utilisateur Posted May 31, 2015 Share Posted May 31, 2015 Let's say you're with your friends, and see a stranger you find attractive. Is it creepy to stare at them to get their attention, hoping they'll look at you, make eye contact, and smile back? It's obviously creepy if you keep staring after the other person shows that they're not interested by quickly looking away after making eye contact. It's hard for me to judge because personally I'd be flattered even if I wasn't attracted to them. I'd be like "is she staring at me? Ooh what an ego boost!" But maybe it's different with women who might feel threatened if a guy was staring them down while they're enjoying dinner with friends. Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 31, 2015 Share Posted May 31, 2015 Let's say you're with your friends, and see a stranger you find attractive. Is it creepy to stare at them to get their attention, hoping they'll look at you, make eye contact, and smile back? It's obviously creepy if you keep staring after the other person shows that they're not interested by quickly looking away after making eye contact. It's hard for me to judge because personally I'd be flattered even if I wasn't attracted to them. I'd be like "is she staring at me? Ooh what an ego boost!" But maybe it's different with women who might feel threatened if a guy was staring them down while they're enjoying dinner with friends. Where I go to pick up quick lunch from work sometimes, there's this Latina lady who works behind the counter. I thought she was looking at me a couple of times. Of course, I've been wrong just about everytime before. But I went up to her to ask something, and she couldn't really speak any English. She's not bad. I'd have sex with her, but I don't think it's in the cards. This is real life. Link to post Share on other sites
Methodical Posted May 31, 2015 Share Posted May 31, 2015 There is creepy staring...where you literally eye someone down with a smug look on your face - used to intimidate, which is never well received, and then there is gazing at a person with the intent of making eye contact and sharing a brief smile, something indicative of flirting, which isn't creepy if mutual return contact is being made. At that point though, don't just continue to stare. Make an attempt to say hello, offer to buy the person a drink, etc. If your offer is declined, move along and you won't be perceived as a creeper. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
E-Squared Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 Where I go to pick up quick lunch from work sometimes, there's this Latina lady who works behind the counter. I thought she was looking at me a couple of times. Of course, I've been wrong just about everytime before. But I went up to her to ask something, and she couldn't really speak any English. She's not bad. I'd have sex with her, but I don't think it's in the cards. This is real life. I had something similar happen, but I am not really getting my hopes up because it could have just been employee courtesy. A while back I went to a Mexican restaurant for lunch. The checker was just being polite and I just gave my order like I would anywhere else. I sat at my table, and she gave me my food and then asked if I needed anything else. She had looked directly in the eye. I just answered her question by being straightforward and told her "no thank you." I would like to get to know her, but I shouldn't read too much into her eye contact. Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 Let's say you're with your friends, and see a stranger you find attractive. Is it creepy to stare at them to get their attention, hoping they'll look at you, make eye contact, and smile back? It's obviously creepy if you keep staring after the other person shows that they're not interested by quickly looking away after making eye contact. It's hard for me to judge because personally I'd be flattered even if I wasn't attracted to them. I'd be like "is she staring at me? Ooh what an ego boost!" But maybe it's different with women who might feel threatened if a guy was staring them down while they're enjoying dinner with friends. Depends one what the woman is doing to invoke a long gaze...if she's just standing there looking at a grocery item...I just kind of glance and think, "She's a nice looking woman." But sometimes I see them kind of squat down or bend over , and their shirt rises up some above their jean line and I see their tat.....I tend to find myself looking a bit longer there. lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author utilisateur Posted June 2, 2015 Author Share Posted June 2, 2015 Depends one what the woman is doing to invoke a long gaze...if she's just standing there looking at a grocery item...I just kind of glance and think, "She's a nice looking woman." But sometimes I see them kind of squat down or bend over , and their shirt rises up some above their jean line and I see their tat.....I tend to find myself looking a bit longer there. lol Not talking about "checking out" a woman. I'm talking about whether getting a woman's attention by staring at her from a distance until we make eye contact is creepy or not. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 i think what would be bad and is a good gauge of whether a person appreciates you looking at them is if when they do catch you .....they smile back...because when they dont smile back you feel like a creep because obviously they dont appreciate that you were looking at them....it really depends on the person and whether they like you or not...i smile at nearly everyone....when i see them looking at me...for the simple fact...i hardly feel creeped out by people looking at me.....more if i smile...and they dont smile back...that creeps me out...because i am the one who feels like a creep.......deb Link to post Share on other sites
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