AngelEyz Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 I think I am a very attractive woman. I am nice, sweet, caring and I'm a good listener and I always make sure a man is satisfied in bed. however, no matter how hard I try I can't find anyone that wants to date me. Or the ones that want to date me are complete losers and I don't want them. How can I get men to take me as more of girlfriend material than wham bam thank you maam material? I'm so depressed over this. Link to post Share on other sites
macoxp Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 see here. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t60450/15-2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AngelEyz Posted April 25, 2005 Author Share Posted April 25, 2005 I read all of that already. I think i fit what most guys are looking for besides that I might be a bit high maintenance. Its just that guys seem really interested in me only for sex. How can i make them see me as more than that? Help me please. Link to post Share on other sites
Impressive1 Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 I know exactly how you feel. I would like to know the same answer, it seems all men want just sex with no emotional involvement. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by AngelEyz I read all of that already. I think i fit what most guys are looking for besides that I might be a bit high maintenance. Its just that guys seem really interested in me only for sex. How can i make them see me as more than that? Help me please. Make them work to earn you.... Link to post Share on other sites
purple21 Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 that's all I met the last 6 months as well - Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by Impressive1 I know exactly how you feel. I would like to know the same answer, it seems all men want just sex with no emotional involvement. Not true. I don't. What I miss most about my Ex is her companionship. Since she's gone, half of me is missing...and I lost my best friend Link to post Share on other sites
macoxp Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Just play a little hard to get and everything will work out fine. Geez. I'm not going to write a psychology paper on why it works for you (witch I could, but I won't) JUST GET OUT THERE ARE DO IT! Link to post Share on other sites
Impressive1 Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC Not true. I don't. What I miss most about my Ex is her companionship. Since she's gone, half of me is missing...and I lost my best friend Are you one in a million or what? ha It seems that men move on with their feelings alot faster by just screwing someone else. Women, well I think most of us carry that torch until we find another to love not just have sex with. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by Impressive1 Are you one in a million or what? ha The Ex would call me that, often. It seems that men move on with their feelings alot faster by just screwing someone else. Women, well I think most of us carry that torch until we find another to love not just have sex with. Well, I guess I am more like a woman in that respect. I wasn't always. When I was younger (18-30), it was all about as much sex as I could have. At 31, it finally hit me how empty I was without a relationship. Sex allows for a fleeting moment of amnesia. Then it comes right back. A new relationship is the best cure to forget someone else. My problem is now that I am 36 and have tasted what a true relationship should be like, I feel it's going to be even harder for me to meet someone. And I do believe this last relationship (1 year invested) was punishment for my past transgressions. I definitely deserve it, though the pill is still bitter to swallow. Link to post Share on other sites
Impressive1 Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Well, I'm 30 and I know that I miss being in real realationship. My ex and I were together for over 5 years, it took me over 3 more to actually want and find someone to date again. But then I recently found out that guy is an ass too so, I'm back to square one. I agree the pill is hard to swallow. Link to post Share on other sites
Auz Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 the one thing I also miss most about my gfriend is the companionship. The physical side was all a bonus, but i just miss having someone that would call me about how their day was going, and to see what I was up to. I miss having someone to call when I was bored or tired or frustrated. I miss having someone who would want to go see a band, not just because they liked the band, but becauseI was going there too. The fact that they loved having me around regardless of what we were doing and were happy to see me all the time. Man how I miss that so much Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by Auz the one thing I also miss most about my gfriend is the companionship. The physical side was all a bonus, but i just miss having someone that would call me about how their day was going, and to see what I was up to. I miss having someone to call when I was bored or tired or frustrated. I miss having someone who would want to go see a band, not just because they liked the band, but becauseI was going there too. The fact that they loved having me around regardless of what we were doing and were happy to see me all the time. Man how I miss that so much Agreed. I miss curling up on the couch with her, laying next to her in bed and just talking, riding our bikes (motorcycles) together, all the dinners we went to, hanging out and just talking about life, etc. I miss her so much.... Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Where are you meeting these guys, Angel? Link to post Share on other sites
BigB Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC Not true. I don't. What I miss most about my Ex is her companionship. Since she's gone, half of me is missing...and I lost my best friend I'm the same way.. If I had to choose between a relationship with no sex, and sex only, I'd probably choose the relationship. AngelEyz: Maybe try meeting guys in different places than you normally do. Or use a no sex for X number of months rule as a filter for the guys who only want sex? Link to post Share on other sites
april Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Why can't I find a boyfriend? It's like you said in your other thread : your obvious breast implants are a turn-off to men. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t61249/ It's hard for them to take you seriously, therefore you are not girlfriend material. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AngelEyz Posted April 25, 2005 Author Share Posted April 25, 2005 You all are going to make me cry. I was once in a relationship like that and after he broke up with me i have never been the same. I agree that I will carry that torch until i find another to LOVE not just to bang. that does nothing for me but it seems to be all I can get. Westernxer, I meet guys in school, work, all sorts of places. No matter where i go i always end up with the same problem. they want me for sex. I also try to wait it out but once they get close to me enough to where I think i can have sex with them they then refer to me as a "eff buddy" or fwb. They don't want to seem to take it any further. I have even went for older men and they do the same thing to me so I don't know what it is about me or what I am doing wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AngelEyz Posted April 25, 2005 Author Share Posted April 25, 2005 april maybe that is true but i can't change my appearance. I am what I am. I actually got the implants while I was with my ex. What can I reasonably do to change to where guys will see me as a girlfriend? I can't get the implants taken out because of the pain of it and also because I was originally a 36A and also not symmetrical. Any reasonable advice for me? Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by april It's like you said in your other thread : your obvious breast implants are a turn-off to men. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t61249/ It's hard for them to take you seriously, therefore you are not girlfriend material. Not only is this cold, it's wrong. There ARE some men who can look past fake boobs. The problem may have nothing to do with her appearance. Link to post Share on other sites
BigB Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by april Why can't I find a boyfriend? It's like you said in your other thread : your obvious breast implants are a turn-off to men. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t61249/ It's hard for them to take you seriously, therefore you are not girlfriend material. I wouldn't think that way, maybe some guys do I guess.... Sounds like she got them for a good reason. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by AngelEyz april maybe that is true but i can't change my appearance. I am what I am. I actually got the implants while I was with my ex. What can I reasonably do to change to where guys will see me as a girlfriend? I can't get the implants taken out because of the pain of it and also because I was originally a 36A and also not symmetrical. Any reasonable advice for me? Play harder to get. Make them earn your time. Don't give them the inclination you WANT sex. When a subject turns to sex, CHANGE the subject. Don't sleep with them within the first 3 months of steady dating. If you can't get a man interested in your heart and soul - who you are - then you will have a hard time finding a soulmate. They are out there, just very hard to find. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 I heard you can find a lot of rational guys at a bar. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer I heard you can find a lot of rational guys at a bar. Heh, that's one of the reasons I quit performing live.... Link to post Share on other sites
Impressive1 Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 I don't really think your implants would be a problem. But what do I know... ha Link to post Share on other sites
Author AngelEyz Posted April 25, 2005 Author Share Posted April 25, 2005 These are some good suggestions. I guess I can tend to let things go too far sexually at too early of a time. I do wait at least a month in most cases however, after dating steadily. Even then, they will eventually call me a fwb after it happens. It really hurts me deep inside I don't mean to get too emotional here but it does. I guess i could try waiting at least 3 months instead but then I always worry they will just go get it somewhere else or..they a lot of times know about my past so it would seem weird for me to hold out THAT long. I am extremely honest about my past so maybe that is what is hurting me. Not to give too much information but I have slept with 26 people and a few of them were other women. Do you think that once I am honest with this information that the men will then not see me as a girlfriend prospect? Should I lie about this? I won't ever reveal that information unless they ask but when they do i feel I should be honest with them. Is this a mistake? i want them to know that I am not that person anymore and sleeping around does nothing for me. i feel like i always be branded with the stigma. Link to post Share on other sites
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