candie13 Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 hahaha, welcome to the PUA techniques, girl. Destined to make you doubt and feel bad about yourself. you know how you are and what's important to you. Why waste time explaining to a stranger what you are not? an obviously frustrated stranger. blow him off, he's out of your league, you're looking for someone with compatible tastes and views. Of course, in Europe it's rather frowned up to say you like luxury things... luxury is an image and a feeling that is given through attitude and allure, not something directly mentioned or asked. But that is Europe, I have no idea how things are in the US. You might want to be more subtle, if you care that much about the public opinion . Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 It kind of leads me to think that you might be a little on the materialistic side. But there is nothing wrong with that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Purepony Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 Yes the word luxury makes you sound like one. Maybe you should remove that, Link to post Share on other sites
Purepony Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 Yes the word luxury makes you sound like one. Maybe you should remove that, Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 hahaha, welcome to the PUA techniques, girl. Destined to make you doubt and feel bad about yourself. you know how you are and what's important to you. Why waste time explaining to a stranger what you are not? an obviously frustrated stranger. That's actually quite a good point I didn't think about. Many PUA ("pick up artists") prefer techniques whose goal it is to make women insecure and make their self-esteem suffer. If that guy keeps writing you OP you fell for a PUA trick. But yeah, I agree with candie that you shouldn't waste your time thinking about how a stranger in the internet thinks about you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
TouchedByViolet Posted June 3, 2015 Share Posted June 3, 2015 It doesn't make you look like a golddigger... you are just communicating what you like. It's silly how much people read into and extrapolate about you from a single sentence. The way people are interpreting your sentence says more about them and less about you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted June 3, 2015 Share Posted June 3, 2015 oh guys and their weird ways to get your attention.. This guy way is hey let's insult her so she 'll get upset, yet she'll talk to me Win win!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted June 3, 2015 Share Posted June 3, 2015 Materialistic means you value material things, it doesn't mean you expect men to buy them for you or that's your purpose for dating. One can be materialistic and amass material luxuries solely on your own dime. Regardless of whether the gold-digger label technically applies, I think that she accomplished exactly what she intended... to let men know what she expects, and to weed out the ones that aren't inclined toward the pay-to-play proposition. Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted June 3, 2015 Share Posted June 3, 2015 If I saw your profile, I wouldn't come to that conclusion. You would only be a gold digger if you expected a man to provide those items for you. I think that's why some women skip over profiles so easily...they'll read something, make a snap judgement about the person based on a sentence, and move on to the next profile. You can't really tell someone is a gold digger or any other "label" until you've met them in person. Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted June 4, 2015 Share Posted June 4, 2015 You can't really tell someone is a gold digger or any other "label" until you've met them in person.That's not true. Look at all the profiles on Match with women who have a low income and require the man to have $150,000+ (the highest option) income. Link to post Share on other sites
Brigit Posted June 4, 2015 Share Posted June 4, 2015 Hello yall I have been using online dating for a few days now. Not sure if its something for me but i will see. But this morning, a man messaged me, asking if I was a golddigger. I replied no, since I am not a golddigger lol, and asked why he asked that, He said that my profile text made me look like one. I was totally surprised I mean... in my eyes it really didnt. I asked him what part, and he said that this part made me look like a golddigger: ''I love eating out, fashion, luxury pretty items, romantic everything and dogs & adorable kids'' I just cant seem the understand why.. He said that its weird how I first name material stuff and then 'romantic everything', in the same sentence. He even said that probably most guys on OLD would think I am a golddigger?!! What do you guys think? I think that guy is rude. Tell him you like what you like and you're not going to explain yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 4, 2015 Share Posted June 4, 2015 Hello yall ''I love eating out, fashion, luxury pretty items, romantic everything and dogs & adorable kids'' I think you sound, if not like a golddigger, which one might deduce from mentioning to guys you don't even know that you like "luxury pretty items," someone who spends a lot of money on clothes and expensive crap. So yes, I can see how some men would find the mention of luxury items you trying to be a Sugar Baby or general golddigger, and I can see how other men would just look at it and think, "She probably spends too much money." I mean, it's not often you see someone putting in their profile that they like expensive items. That's pretty specific and unnecessary in a profile. If you don't expect them to provide those, take it out of your profile. You can leave the fashion part, because it's not bad if it weren't followed by the luxury items thing. Link to post Share on other sites
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