Getting Sane Again

[MM1234]

Really because I thought ending it first would be the way to go then telling W. Did I read that wrong ?

 

You should've told your wife the very same day you hit "send" on the email to your AP.

[Sandy43]

I can tell you from experience that it would have made things a little better for me if I had found out about my husbands affair from him instead of doing my own investigation and confronting him. Also it is a sore point with me that I ended his affair by finding out, it would have made a big difference to me if he had ended it himself before I found out.

[violet1]

Really because I thought ending it first would be the way to go then telling W. Did I read that wrong ?

I suggested that you ended the A before you tell your W as well. I meant leaving no doors open. I assumed you were going to go complete NC, block, and delete OW's contact information.

[66Charger]

One of the things I read on here is that women feel female WS get hammered harder than a male ws. This is true

 

The reason why is that the things we would say to a woman are entirely different than what we would say to this OP. With females, BS(male) will use the 2x4 approach. Try to get her to stop, confess, see the light. Maybe a little to harshly. With a male bs, we know that a man cheater is unworthy, we ignore him. Blacklist. Give him the small office with no window. Or we simply say.

 

You sir, are a coward. You have no honor. You squeam OMG over your AP and then go kiss your wife. Get your comfort and support from the other gender WS. Disgusting.

 

That's how we feel about male cheaters. Other than wanting to punch them in the face

 

William you may suspend or block me now.

Edited May 29, 2015 by 66Charger

[TheOneYouHate]

One of the things I read on here is that women feel female WS get hammered harder than a male ws. This is true

 

The reason why is that the things we would say to a woman are entirely different than what we would say to this OP. With females, BS(male) will use the 2x4 approach. Try to get her to stop, confess, see the light. Maybe a little to harshly. With a male bs, we know that a man cheater is unworthy, we ignore him. Blacklist. Give him the small office with no window. Or we simply say.

 

You sir, are a coward. You have no honor. You squeam OMG over your AP and then go kiss your wife. Get your comfort and support from the other gender WS. Disgusting.

 

That's how we feel about male cheaters. Other than wanting to punch them in the face

 

William you may suspend or block me now.

 

Well that that is harsh but true. I can take it, I appreciate your honesty and candor and I hope William doesn't block you. I also know that women WS are cut a lot more slack than their male counterparts. Yes I do do cry OMG, and worry about the OW, I am a human and I do have feelings and even though you may hate me for what I have done, I am in some way trying to do the right thing. Whether that suits your value system or not. I am sorry you hate me, but I am being as honest as possible and seeking to learn on here.

Edited May 29, 2015 by TheOneYouHate

[66Charger]

The bible says hate the sin, not the sinner. I don't hate you man, but I hate what you do, especially to your wife. Make a decision either way and stick with it. Your wife should not be second choice. If she is, then you should not be her husband.

[violet1]

The bible says hate the sin, not the sinner. I don't hate you man, but I hate what you do, especially to your wife. Make a decision either way and stick with it. Your wife should not be second choice. If she is, then you should not be her husband.

I do agree with this. I was a bit offended by your remark about getting support from female WS's though. Why does gender have to be mentioned?? I'm a former WS and I support all WS's who are trying to improve themselves regardless of gender. There's really not that many male FWS's who post.

[66Charger]

Violet. My original post on this thread is about the difference in gender as it regards to WS.

MOST (not all) males will post on a female WS thread, whether its the 2x4 approach or support and comfort, but rarely on a male cheaters thread and I listed my reasons why.

Was it a dig against the one you hate? Sure it was. It was basically saying stop whining and get it together. That's what a man would say to another man..

 

He understood.