shall try my best to make you laugh again. I got TONS of odd, unique and just well, typical WWIU stories to keep ya on yer toes! Link to post Share on other sites
Impressive1 Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Merin, Sorry to hear about this. You are a beautiful girl with a good head on your shoulders you deserve better than this as I am sure you know. Although, that doesn't really help the way you are feeling now. I am certain he will call, but if he does what will your reaction be? Link to post Share on other sites
Israfil Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 ((((((((((Merin)))))))))) Just read this thread. How are you doing today, girl? I hope you are hanging in there. He's not good enough for you. Period. Finished. You deserve someone so much better! I mean, c'mon! The guy, because of his own insecurities, breaks up with you on a whim and leaves your stuff on his porch without so much as a attempt to save the relationship??? Two words: Rat Bastard. Link to post Share on other sites
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