i am gutted Posted May 23, 2015 Share Posted May 23, 2015 a little part of me sort of thought he would acknowledge my birthday ............ he turned up today while I was out and saw the balloons and pressies I got. he called again in the afternoon to pick up his mail and said happy birthday. I replied and said that it was yesterday. he had sort of a stupid smirk on his face. I know it sounds dum but I feel a bit crap that he didn't seem to care. I know I know I shouldn't be worrying about it but it does bite a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted May 23, 2015 Share Posted May 23, 2015 Happy yesterday birthday. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
kenmore Posted May 23, 2015 Share Posted May 23, 2015 It's not dumb at all HUGS! I acknowledged all of our special occasions and my wife did too up to a point. On my birthday she called me and sang happy birthday to me, then invited me over for dinner. That was early Feb. Our anniversary was late Feb and when I sent her a gift, she texted me to please stop sending her things. I told her I was confused because we had been exchanging things, she invited me over for my birthday and I figured we'd keep on doing that. Also she had told me Christmas eve that she wasn't sure she wanted a divorce. She said she "didn't recall saying that and on my birthday she was just being nice." Obviously in those couple weeks, the niceness stopped. Perhaps it's a good thing he didn't. I didn't hear anything for our anniversary and though it hurt, I think it helped me to realize that we're really done. If you two are really done, then the sooner you both stop, the better. I do know it's painful though. Another hug!! Ken P.S. happy belated birthday. Link to post Share on other sites
Fleur de cactus Posted May 23, 2015 Share Posted May 23, 2015 Happy Belated Birthday! Link to post Share on other sites
Author i am gutted Posted May 24, 2015 Author Share Posted May 24, 2015 (edited) It's not dumb at all HUGS! I acknowledged all of our special occasions and my wife did too up to a point. On my birthday she called me and sang happy birthday to me, then invited me over for dinner. That was early Feb. Our anniversary was late Feb and when I sent her a gift, she texted me to please stop sending her things. I told her I was confused because we had been exchanging things, she invited me over for my birthday and I figured we'd keep on doing that. Also she had told me Christmas eve that she wasn't sure she wanted a divorce. She said she "didn't recall saying that and on my birthday she was just being nice." Obviously in those couple weeks, the niceness stopped. Perhaps it's a good thing he didn't. I didn't hear anything for our anniversary and though it hurt, I think it helped me to realize that we're really done. If you two are really done, then the sooner you both stop, the better. I do know it's painful though. Another hug!! Ken P.S. happy belated birthday. hi KEn. yea it did hurt a bit......after all this time to not acknowledge it but then like you said, the sooner it stops the better. he in his own world. I have to get used to mine. just another one of the "firsts" I suppose. happy belated birthday to you too, hugs too! Edited May 24, 2015 by i am gutted spelling mistake 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted May 24, 2015 Share Posted May 24, 2015 Hmm, I smell a Spa Day!! Time to pamper yourself and celebrate your birthday. Happy belated. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kenmore Posted May 29, 2015 Share Posted May 29, 2015 hi KEn. yea it did hurt a bit......after all this time to not acknowledge it but then like you said, the sooner it stops the better. he in his own world. I have to get used to mine. just another one of the "firsts" I suppose. happy belated birthday to you too, hugs too! Yes,the dreaded firsts! You will get used to your world and stop caring about his. It's a slow agonizing process but it's a steady one and will have a good ending if you let it. The more you let go, the freer you feel until one day you realize you have a whole life to live and you don't need him to enjoy it! If he wished you a happy birthday it would have been a sucker punch anyway. Thank you for your kind birthday wishes, I hope you're feeling better! Ken 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Haerts Posted May 29, 2015 Share Posted May 29, 2015 I completely understand. After all, you weren't just lovers; you were friends too. I certainly wouldn't expect and/or do anything for anniversary, like Ken (hahaha, not judging, that's just something I wouldn't wait for), but come on, it's your birthday, it doesn't hurt to say some nice words to someone you use to share your life with. Anyway, Ken has a great point though: had he said happy b-day to you, how would you feel? Maybe it being late makes it easier to move on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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