DannyCA Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 If you've read what I've posted since 2013 you would know that I have been (or was) hung up on an ex for more than 2 years. Today I was looking at pictures of her on fb and I didn't feel anything, it was a weird feeling to say the least. A part of me is saying "it's about time" and is happy but a part of me is a bit confused because for years I told myself that no one else mattered but her...and now I don't feel anything. The reason I say it's weird is because for more than 2 years even something as simple as hearing her name turned my stomach upside down in a strange mixture of butterflies and disgust. I have a few theories but I'm not sure if any of them matter. I was in a casual relationship with a girl from my university for the past 8 months. We kind of dated but agreed to cut things off when she went back to her country at the end of the school year. It was basically a relationship where we both knew when the expiration date was. It felt good to be with her, but we knew it had to end, so we ended on good terms. Second is I saw this ex for the first time of 2 years a few months ago and things went great. It almost felt as if we were back together and she seemed like a new person mixed with her old positive attributes. I liked it. She even went on about how her parents still want us to get married, she told me she still sleeps in my old hoodies, etc. Then out of the blue she cuts contact with me and is dating someone new. The first person since me (or at least the first person she has put on social media since me). Maybe seeing this made me realize that maybe she isn't the woman I fell in love with back in 2012. And lastly there is a girl I met at my new job. We have had a few conversations at work and that's it. But damn I have to say I haven't liked a girl this much since, well, my ex. So far she is super down to earth, funny, has an extremely contagious smile, and is incredibly gorgeous. But I haven't asked her out and I have only known her for 2 weeks so I'm not betting all my cards on that. I would still help my ex if she needed it and a part of me still does care about her, but I think I finally don't "care" for her anymore. Idk if it's one of the above listed things, a combination of all three, or simply that so much time has passed that my caring has finally faded. Either way the point is today I looked at pictures of my ex from 2 years ago and when normally I would feel "something" but today I felt absolutely nothing. It feels satisfying and scary at the same time. Link to post Share on other sites
Marco Valerio Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 So happy for you. Sooner or later we all move on with our lifes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 Dating at work, do not go there! Link to post Share on other sites
Author DannyCA Posted June 2, 2015 Author Share Posted June 2, 2015 Dating at work, do not go there! Lol why not? Even though we're both students at our university which is right across the street, I'm pretty sure we wouldn't have met if we didn't both start this job. Link to post Share on other sites
brokengirl85 Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 I'm glad you're reached the indifference point but I hope it won't take that long for me. I wouldn't date someone from work. Link to post Share on other sites
RedButton Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 I'm not sure if I'm there or not. It's been six months and a new girlfriend later, but I saw my ex last night and think she was with her new boyfriend. I didn't feel as upset as i thought I would. I think a lot of that is also just that I was already upset about other things so I might have had my limit of feeling down already. Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 Lol why not? Even though we're both students at our university which is right across the street, I'm pretty sure we wouldn't have met if we didn't both start this job. A romance that starts at work can also end while you both still work there. I read a lot of horrible stories here by people who people who were forced to make that work somehow. Just know that you have been warned. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DannyCA Posted June 3, 2015 Author Share Posted June 3, 2015 A romance that starts at work can also end while you both still work there. I read a lot of horrible stories here by people who people who were forced to make that work somehow. Just know that you have been warned. I know that things have the possibility of ending while we both still work there but thats a chance I'm willing to take. I get that you've read horrible stories here on LS about that, but 99% of the stories on here are horrible stories so I'm not surprised. I really like this new girl and it's the first time I've actually felt this good about a girl in years. So I'm willing to take a chance. What kind of way is that to live your life assuming the worst? If I try and go into something expecting to break up while we work together that is such a pessimistic way of thinking. I can't say I like to live my life that way I'm glad you're reached the indifference point but I hope it won't take that long for me. I wouldn't date someone from work. So if you met someone at work you feel really good about you would just ignore your feelings? Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted June 3, 2015 Share Posted June 3, 2015 I know that things have the possibility of ending while we both still work there but thats a chance I'm willing to take. I get that you've read horrible stories here on LS about that, but 99% of the stories on here are horrible stories so I'm not surprised. I really like this new girl and it's the first time I've actually felt this good about a girl in years. So I'm willing to take a chance. What kind of way is that to live your life assuming the worst? If I try and go into something expecting to break up while we work together that is such a pessimistic way of thinking. I can't say I like to live my life that way Yes, it sounds pessimistic and I get where you are coming from. Haven't lived it, but I am not only drawing conclusions on what I have read here: I am not that young any-more. I can say though that it is a situation I never hope to get stuck in. Sometimes we need to take chances and sometimes we better avoid them. I hope you make a good choice 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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