moimeme Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 I do find it difficult to do things with friends now because they are all in relationships. Are your friends single or married? Where I live now, I've made friends with single people. Once your friends marry, they have different priorities so, while you are still fond of them, you'll have more in common with other single folks. Going to classes and courses and getting out there will provide you with places to meet other single friends as well as to help you to build your sense of independence. Link to post Share on other sites
nyckey Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by AngelEyz I read all of that already. I think i fit what most guys are looking for besides that I might be a bit high maintenance. Its just that guys seem really interested in me only for sex. How can i make them see me as more than that? Help me please. It sucks, when I hear a beatufill women, having a problem meeting a real man, when they like sex as much as a man. I think that might be what your going through. I bet you also know your good in the bedroom..(very confident) Link to post Share on other sites
nyckey Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by AngelEyz bigb i am afraid that if i sat them down and asked them those questions that i would surely scare someone off! I can't exactly do that in the beginning of dating someone without making them run from me and think I was psycho or something! well in my cases it has not been pre-arranged. It will go something like this: go out on dates with him hang out with him date for a while have sex THEN i get the question "hey so are we fwb?" OR they will then only call me when they want sex and will carry on with other women. I define this a "eff buddy" also just not said outright. Learn the game, Poor thing... Link to post Share on other sites
nyckey Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by AngelEyz also those lines like "well its his loss" or whatever... That doesn't work with me. Those are just silly cliches that people say to other people so they feel better. it doesn't make me feel better to hear that. It is not going to be his loss it is mine when I am laying in bed crying over it and he doesn't even give a second thought about me. Oh! Believe you, me!!! He's crying alright!! Gain some confidence, you just need to look around the corner, before you go into any neighborhood. You sounds like someone who needs to look at it, (the game) like a man. I can help you hear.... You only have scars in your head.... "That beautifull book will always get picked up, but has anyone read it?" Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 See how easy it can be? Every single day has pleasures in it - and if you waste your time looking at what you don't have, you'll miss out on the pleasures that do exist. People like to be around happy people. Develop a happy attitude and you'll not have trouble attracting people. I don't I agree 100%!! Also sometimes when you are looking to hard you miss whats right in front of you. Just continue to live your life and let it happen. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 It will go something like this: go out on dates with him hang out with him date for a while have sex Why don't you try this: meet. He asks you out, pays for you and respects you. You grow to like each other more. You become exclusive. You talk about the future. He introduces you to his family. He says I love you THEN have sex! Girl, please learn that you are worth loving. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 How does anyone feel completely happy with their self with no signifcant other to share their life with? OMG! I should have killed myself years ago! I was single once for 3 years and once for 2.5 years, how shocking that I survived without throwing myself off a cliff! HA! I'd rather be alone than with a jerk or a F buddy! Life is good. You get to make your own decisions, you don't have to tell ANYbody about it. You can go weeks without shaving your legs! You can flirt with everybody! Come on, If YOU don't enjoy your own company, how do you expect a man to? Also I agree with Moi, start dressly more maturely. Realize that a man doesn't make your life complete, you do. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by HoldOn Realize that a man doesn't make your life complete, you do. then why are most women always trying to get married and shyt??? what's up with that?? Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by HoldOn OMG! I should have killed myself years ago! I was single once for 3 years and once for 2.5 years, how shocking that I survived without throwing myself off a cliff! HA! I'd rather be alone than with a jerk or a F buddy! Life is good. You get to make your own decisions, you don't have to tell ANYbody about it. You can go weeks without shaving your legs! You can flirt with everybody! Come on, If YOU don't enjoy your own company, how do you expect a man to? Let's see.... I've gone as long as 6 years without seriously dating someone. Not because I couldn't, but because I just didn't find anyone I felt comfortable with. I'm with you, I'd rather wait. Life's good for me too, I just need to value myself more and then others will. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale then why are most women always trying to get married and shyt??? what's up with that?? Oh alpha, Can we really judge "most women" based on the women in your life. Of course women want to get married and have children. It's a goal in life. But when it becomes your be-all and end-all, and you'll kill yourself if you don't get it, then you have a problem. Desperation is a bad thing. Having marriage as an eventual goal or bonus, that's a good thing. She sounds like she'd rather die than be single. Wheras, I feel I'd rather wait for the right person. (Which I have found after many mistakes and years of being single. I did not find it by jumping into bed with everything that moved. I found it by waiting until I was sure it was right.) Link to post Share on other sites
XNemesisX Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Angel you sound a LOT like me. I have been single for about 6 months now and while I would like to think that my happiness doesn't completely revolve around having a relationship, it certainly doesn't feel as complete as it could. It does get really lonely and it's especially bad when ALL of your friends have relationships (just like all of mine!) It's not so easy to just pick up the phone and go hang out with your gal pals when they are all tied down. I'm happy for them and all, but it still kind of sucks. I fill the void with pets A lot of guys don't want relationships it seems. So I have been in the same boat as you. The last guy I dated had a girlfriend and just wanted to string me along and use me as a FWB. Ugh, F that. The only advice I can think of to tell you is to just stop looking so hard and let it happen naturally. I've decided to stop seeking it out and just let it happen . If it does it does, if it doesn't it doesn't. There isn't much we can do to force it. As for your past, how about doing a don't ask don't tell policy. Or just say that you would rather not disclose that information because it is your past and does not reflect on who you are today. You said this was mostly high school mistakes, well that should have no bearing on who you are today. You are a beautiful girl and some guys may also be a little bit intimadated by you I'm betting. Maybe you could try toning down the makeup and hair and wearing some more conservative looking clothes so you can seem more "down to earth" maybe? Moi, you gave some great advice by the way! Just hang in there Angel, you will find someone. Just be patient. Haste makes waste Link to post Share on other sites
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