Southern Sun Posted May 28, 2015 Share Posted May 28, 2015 I am not doing No Contact. I am 7 weeks in to Done, Over, and Out, regardless of what efforts xMM does or does not make. Link to post Share on other sites
GoldieLox Posted May 28, 2015 Share Posted May 28, 2015 I barely communicate with my husband. I communicated far more with my lover about a myriad of topics than I ever did with my husband. The connection was just there. There is a dis connect with my husband and there has been for years. Very little intimacy between us. So you may want to consider a divorce. You aren't getting what you need from your husband, and you will not get that from your AP. Accept that fact, move on from it, and figure out what you're doing with your marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
eye of the storm Posted May 28, 2015 Share Posted May 28, 2015 Choices. You choose to not communicate with your H. Just my opinion. Try either fixing your relationship with your H or work on ending it with him. If it is as bad as you say, why are you staying in the marriage? The best way to figure out why you are in the A is to stop focusing on the MM and focus on you and your situation. What outcome do you want? Do you want a partner or a side piece? Do you want to look forward to coming home or look forward to sneaking out? Find a way to create peace for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
GoldieLox Posted May 28, 2015 Share Posted May 28, 2015 I agree. Except we did share a lot of daily emotional things in our dàily texts morning, noon and night. We would always be there for each other. Except now it's over. It feels like a death, a really horrible tragic ending to a beautiful fairy tale romantic affair. I know what you mean, it's habits, and they're hard to break. I feel it everytime I would sit in my car alone on my lunch break instead of being with xAP. The trick is to find something productive to do instead. Instead of sending a good morning or good afternoon text with him, text a friend instead. You're now missing a support in your life, so you have to fill that void. On my lunch break, I've started calling my husband just to chat and say hi and see how his day is going, or if it's a nice day, going for a drive. I used to sit in my car and cry and feel sorry for myself, but that's not productive and frankly, it's a little pathetic. Yep, I still have those days. I'll probably have one tomorrow, because it's my birthday. But the trick is to fill your voids. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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