Debster Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Merin, repeat this to yourself: Good riddance, commitment phobe. I have a nice set of tits. I am attractive. I am a nice person. I have great little people. I deserve more. Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Also add this to that mantra… "I have common sense and self-respect." That's hardly "pride," Merin. Rather virtues that have (and will) continue to take you far in life. Nice tits aside ( ); the first might get you a man's attention, but only the latter will keep it. You'll discover that soon enough when this butt-head pulls his brain out of his ayas and comes crawling back. I give him one month (max) before he cracks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted April 25, 2005 Author Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by EnigmaXOXO Also add this to that mantra… "I have common sense and self-respect." That's hardly "pride," Merin. Rather virtues that have (and will) continue to take you far in life. Nice tits aside ( ); the first might get you a man's attention, but only the latter will keep it. You'll discover that soon enough when this butt-head pulls his brain out of his ayas and comes crawling back. I give him one month (max) before he cracks. I Love you guys! Well... g'damn work has been busy today.. yay! LOL it's helped a lot... AND My ladies of the shack... what can I say? You're all amazing Women.. and have put a lot into perspective for me. He's text through out the day.. with "I'm a retard" "I'm sorry" and "I miss you" while it's nice to get those I still haven't heard from him on the phone TELL ME... Can we talk? I screwed up! OR What can I do to make this right with you? Soooooo still maintaining myself pretty well.... all things considered. Thanks Ladies... Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Mom calls this messages " ego massages", LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted April 25, 2005 Author Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by CurlyIam Mom calls this messages " ego massages", LOL LOL Got to love your Mom! Apparently especially when you work at Arby's and have been to the pen for her Link to post Share on other sites
Bubbles Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Good Call CurlyIam, Merin see? He's not messaging telling you what he's sorry about......he's still shining the light on himself. bubbles Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted April 25, 2005 Author Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by Bubbles Good Call CurlyIam, Merin see? He's not messaging telling you what he's sorry about......he's still shining the light on himself. bubbles Understood... BUT thats why I'm saying UNLESS or UNTIL he can get it out of his a** and be real... My position remains the same... Link to post Share on other sites
djones Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Merin, Those text messages in my book dont count for anything, he is so busy that he cant pick up a phone and say that to you. This is not high school BS....whats there to be scared of if you love this person and you want to stay with them....that crap yeah sure when you are like 16 you want to experience different people but now when you are older what is one looking for? you know you find someone there is more to that person than what you see ie nice rack ect , there is a mind, which does not fade and its the mind that makes a relationship exciting....this guy was lucky to have you are smart (your LS post advice proves that) and you are attractive so whats there to be scared of? ....Well too bad for him......take care Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted April 25, 2005 Author Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by djones Merin, Those text messages in my book dont count for anything, he is so busy that he cant pick up a phone and say that to you. This is not high school BS....whats there to be scared of if you love this person and you want to stay with them....that crap yeah sure when you are like 16 you want to experience different people but now when you are older what is one looking for? you know you find someone there is more to that person than what you see ie nice rack ect , there is a mind, which does not fade and its the mind that makes a relationship exciting....this guy was lucky to have you are smart (your LS post advice proves that) and you are attractive so whats there to be scared of? ....Well too bad for him......take care Thanks Djones... Again it's my feeling that IF he is serious he will do more than text message me.. until then, I'm staying where I'm at so to speak... What is he scared of... he has always been afraid of loosing... that IF he gave me all his heart it would be taken from him... but what he didn't count on or understand until maybe this past weekend... is when you care about someone the mean doesn't always justify the end... that it still hurts when you care about someone and you no longer feel thier presence.... it doesn't matter anymore who did what to who, or who ended it with who... when the heart cares and the person matters... it leaves an empty feeling that won't go away.... Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by Debster Merin, repeat this to yourself: Good riddance, commitment phobe. I have a nice set of tits. I am attractive. I am a nice person. I have great little people. I deserve more. Agreed except the tits thing. She doesn't need to tell herself that, she already knows it. I think she needs to concentrate on everything you said except that. Looks are obviously not an issue for Marin. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted April 25, 2005 Author Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC Agreed except the tits thing. She doesn't need to tell herself that, she already knows it. I think she needs to concentrate on everything you said except that. Looks are obviously not an issue for Marin. Most everything is an issue for me... LOL Honestly, I know i'm a good person... just been throu a lot, so yeah it takes a toll and you aquire baggage... Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 I can't wait to see what else he does. He will too- it's driving him absolutely crazy that you're not answering him!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted April 26, 2005 Author Share Posted April 26, 2005 Well... I NEVER spoke to him yesterday... Apparently all he was willing to do was some lame text messages. He had text me and asked if he could call me after he got off work.. he would love to talk to me blah blah.. I said Ok He gets off at 5.. he didn't text me again until 6 said he was busy he would call me in an hour... I said Ok He text me about 45 minutes later said he was going out to eat (WTF) and he would call me in 2 hours... I said.. ya know what.. thats okay, you've got other things to do, good to go, have a good night... He text me again said I'll call you when I get home probably an hour or so OKAY? I said thats okay, don't sweat it... For Godsake it would've been after 9 p.m!!!! Never heard from him again. Obviously this isn't to important to him... so f'ck it. Once again he has shown where I am in the priorities... *Merin gets ready to go out on Friday Night with her GF's.. shake her a** and get her drink on* What a retard he is Link to post Share on other sites
LittleMiss Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 Well, now I'm even more sure that this guy is a complete idiot. He had all those chances to try and talk things out and he blew you off. As for Friday night, Hell Ya! Go out and party it up! Have some fun with the girls and shake ya ass till it hurts! Link to post Share on other sites
djones Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 Hey Merin, f*** him and the horse that he rode on....he cant even call you and he is so busy that he has to just text message you and then say I'll call after he eats, what kind of s*** is that?......he does not value you at all there is no way if someone cares for someone that they would not make an effort to call even if its just for 2 *****en mins to say hey "hon I am sorry I am busy I cant chat long but I wanted to call you to let you know and to say hey" thats all that is needed none of this text bull shyt......Merin you are better off without this tool!!!........this goof ball gives us good guys a bad reputation..... Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 He's so doing this on purpose. He's trying to keep you hanging on. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 Originally posted by tiki He's so doing this on purpose. He's trying to keep you hanging on. i agree, i've done this before. sometimes when i was younger and was "done" with a woman and she was still into me i'd pretend i'm still into her just to play with her, not unlike a cat plays with a toy mouse. i dont' think it is a very nice thing to do anymore, however. Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 Merin girl..thats all you needed. Walk away and don't look back. You know he is up to no good..and if you had left him and if he wanted you so bad..girl you know he would have been at your door step beggin for you back right after work!!! NC his a$$ and dont look back! Link to post Share on other sites
NiCoLe20 Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 hes probably nervous to talk to you ont he phone... or doesnt know what to say.... if he calls let it go to the voicemail, dont pick it up right away and see if he leaves a message... if he texts you with ''i miss you'' or ''im sorry'' or stuff like that just reply once with ''actions speak louder than words'' ... that will tell him that YOU WANT him to show you he's sorry and stuff like that... if you actually want to give the relationship another shot, say this...and mean it. tell him he has to prove this to you, and he needs to change his ways to make this relationship work! Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 Sorry I came in late on this. My home puter is on the fritz and I didn't come to work monday because my mom had a bad car accident. Enough excuses, YOU deserve better babydoll. Much love to ya. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted April 26, 2005 Author Share Posted April 26, 2005 Agreed with all... I know this sh*t will bother him sooner or later... my guess on Friday when his dumb a** has his kids and he CAN'T go out anywhere BUT he knows I CAN AND I WILL! LOL It always bothered him when we went out how guys would look at me or try to hit on me when he was standing right next to me... WELL now he can sit there by his damn self without my help this weekend and KNOW for real that he ISN'T standing there anymore and the guys will still be all about it. I'm done. Thanks you guys.. Link to post Share on other sites
Bubbles Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 Yep he's trying to play you like a fiddle! He just wanted to call you to see if you would be at home! That's all he wanted. What a freakin' loser......geez and I thought there was only one of my ex b/f!!!! Crap........they made more of him!!!! My ex did that to me when we were fighting. He did'nt want me but he did'nt want anyone else to have me either! My ex to this day still thinks that I left him for "someone else" he will never accept the fact that it was his actions that drove me away or better said his "Lack of actions" bubbles Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 26, 2005 Share Posted April 26, 2005 Originally posted by Merin LOL It always bothered him when we went out how guys would look at me or try to hit on me when he was standing right next to me... yeah, MERIN, that's a big big problem with dating babes. i thinks i'll just stick with fat ugly women from now on on 2nd thought, NAAAAH!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted April 26, 2005 Author Share Posted April 26, 2005 Originally posted by Bubbles Yep he's trying to play you like a fiddle! He just wanted to call you to see if you would be at home! That's all he wanted. What a freakin' loser......geez and I thought there was only one of my ex b/f!!!! Crap........they made more of him!!!! My ex did that to me when we were fighting. He did'nt want me but he did'nt want anyone else to have me either! My ex to this day still thinks that I left him for "someone else" he will never accept the fact that it was his actions that drove me away or better said his "Lack of actions" bubbles Know whats funny here... My EXBF always said he wasn't down for drama... Wow look at the MOFO who creates it in his own life uh? This is the reason his EXW divorced him... HE was more important than THEM... Good to know some things never change... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Merin Posted April 26, 2005 Author Share Posted April 26, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale yeah, MERIN, that's a big big problem with dating babes. i thinks i'll just stick with fat ugly women from now on on 2nd thought, NAAAAH!! LMAO When I told my sister about this behaviour she said "He should stick to girls no one else wants if he's that freakin insecure" Amen! Link to post Share on other sites
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