Three of Swords Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 I have been doing some self searching and realize that perhaps I could use a boost to my self-esteem. Perhaps I might then be a tad less needy and more successful in my relationships (you think?) So that was the first step - recognition. The next step is finding out where I can buy some. Kidding .... So here is where you LSrs come in. I am asking you all for our input - What makes you feel like you have self worth? How do you achieve it? I am looking for the tools to help myself here - cause ultimately it is something I have to do for myself. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 I have a set of ideals. I admire certain characteristics in others. I have tried to make those characteristics part of my own character. There's a chicken-and-egg situation here - some of the things I already did, having learned them from youth. So I guess my answer would be living up to my own expectations - or, in cases where I'm not there yet, striving to live up to my own expectations - to be honest, fair, kind, loving - that sort of thing. Link to post Share on other sites
glow2 Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 Originally posted by Three of Swords I am looking for the tools to help myself here Dear Three of Swords, You already have all the tools...think about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Three of Swords Posted April 27, 2005 Author Share Posted April 27, 2005 Originally posted by *~*glow*~* Dear Three of Swords, You already have all the tools...think about it. Kay - then I need help finding them. They are playing hide and seek! Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 My self esteem took a hit with the Ex but I realize all things happen for a reason. I think I am a decent looking guy, I stay in great shape, I am outgoing and personable and with the right person, I still think the MAGIC can happen and I can find my companion for life. I should NOT have let my Ex's feelings/actions define who I felt I was. I realize I let HER actions/opinions dicate my self esteem when really there are many times I should have booted her to the curb for taking me for granted. Now that it's over, I realize what I did wrong and my self esteem is slowly coming back and so is my confidence. I think talking about it here on LS has had a real positive effect from all the good people that browse these forums. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
finalf72 Posted April 29, 2005 Share Posted April 29, 2005 heres something that helps me when you wake up in the morning, look in the mirror and tell yourself "i love you baby, and thats forever". heres another tip :: watch your thoughts they become words whatch your words they become actions watch your actions they become habits watch your habits they become your character watch ytour character it becomes your destiny. so basically, your thoughts make up who you are. Link to post Share on other sites
leila222 Posted April 30, 2005 Share Posted April 30, 2005 watch your thoughts they become words watch your words they become actions watch your actions they become habits watch your habits they become your character watch ytour character it becomes your destiny. thats cool. Link to post Share on other sites
dgiirl Posted May 1, 2005 Share Posted May 1, 2005 When my ex left, I realized I havent been taking care of myself in a while. So I started to go shopping and buy more flattering clothes, bought some new soap, facial masks, etc. All the girly things that I havent done in a while. I'm keeping my hair long, and dressing up better. Spending some time in the morning/afternoon/evenings just looking at myself and smiling in the mirror. Taking long hot baths and listening to music full blast. Spending time with friends that are willing to listen to my story and say I'm still a good person Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 Keep it simple. What makes you happy? What DO you think your friends/family love about you most? Do you find yourself wanting to be around those who just make you happy and have good energy? Do a list of all the things you love about YOU. (Not talking physical appearance, I mean what's inside your head and what makes you be the best you can be!) LOL! Could I say "you" one more time in this thread? Believe, love, admire, respect, and be honest with yourself. Always. As long as you listen to your heart you'll always do the right thing. Link to post Share on other sites
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