Satu Posted July 16, 2015 Share Posted July 16, 2015 I believe that we benefit from all of our experiences, even the 'bad' ones. Some painful experiences help us to develop empathy and compassion for others. I wouldn't change anything I've experienced, because everything brought to where I am now, where I want to be, living my dream. **************************************************************** "If we affirm one single moment, we thus affirm not only ourselves but all existence. For nothing is self-sufficient, neither in us ourselves nor in things; and if our soul has trembled with happiness and sounded like a harp string just once, all eternity was needed to produce this one event—and in this single moment of affirmation all eternity was called good, redeemed, justified, and affirmed." - Friedrich Nietzsche Amor Fati "Amor fati is a Latin phrase that may be loosely translated as "love of fate" or "love of one's fate". It is used to describe an attitude in which one sees everything that happens in one's life, including suffering and loss, as good or, at the very least, necessary, in that they are among the facts of one's life and existence, so they are always necessarily there whether one likes them or not. Moreover, amor fati is characterized by an acceptance of the events or situations that occur in one's life. This acceptance does not necessarily preclude an attempt at change or improvement, but rather, it can be seen to be along the lines of what Nietzsche means by the concept of "eternal recurrence": a sense of contentment with one's life and an acceptance of it, such that one could live exactly the same life, in all its minute details, over and over for all eternity." Source here. "I want to learn more and more to see as beautiful what is necessary in things; then I shall be one of those who make things beautiful. Amor fati: let that be my love henceforth! I do not want to wage war against what is ugly. I do not want to accuse; I do not even want to accuse those who accuse. Looking away shall be my only negation. And all in all and on the whole: some day I wish to be only a Yes-sayer." - Friedrich Nietzsche. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RobbieA Posted July 16, 2015 Author Share Posted July 16, 2015 I believe that we benefit from all of our experiences, even the 'bad' ones. Some painful experiences help us to develop empathy and compassion for others. I wouldn't change anything I've experienced, because everything brought to where I am now, where I want to be, living my dream. **************************************************************** "If we affirm one single moment, we thus affirm not only ourselves but all existence. For nothing is self-sufficient, neither in us ourselves nor in things; and if our soul has trembled with happiness and sounded like a harp string just once, all eternity was needed to produce this one event—and in this single moment of affirmation all eternity was called good, redeemed, justified, and affirmed." - Friedrich Nietzsche Amor Fati "Amor fati is a Latin phrase that may be loosely translated as "love of fate" or "love of one's fate". It is used to describe an attitude in which one sees everything that happens in one's life, including suffering and loss, as good or, at the very least, necessary, in that they are among the facts of one's life and existence, so they are always necessarily there whether one likes them or not. Moreover, amor fati is characterized by an acceptance of the events or situations that occur in one's life. This acceptance does not necessarily preclude an attempt at change or improvement, but rather, it can be seen to be along the lines of what Nietzsche means by the concept of "eternal recurrence": a sense of contentment with one's life and an acceptance of it, such that one could live exactly the same life, in all its minute details, over and over for all eternity." Source here. "I want to learn more and more to see as beautiful what is necessary in things; then I shall be one of those who make things beautiful. Amor fati: let that be my love henceforth! I do not want to wage war against what is ugly. I do not want to accuse; I do not even want to accuse those who accuse. Looking away shall be my only negation. And all in all and on the whole: some day I wish to be only a Yes-sayer." - Friedrich Nietzsche. You are a very kind person, and I thank you for that. Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted July 16, 2015 Share Posted July 16, 2015 You are a very kind person, and I thank you for that. So are you, and I thank you too. Link to post Share on other sites
Chrisstro6692 Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 RobbieA, Man I read your thread and I felt like I had been cheated on as well. Anyone who has served in a combat environment has a lot of sympathy for you. I was a combat Platoon Leader in the Army on the Syrian border for awhile. I had one of my soldiers go through something similar. He found out while he was in country, he cried like a baby for days. We had to keep a close watch on him. He pulled through it and made it back home OK. He is now married, to a different girl and is doing great. When I heard your story it made me tear up. You handled the situation better than a lot of people would have. One thing that I have learned through life and from being in the military, is that YOU can not control how other people act, only how YOU act to the situation that you are given. It is better for you to have learned how she is now than to have found out her true character ten years down the road when you have children involved. This whether you believe it or not was a blessing. You may not see it now, but later on in life you will. If a person does not have Integrity, if you cannot trust someone, nothing else they do really matters. GOD Bless V/R Chrisstro6692 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RobbieA Posted July 20, 2015 Author Share Posted July 20, 2015 RobbieA, Man I read your thread and I felt like I had been cheated on as well. Anyone who has served in a combat environment has a lot of sympathy for you. I was a combat Platoon Leader in the Army on the Syrian border for awhile. I had one of my soldiers go through something similar. He found out while he was in country, he cried like a baby for days. We had to keep a close watch on him. He pulled through it and made it back home OK. He is now married, to a different girl and is doing great. When I heard your story it made me tear up. You handled the situation better than a lot of people would have. One thing that I have learned through life and from being in the military, is that YOU can not control how other people act, only how YOU act to the situation that you are given. It is better for you to have learned how she is now than to have found out her true character ten years down the road when you have children involved. This whether you believe it or not was a blessing. You may not see it now, but later on in life you will. If a person does not have Integrity, if you cannot trust someone, nothing else they do really matters. GOD Bless V/R Chrisstro6692 Hey thank you very much. Some days are better then others. As time goes on, the clarity of the situation becomes more apparent. Rebounding from this type of emotional trauma is not easy. I have to constantly stay busy, stay positive, and lastly know that there is a light at the end of this tunnel (with my soul mate waiting at the end). Link to post Share on other sites
Cephalopod Posted July 21, 2015 Share Posted July 21, 2015 I admire you soldiers so much. You guys sacrifice so much to protect the rest of us. Pisses me off when you get screwed over by unfaithful spouses and partners. Are you in any kind of PTSD treatment or therapy? If not, you should be. Take advantage of the Marine counselor you have available. Talk to someone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RobbieA Posted July 22, 2015 Author Share Posted July 22, 2015 I admire you soldiers so much. You guys sacrifice so much to protect the rest of us. Pisses me off when you get screwed over by unfaithful spouses and partners. Are you in any kind of PTSD treatment or therapy? If not, you should be. Take advantage of the Marine counselor you have available. Talk to someone. I go to a therapist in regards to the breakup, I do not have PTSD or any symptoms associated with it however I have friends who do. Thank you for the kind words Cephalopod. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RobbieA Posted August 6, 2015 Author Share Posted August 6, 2015 I have not posted on here for a while. Just want to let the people who followed my thread know that I am doing great. I feel good. I have concentrating on me, hitting the gym, and hanging out with friends. The feeling of gloom and doom is subsiding. The wedding was supposed to next month. Instead of mourning that day, I will be celebrating dodging a huge bullet by going on a cruise with friends. I think after the cruise, I am going to try and start dating again and I will be accepting resumes and letters of interest Link to post Share on other sites
autumnnight Posted August 6, 2015 Share Posted August 6, 2015 Good for you! You sound like you are doing well. Have fun on your cruise and in your quest for Ms. Wonderful Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted August 6, 2015 Share Posted August 6, 2015 Robbie that is such great news! I'm glad you've come back and checked in. Let us know how the cruise goes. You never know; you might meet someone! Any word on how your Ex is fairing? Link to post Share on other sites
Author RobbieA Posted August 6, 2015 Author Share Posted August 6, 2015 Ms. Wonderful is out there, I truly believe that. As crazy as this sounds, she seeing someone else. Poor guy has no idea what he is in for. Her friends and I still keep in touch and I kind of told them eloquently that I didn't want to hear about her anymore. That is the past, the rear view. I am going to have to be super selective now. Thank you for the kind words. Link to post Share on other sites
autumnnight Posted August 6, 2015 Share Posted August 6, 2015 Ms. Wonderful is out there, I truly believe that. As crazy as this sounds, she seeing someone else. Poor guy has no idea what he is in for. Her friends and I still keep in touch and I kind of told them eloquently that I didn't want to hear about her anymore. That is the past, the rear view. I am going to have to be super selective now. Thank you for the kind words. Is that YOU??? Oh to be 15-20 years younger lol You'll have NO trouble Link to post Share on other sites
Author RobbieA Posted August 6, 2015 Author Share Posted August 6, 2015 Is that YOU??? Oh to be 15-20 years younger lol You'll have NO trouble There is always trouble! No more cheaters! No more people who condone cheating like it is a extracurricular activity! I just hope things go well. Link to post Share on other sites
TX-SC Posted August 6, 2015 Share Posted August 6, 2015 You, sir, are my hero! You could not have handled that situation any better than you did. I too had a fiance cheat on me. I called off the wedding and we broke up. I eventually met someone new. We have now been married for twenty years and have two great kids. Your future is bright. Take it from my experience, one day you will look back on this breakup and thank God that you found out when you did. Ms. Right is out there right now. The excitement comes in not knowing WHEN she will show up. My wife knocked me off my feet when I met her. Good luck my friend. Just remember your pain and promise to never inflict that on your wife or GF in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted August 6, 2015 Share Posted August 6, 2015 Ms. Wonderful is out there, I truly believe that. As crazy as this sounds, she seeing someone else. Poor guy has no idea what he is in for. Her friends and I still keep in touch and I kind of told them eloquently that I didn't want to hear about her anymore. That is the past, the rear view. I am going to have to be super selective now. Thank you for the kind words. You're doing great. Make it clear that cheating will always be a dealbreaker for you . Link to post Share on other sites
Author RobbieA Posted August 6, 2015 Author Share Posted August 6, 2015 You, sir, are my hero! You could not have handled that situation any better than you did. I too had a fiance cheat on me. I called off the wedding and we broke up. I eventually met someone new. We have now been married for twenty years and have two great kids. Your future is bright. Take it from my experience, one day you will look back on this breakup and thank God that you found out when you did. Ms. Right is out there right now. The excitement comes in not knowing WHEN she will show up. My wife knocked me off my feet when I met her. Good luck my friend. Just remember your pain and promise to never inflict that on your wife or GF in the future. Well I certainly hope that I don't have a wife and girlfriend lol. I am taking that pain and turning into a learning experience and positive energy. Link to post Share on other sites
qubist Posted August 6, 2015 Share Posted August 6, 2015 I'm glad that you are doing good it makes me feel good to hearr from people who were in such a bad situation and rebound from it stronger I wish you good luck in your adventure. I hope you learned some lessons. hopefully your next R will be happier. I'm also happy she's moved on and dating somebody, i don't believe on the "once a cheater always a cheater" saying. it might apply to some but I consider cheating a flaw in personality that can be overcome I wish that she learned her lesson too good luck Link to post Share on other sites
10thengineerharrison Posted August 7, 2015 Share Posted August 7, 2015 You're a man of high integrity. Your posts exude integrity. You're also a thoughtful, empathetic person. After this experience, the wisdom you've gained will sustain you in future relationships. Ms Right is going to be one happy gal. I don't know what it is with Marines. Maybe my sample is too small, I don't know. I have a friend I've only known a little over a year who was a sniper in Iraq. He's got more integrity in his little finger than most people have in their whole being. About a month ago, we got into a silly argument over how to get unstuck off-road. I just figured I couldn't talk about that subject with him, because he formulated his opinions while being shot at, bombed, or otherwise in a heck of a hurry. But last weekend, out of the blue, he apologized for being an @$$ about it. I was so surprised I didn't know how to respond. But we're back on track and all is good. He was cheated on by his 10-year girlfriend while he was in Iraq. He found out about it while recovering from wounds in a hospital in Germany. She couldn't understand why he didn't want to see her anymore. He's got a new girlfriend who adores him, and he's very respectful and caring of her. It's neat. -10th Engineer Harrison. Link to post Share on other sites
darkbloom Posted August 7, 2015 Share Posted August 7, 2015 Robbie, You've got to stop with these avatar photos. The graceful way you handled your situation + your photos are causing all the loveshack girls to fall in love. Link to post Share on other sites
Cephalopod Posted August 7, 2015 Share Posted August 7, 2015 You're a handsome man. I see lots of sex with hot women in your near future. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RobbieA Posted August 7, 2015 Author Share Posted August 7, 2015 Everyone thank you for being so supportive. Speaking of sex with hot women. I am not really the one to sleep around, but lately I have been a lot better and my libido is threw the roof. I know, TMI. If I dated casually to seek sex would that make me a less desirable person? I mean usually I wait until I am comfortable or she is comfortable but it hasn't really been in a casual context. So what I am asking is would I considered a scumbag if I had a one night stand? Or a friends with benefits ? Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted August 7, 2015 Share Posted August 7, 2015 So what I am asking is would I considered a scumbag if I had a one night stand? Or a friends with benefits ? I don't think so, but I'm the site slut... Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted August 7, 2015 Share Posted August 7, 2015 Don't hurt someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RobbieA Posted August 7, 2015 Author Share Posted August 7, 2015 Don't hurt someone else. That is my biggest fear. I guess I am being selfish. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RobbieA Posted August 7, 2015 Author Share Posted August 7, 2015 I don't think so, but I'm the site slut... I don't believe that for one second! Link to post Share on other sites
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