Jay13094 Posted May 26, 2015 Share Posted May 26, 2015 we ended things in january, but he kept lingering around and it was very complicated for about 5 months. (exclusive relationship for about 3 months, was sleeping w/ another girl behind my back, but he was the most serious relationship i ever been in, a first love basically). After i found out, i ended things with him but he wanted to be friends and well was really complicated. And would still reach out to me often, (we did not hook up once after we ended in january, if he slept over he would just cuddle with me). About 3 weeks ago, I thought he may have still wanted to be with me but he said he didn't so i finally cut him out and we haven't spoken in about a month- but he still follows me on social media and what not, i however do not. his birthdays next month, and i've been sitting on whether or not i should wish him one- i still care about him a lot and have feelings but would that just give him the satisfaction? i did tell him that i didnt want to talk to him anymore and that i'm cutting him out of my life. guess i answered my own question, but would still like ur input Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted May 26, 2015 Share Posted May 26, 2015 Blurred boundaries. Link to post Share on other sites
Latino4Lyfe Posted May 26, 2015 Share Posted May 26, 2015 we ended things in january, but he kept lingering around and it was very complicated for about 5 months. (exclusive relationship for about 3 months, was sleeping w/ another girl behind my back, but he was the most serious relationship i ever been in, a first love basically). After i found out, i ended things with him but he wanted to be friends and well was really complicated. And would still reach out to me often, (we did not hook up once after we ended in january, if he slept over he would just cuddle with me). About 3 weeks ago, I thought he may have still wanted to be with me but he said he didn't so i finally cut him out and we haven't spoken in about a month- but he still follows me on social media and what not, i however do not. his birthdays next month, and i've been sitting on whether or not i should wish him one- i still care about him a lot and have feelings but would that just give him the satisfaction? i did tell him that i didnt want to talk to him anymore and that i'm cutting him out of my life. guess i answered my own question, but would still like ur input As someone who's ex's Birthday was just a couple of weeks ago and that same thought that you are having now crossed my mind, I would advise that it's best that you NOT break NC, especially for a text/small call wishing him a Happy Birthday. Now, the day of his Birthday, you are going to most likely be feeling very depressed that entire day knowing that it's his day basically. On my ex's birthday, while she crossed my mind that entire day, I went and basically kept busy at work and any online access I had, I spent on here reading and posting my thoughts to everyone on LS. Basically what I am saying is, on his birthday, keep yourself occupied with anything, whether it be your job, a hobby, get in touch with a friend or family member. Just keep busy, and the day after you will feel a bit more relieved. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ariess10 Posted May 26, 2015 Share Posted May 26, 2015 My ex and I broke up 2 months ago after 3 years together my bday was in April I was hoping she would say happy birthday , but she didn't and I'm glad because it would have just gave me faults hope .. My advise is don't , you broke up because your relationship at some point was broken .. What is done is done 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jay13094 Posted May 26, 2015 Author Share Posted May 26, 2015 As someone who's ex's Birthday was just a couple of weeks ago and that same thought that you are having now crossed my mind, I would advise that it's best that you NOT break NC, especially for a text/small call wishing him a Happy Birthday. Now, the day of his Birthday, you are going to most likely be feeling very depressed that entire day knowing that it's his day basically. On my ex's birthday, while she crossed my mind that entire day, I went and basically kept busy at work and any online access I had, I spent on here reading and posting my thoughts to everyone on LS. Basically what I am saying is, on his birthday, keep yourself occupied with anything, whether it be your job, a hobby, get in touch with a friend or family member. Just keep busy, and the day after you will feel a bit more relieved. luckily i'll be on vacation during his birthday week to keep me distracted so i should be fine, but thank you for a responds!! good luck to you too 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted May 26, 2015 Share Posted May 26, 2015 Did I read he cheated on you? I'm pretty sure I read that. So if your friend had cheated you out of money, or stolen from you or helped somebody steal from you, would you still want to with that person a happy birthday? don't be a doormat, my dear. he might be a fine fellow, but he treated you with zero respect. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Meli22 Posted May 26, 2015 Share Posted May 26, 2015 I wouldn't. Either he will see through it and take it as an ego stroke/excuse for you to start a conversation, or it WILL start a conversation up and prolong your pain. He will get birthday wishes from other people, he doesn't need yours. Link to post Share on other sites
coquettishlips Posted May 27, 2015 Share Posted May 27, 2015 Stick to NC saying anythin to him will only let him know you're still cloning to him and he'll know he's always got you on the back burner. I'm 7 Months NC (dumper) and I didn't wish my ex 'happy birthday.' Better that way. Be strong:D Link to post Share on other sites
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