Cameron2000 Posted May 28, 2015 Share Posted May 28, 2015 Being a Lawyer can be a very interesting occupation. When Lawyers have to go to court they don't cross examine a witness unless they already know the answer to the question. A good lawyer does not ask questions he doesn't know the answer to. When it comes to asking women out I am like a lawyer. I don't ask her out unless I know what the answer is going to be. It would be foolish to ask for a date when I don't know what the answer will be. If a guy doesn't know the answer then more likely than not she will say no. I should become a lawyer in my next life. It would be foolish for a lawyer to ask questions unprepared to give rebuttals to answers from the witness stand. I don't want to be a lawyer who backs down and says "the defense rests". Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 28, 2015 Share Posted May 28, 2015 You are missing a very important pre-trial concept called Discovery. Lawyers already know the answers in COURT because they spent the years before the trial investigating. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cameron2000 Posted May 28, 2015 Author Share Posted May 28, 2015 And like a lawyer I spend alot of time investigating a certain woman undercover before I ask her out. When I develop a crush on a woman it can take me up to 2 years in many cases before I ask her out. That was the case in high school. I crushed on this one girl for 2 years before asking her out. The relationship lasted 1 year. Not bad for a high school relationship. It is more common for girlfriends to come and go every few months in high school. If a woman's only complaint about me is that I take forever to ask her out then I would be happy with that. I would rather her complain to her girlfriends about that than anything else. Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted May 28, 2015 Share Posted May 28, 2015 You sound a lot like me in my youth. I was very analytical and algorithmic (and this was Back before computers and the word 'algorithm was Even in use) Now that I am 51 years old and have been there, done that actually reccommend the exact opposite. Women's interest has about a 15 minute shelf life. Ask women out as soon as you see the eyes bat, the hair twirl and she giggles at something stupid you just said. If you wait 16 minutes, some other dude will walk off with her. Make your move the instant she shows any signs of a green light. There are many things I would change if I could go back in time. That one is way towards the top of the list. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cameron2000 Posted May 28, 2015 Author Share Posted May 28, 2015 The problem is some of what we think are signs of a green light are ambiguous. They can be explained away for friendliness, her personality type, etc. Every woman is different and it is not cut and dry within 15 minutes. Flirting doesn't cut it because that can be explained away as that's just her personality. Now if I get signs that I can't explain away then it is worth taking the risk. But if I receive what I perceive to be a green light I think it is wise to first see if I can explain those signs away for something else before moving in. Link to post Share on other sites
compulsivedancer Posted May 28, 2015 Share Posted May 28, 2015 You sound a lot like me in my youth. I was very analytical and algorithmic (and this was Back before computers and the word 'algorithm was Even in use) Now that I am 51 years old and have been there, done that actually reccommend the exact opposite. Women's interest has about a 15 minute shelf life. Ask women out as soon as you see the eyes bat, the hair twirl and she giggles at something stupid you just said. If you wait 16 minutes, some other dude will walk off with her. Make your move the instant she shows any signs of a green light. There are many things I would change if I could go back in time. That one is way towards the top of the list. I was single for about five months. Not sure how soon I'll be single again. If you wait for the right time, it may never come. Link to post Share on other sites
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