lovesfool Posted June 3, 2015 Share Posted June 3, 2015 Hi. I haven't posted here in a while but I was hoping to get a bit of advice. Without going into the whole story of me and my ex, he broke up with me with the reason that he was too busy with work, studies and that he would be away for a year and we wouldn't see each other. He ignored me for almost a year and contacted me some months ago to see how I was. We had a friendly chat and no arguments. Last month he was back in the country visiting for a few days and he asked to meet to catch up. I might have been foolish and pretended to be busy on the night he wanted to meet, just to see if he really was interested in meeting. He just said "oh, we can catch up again the next time I'm back". I was a bit annoyed at this because he didn't really make the effort to meet another night and just seemed very blasé about it. So I just told him that maybe we shouldn't see each other again. I regret it now. I think he is back home again. Should I reach out and offer to meet? Or should I wait for him to try to contact me again (even though I said we shouldn't). I figure if he really wants to try a relationship again, he would make the effort. Then again, I don't like playing games and would prefer to just ask him. Any advice? Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Yummm Posted June 3, 2015 Share Posted June 3, 2015 If he was able to drop you like that due to him wanting to get on with his own life why would you want to meet up with him and take him back? You told him no, if he really wants to make it work he should be the one to make more of an effort. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 3, 2015 Share Posted June 3, 2015 Nah, it's up to him. He didn't seem too eager about it the first time, so I don't see the purpose of you chasing after him this time. And why are you putting your life on hold for him? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ColdandLonelyinAK Posted June 3, 2015 Share Posted June 3, 2015 Men take things that women say at face value. If you told him not to try to meet up with you again, that's what he's going to think you want and he won't do it. I'd initiate contact if you want to see where anything goes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Novo Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 Men take things that women say at face value. If you told him not to try to meet up with you again, that's what he's going to think you want and he won't do it. I'd initiate contact if you want to see where anything goes. This. Guys don't sit there and fawn and gossip over every little piece of information and find some underlying motive to it. As ColdandLonely said, if you told him not to try and meet up, theres a 99% chance that's just what he'll do. Link to post Share on other sites
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