Shotclock Posted May 27, 2015 Share Posted May 27, 2015 Going through divorce, moved out March 1 because I was unable to talk to my spouse. So now she has a boyfriend, no big surprise as she met him while we were together. Anyway, she introduced him to our daughter a couple weeks ago (I don't agree with that but it's not my decision) My daughter told me he had a sleepover in what used to be our marital bed. She just told me I did not ask. Anyway, I just think it's weird that she is sleeping with him in our bed this soon. She's never been one to deal with problems well, just pretend it doesn't exist. So is it just me or is that kinda weird? Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted May 28, 2015 Share Posted May 28, 2015 It would be weird if it wasn't so common in these situations. What does "I was unable to talk to my spouse" mean? Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shotclock Posted May 28, 2015 Author Share Posted May 28, 2015 It means that when we had arguments I would ask her questions to better understand her concern. She would clam up and not talk or just yell and blame me while I stayed calm. I suggested counselling several times but in her words "it's not my problem" Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted May 28, 2015 Share Posted May 28, 2015 It means that when we had arguments I would ask her questions to better understand her concern. She would clam up and not talk or just yell and blame me while I stayed calm. I suggested counselling several times but in her words "it's not my problem" Well, now you have a problem. She's bringing another man into your daughter's life while you're still married. And now your daughter is telling you that Mom had him over for a sleepover in the martial bedroom. I would talk to a lawyer and see about getting a restraining order out on the OM stating that he can't be around your child until the divorce is finalized. It's too confusing to the children. Family courts could give a damn about you or your wife. What they DO give a damn about is the welfare of the kids. So, a judge will probably sign the RO. I WOULD have suggested to talk to wife about this, but it sounds like she doesn't listen to a damn word you say. So, let the courts tell her. Link to post Share on other sites
Clarkwg Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 Within a month of my near decade long relationship ending the new man was speeping in my ex's bed infront of my daughter. As far as I'm aware he now lives there full time less than 5 months from their relationship beginning. Yeah, it feels crap, I can confirm that. Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 It's not really weird per se. It's that she started disconnecting and moving on long before you did. To her your relationship could've been over years ago. To you it's recent. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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