KansasChica Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 *Warning: vent fest So my ex and I broke up close to 6 months ago. I walked away, because he had always seemed less enthusiastic about being with me and wasn't sure if he wanted to marry me. We'd been together for 2 years and both in our 30s. I was pretty devastated because I thought we would eventually marry. I just realized that I wanted to be with someone who was excited to be with me. Since then, I've been trying to keep my distance and respect boundaries. I hid him and all of his friends (that had become my friends as well). It wasn't a messy breakup, just painful for me. But in the past month, he's started Facebook friending people in my friend group that I know he wasn't friends with when we dated. Some guys I've become closer friends with and several of them are attractive girls as well. I just don't understand the motive. We live in a fairly large city and I know he's pretty active in other groups. Link to post Share on other sites
mossycup Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 People are so confusing. It's one of the most stressful thing about relationships and break ups. You end up spending so much time trying to understand them and their choices, but in the end, the reason you are doing that, is because something about their choices are hurting you (at least that is the case for me). If they couldn't hurt you, their choices wouldn't matter. If you didn't care, they couldn't hurt you. So sounds like you just still care about him (which makes sense, it hasn't been that long) and you are still open to be hurt by his choices. Wish I had a solution for that but I just empathize with you, it sucks. Link to post Share on other sites
brokengirl85 Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 You should block him on Facebook. Why are you checking his online activity? I don't think him adding your friends has anything to do with you honestly. You migh want to think he's doing this to grab your attention but guys are direct. If you break up with him, leave him alone, stop stalking him, and move on. Let him add whomever he wants. Not your business Link to post Share on other sites
Ariess10 Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 I look at it this way, my ex is my ex and even tho how hard it is to except we aren't together anymore.. She is free to do whatever she wants , you gotta look at it like this you guys are strangers now . Let him be friends with whoever he wants and the people that mean the most to you wont fall for his bull####. Because that's what it is all bill#### and games .. Be better then that and just keep doing what your doing Link to post Share on other sites
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