Author loveweary11 Posted June 10, 2015 Author Share Posted June 10, 2015 Further, I think some people here stereotype me based on their life experience. I've always beenway ahead of times. An early adopter, a trend setter, very into the "now", while picking and choosing ancient things in life that stand the test of time. I'm extremely adventurous, create things and travel. I'm in good shape, do physical things and don't work in offices. I grab life by the horns and live. It's because all that adds up to something very different that I have these girls around and fit in just fine with millennials. What makes someone "young" culturally, is basically my essence. It's who i am. That's why they like me. I'm more of a lot of things they think are cool than they or their friends are. That's why I'm accepted. Examples: I started snowboarding in 1985. Bought my first computer in 1982 and started programming in BASIC then. Listened to the first wave of electronic music (Chemical Brothers, some old house, etc,..) and was overjoyed to see a second coming recently. Was eating local/organic before Whole Foods existed nationally. Made my own mp3 player in the 90's before iPods were around. Had a Palm VII device before smart phones were produced. It got me internet over the 1G data network. Unheard of at the time. I could go on and on. I'm not in any way "old" other than biology. I've never grown up. I am playful and seek fun/adventure. I even align with younger people politically. For these reasons, I'm accepted as one of the group and as an equal by younger people and not well accepted by older people who have kids, careers, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 What's with this old at 36 concept anyway? I suppose your typical social circles adjust with age, but I don't think 30s is objectively old to anyone but a child. My take is when you start pushing late 40s, the world starts to think of you a different way, mainly just bc of the "Oh My God 50!"/half century thing. Anyway I'm 36 too (we even have age compatibility LW ) and I don't get weird looks for going to clubs or anything. Plenty older people there than me. Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 You bought your first computer when you were about 3? Miles ahead of me..... But it`s never bad to improve yourself at whatever age. Good luck with it. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 You seem hell bent on the concept that people your own age are all old fuddy duds who aren't progressive enough for you. You also seem convinced that you are a special snowflake and so unique. But look, I know plenty of people in their 30s and 40s who still go out partying, travel, go hiking, go to music festivals, have done amazing things in their careers and have had a lot of fun and adventure in their lives. In fact, many people who are your age have similar tales of things that they've done and adventures they've had. (We also had a computer in my house in 1982.) A person who is 20 years old can't compete with that because they haven't had time. I can't help but wonder if you feel insecure around people your own age and prefer to hang out with younger people because they look up to you as you tell your tales and brag about your accomplishments. You can brag away and no one will question anything. People your own age can bring just as much to the table as you do, if not more, and the thought of having to compete on your own level may make you uncomfortable. You like being the big fish in the small pond. So why bother working at meeting people your own age when you can just hang out with the people who idolize you? It's no problem if you are getting what you need, but it seems like you aren't. I just find it incredibly hard to believe that in NYC and South Beach of all places you can't find any late 30s people who share any of your interests. My new boat isn't even finished yet. It was started when I was still married, 3-4 years ago. . I'm feverishly trying to finish it now in complete social isolation in a very rural area with 2 employees. Everyone misses me and is awaiting my return. Yes... all late teens and early 20s people, all women, 1 guy, sort of, that's friends with a platonic female friend I think is cool. You are 38 years old and hanging out with teenagers? Not normal. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 Clia, I think part of his issue is that the majority of people his age are 'settled down' more or less (family etc.) and he's not. I know the feeling - I have to be the unmarried woman hanging out w/marrieds too a lot of the time. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 Is it just the "single" mentality extended into a age when most have settled down or is something a bit deeper going on here? Peter Pan Syndrome 2 Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 Clia, I think part of his issue is that the majority of people his age are 'settled down' more or less (family etc.) and he's not. I know the feeling - I have to be the unmarried woman hanging out w/marrieds too a lot of the time. Oh, I know the feeling as well! I was single until my late 30s. I live in Chicago and never had any problem meeting like minded people of my own age. He doesn't exactly live in the middle of nowhere (at least when he's not working on his boat). He lives in NYC and South Beach. There are loads of single people of all ages in those places. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 (edited) I'm confused...Loveweary11, is this a thread asking for serious advice or did you post this merely to humblebrag? I just doublechecked match . In the DC area alone looks like there are several hundred women in their 30s (and late 20s and 40s) who did some pretty cool things in their own right. Women who lived overseas, do CrossFit, and are cute on top of that. I am positive something likewise holds true in NYC, Boston, ect. So I'm not really understanding your question here. This whole thread strikes me as bizarre. I can't be the only one who feels this way. Edited June 11, 2015 by Imajerk17 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Brigit Posted June 12, 2015 Share Posted June 12, 2015 I'm confused...Loveweary11, is this a thread asking for serious advice or did you post this merely to humblebrag? I just doublechecked match . In the DC area alone looks like there are several hundred women in their 30s (and late 20s and 40s) who did some pretty cool things in their own right. Women who lived overseas, do CrossFit, and are cute on top of that. I am positive something likewise holds true in NYC, Boston, ect. So I'm not really understanding your question here. This whole thread strikes me as bizarre. I can't be the only one who feels this way. I think love weary changed his mind and now he's only dating women in their 50's. IMHO I think he's after their AARP card. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveweary11 Posted June 12, 2015 Author Share Posted June 12, 2015 What's with this old at 36 concept anyway? I suppose your typical social circles adjust with age, but I don't think 30s is objectively old to anyone but a child. My take is when you start pushing late 40s, the world starts to think of you a different way, mainly just bc of the "Oh My God 50!"/half century thing. Anyway I'm 36 too (we even have age compatibility LW ) and I don't get weird looks for going to clubs or anything. Plenty older people there than me. I think this is pretty accurate, Jen. Some people become old in spirit quickly, some people don't. I'd have guessed Jen was like 26-28 from her pic and spirit. To others... My ramblings above were mostly to demonstrate that I'm fully accepted by much younger people. To refute any posts saying I'm some old man simply waving money at girls and getting pseudo hookers. I think I am however, starting to look for something real again. There is a wobble. A little rocking back and forth between wanting to continue having fun and getting serious. This thread started out with me thinking I needed to bring age into the equation to get something more serious going. The conclusion I came to with all of your help (especially Jen and Sycamore ) is that something more serious can happen with whoever. With anyone. So don't worry about it. And that's the conclusion. I will move forward looking to meet plenty of people and have fun, while watching for any that seem to develop a mutual interest and seem very compatible. This can happen with people of any age and it was an error in thinking to assume age had anything to do with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveweary11 Posted June 12, 2015 Author Share Posted June 12, 2015 You bought your first computer when you were about 3? Miles ahead of me..... But it`s never bad to improve yourself at whatever age. Good luck with it. I don't believe I've ever stated my exact age. I was a very young child yes. 3? No. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveweary11 Posted June 12, 2015 Author Share Posted June 12, 2015 Clia, I think part of his issue is that the majority of people his age are 'settled down' more or less (family etc.) and he's not. I know the feeling - I have to be the unmarried woman hanging out w/marrieds too a lot of the time. Exactly. I was already married "for life" 15 years ago. That ended surprisingly a few years ago putting me right back into the single world. Nobody is landing girls sitting at home in a rocking chair smoking a pipe and bitching about life. Instead of acting like a defeated old loser post divorce, I have my pick of a ton of super hot girls. Just by having fun and being my pre marriage self. This naturally attracts younger girls. I didn't know it at the time, but that was the result. So... I'm going with the flow here. One thing about my future girlfriend... She's never wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveweary11 Posted June 12, 2015 Author Share Posted June 12, 2015 Is it just the "single" mentality extended into a age when most have settled down or is something a bit deeper going on here? Peter Pan Syndrome Yes, I'm gay, I'm Michael Jackson, I love playing with children and whatnot. Im a child molester... :lmao: Fact: I hate kids. I'll never have any. Adults only, thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Krieger Posted June 13, 2015 Share Posted June 13, 2015 Yes, I'm gay, I'm Michael Jackson, I love playing with children and whatnot. Im a child molester... :lmao: Fact: I hate kids. I'll never have any. Adults only, thanks. Michael Jackson was on borrowed time once he switched races. Anyway finding woman my age that have no kids and single is like finding unicorn. The only woman I meet at are 18 to 20 years old so that my only option in dating now days. It just I am 10 to 12 Yeats older than them . Link to post Share on other sites
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