My friend died...and I had a "feeling"

[XNemesisX]

First of all I want to say that I am THE biggest skeptic.

 

I question everything, and I am not quick to believe in any mystical nonsense at the drop of a hat.

 

But, within a matter of just minutes ago I got a call from my mother telling me that one of my friends was killed just a few days ago. She just found out and called me as soon as she heard. I really can't believe that no one told me! His funeral was Sunday and I didn't even know!!!! I don't live in my hometown anymore though, so I don't have as much contact with those that I grew up with like I used to.

 

I am in shock right now. I am stunned. I haven't talked to him in at least 6 months if not more, but I dated this guy for a while in high school and we were great friends up until about a year or so ago when our contact started tapering off. Well..you know how it goes with high school friendships sometimes...

 

I CANNOT BELIEVE HE IS GONE NOW!

 

I am thinking this is very strange. Just a few days ago I had a dream about him and I do not recall ever having dreamt about him before...at least not in a LOOONG time. Also, I remember thinking about him for the past few days for some reason. All of the sudden these past few days I have thought a LOT about him. Just the other day I remember watching a music video and thinking "that reminds me of him." In the dream we were just hanging out and having a good time like we did back in high school..he was really happy.

 

Maybe this doesn't mean anything at all..but do you think it could?

 

I really am shocked right now. I wonder if my random dream from a few days ago and the thinking about him a LOT for some reason in the past few days BEFORE ever knowing he just died could mean something?

 

I hate that I am not religious right now. Bless his heart, he was a good kid. I hate that he died at such a young age (22) and also he has a 2 month old baby now without a father. It really breaks my heart.

 

[XNemesisX]

Ok..I am really freaking out right now. I swear to all of you that I am not making this up at all. It is making me feel like my hair is standing on end right now. But in a good way. I hope that it means something...I want to believe that he is not gone for good no matter how much I don't find it plausible there is an after life.

 

Or maybe we do have some sort of intuition sometimes, or ESP?

 

Omg......

[Three of Swords]

Aw Nemisis - my sympathies to you.

 

It's crummy to lose someone that was a part of your life - even if they were a part of your life in the past.

 

And yeah - it would be unsettling to have thought and dreamt of him only recently.

 

I have encountered these 'coincidence' myself and it is eerie.

 

Although I too am skeptical - sometimes you just wonder when incidents (such as thinking about someone) happen.

[whichwayisup]

First, I'm sorry for the loss of your friend.

 

Or maybe we do have some sort of intuition sometimes, or ESP?

 

A sixth sense, a connection, a bond - Something. It's there. I believe this too. Depending on how close we are to the person and how much they were emotionally connected to you.

 

My father died 11 years ago, will be 12 coming up this July. The night he died we were all there in the room. The last part of it, (he wasn't conscious anymore - we'd said our goodbye's) my mom asked us to leave so she could be alone with him during the last breaths of life. My sister, brother and I went outside the hospital and waited. I remember my heart pumping and basically I was freaking out. I couldn't stop pacing and I felt all nauscous. All of a sudden a sense of calm hit me and my heart slowed down. I looked at my watch, noted the time. We went back upstairs afew mins later. Anyway, he took his last breath at that time I felt that calm come over me.

 

I do believe in some of that stuff...Not the ghosty and spirits coming in etc, but I do believe the mind is a powerful thing and we each have tools, intuitions and gut feelings that guide us.

[quankanne]

you have my condolences on the passing of your friend, nem.

 

I think we've all got some kind of spiritual/extrasensory connectedness with certain people in our lives, something past just coincidence. I have a couple of dear friends who I will think about randomly, and lo and behold, I get a letter, call or email from them telling me that they were thinking of me and just had to let me know. It's happened so often, we just joke that our "esp" is finely tuned ...

 

Your friend may have had that kind of relationship you, even though he's not someone who sounds like was in contact on a frequent basis with you. Don't let it freak you, but just take comfort in that special connectedness you had with him.

[ConfusedInOC]

I'm really sorry to hear this Nemesis. I'll say a prayer.

[whichwayisup]

I have a couple of dear friends who I will think about randomly, and lo and behold, I get a letter, call or email from them telling me that they were thinking of me and just had to let me know. It's happened so often, we just joke that our "esp" is finely tuned ...

 

Happens to me all the time. Freak me right out everytime too!

[westernxer]

Death has a way of keeping us grounded.

 

You have my condolences...

[purple21]

Nemisis - sorry to hear of your loss

I've heard about that type of thing happening to people - yeah it would freak me out too.

Many Hugs

[XNemesisX]

Thank you guys for your condolescences. I am still in a bit of shock right now..but it is sinking in. I do regret not having done better at staying in contact with him the past 6 months or so. It's crazy that I will never see him again. Death is so....final. It's a hard pill to swallow.

 

I do feel a sort of eerie feeling about all of this, but it is not scary if that made sense.

 

I don't think it could be a coincidence. I have heard of people having these feelings before, but this is the first time this has happened to me.

 

I am really speechless right now about all of this at the moment. I know I have heard of things like this happening to other people but I never imagined it would happen to me! I think that we did share a bond...especially back in our senior year of high school..looong story. Right now I hope so much that there IS an after life. I think I am starting to see that it is not something that I have much experience dealing with yet, and it is tough.

 

A sixth sense, a connection, a bond - Something. It's there. I believe this too. Depending on how close we are to the person and how much they were emotionally connected to you.

 

This is really fascinating. I know that my mother says she seems to "sense" when something bad has happened to me. For example, just a few months ago I was taken on an ambulance to the hospital for severe dehydration (I was seeing "auras" and couldn't hold down any water and had to go) My mother said she literally woke right up out of bed in the middle of the night when I was taken. She actually called while I was still in the hospital, and she and my father came up there really quickly....it's crazy. She says that she definitely feels she has a sixth sense when it comes to me.

 

These stories you all have shared are really amazing! I would love to learn more about this....

[faux]

It is regretful to hear that you must cope with the loss of your friend. I wish you the best in this time.

 

As for the dream you had, this most likely was an odd coincidence; these happen more often than people would think.

[NTB]

i'm sorry to hear about your friend

[Artifact]

Both my mother and father had very similar experiences when my great-grandmother died. They were both very close to her, but not near her when she passed. My dad swears she came to visit him, and my mom saw a lady in the park wearing her custom designed broach.

 

I have heard other people with similar experiences too. I guess good goosebumps are better than none? (Or scared goosebumps... )

 

I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your friend, but you seem to be coping as well as could be expected!

[UCFKevin]

I honestly believe when you dream about someone you know who's died, it's not a dream. That's their way of contacting you.

 

There is a way to achieve full consciousness, so to speak, when you dream, it's called lucid dreaming where you can basically control all that happens, so you will be able to say what you want to whoever you're dreaming about.

[westernxer]

There's also a scientific aspect to having a sixth sense... it has to do with electromagnetic fields that permeate our physical world. These fields exist within our own bodies as well; we have a nervous system that transmits signals to and from the brain. The brain runs on electricity at a low wattage, and it transmits low power radio waves that reach outward... these signals are carried along by electromagnetic fields, but they're also very weak, which is why they're not detected so easily. However, electromagnetic fields can stretch across vast distances, even millions of miles.

 

Is it possible our brains can detect these signals when tragedy strikes? It definitely de-mystifies the ESP phenomenon to a certain degree.

 

By the way, you can read all about this in "Electric Universe" by Brian Bodanis. A fascinating read, if you ever get around to it.

[Teag]

I am so sorry for your loss.

I do believe in this sort of thing. My grandfather died March 6th of last year & the night he dies my husband had to work 3rd shift. All of a sudden I had this gut feeling something bad was going to happen, I begged him not to go to work b/c I was afraid he would get into an acident or something. He had worked 3rd shift alot & I never had this feeling. Well he left & got to work safe so I went to bed. This was about 9 at night, At 2am the phone woke me up w/ my aunt telling me my grandfather just had some kind of siezer & wasn't breathing & his heart stoped. My grnadmother was doing CPR on him & he didn't come back to us. I'll never forget that feeling. He was alway more like a father to me than just a grandfather, I was very close. At his funeral the rabi mentioned my name & my daughters name b/c he talked about us so much & I felt that same feeling, the hairs on my neck rose.

2 weeks later I had a dream about him, he was telling me everything was fine & it was his time to go. The dream felt SO real. So I believe he is looking out for us.

[UCFKevin]

That's because he is.

[niko1999]

IM really sorrya bout your freind hun. A very dear freind of mine passed just short of a year ago(one day before college graduation). Anyway, the night we found he disapeared(he drowned), I stayed with my freind Jess, and it was poring rain that night when we went out to say goodbye to him. Anyway, that night, and you guys are all some of the first to hear this a year later, I felt him hug me. And Kevin always gave very distinct hugs, for all the years I knew him. And I woke up for a minute thinking it was my freind(we were sharing a bed), but she was all the way on the other side of the bed, with her back turned. But I just KNEW that I would never see him again. So I totally believe you with the dream, and KNOWING, becuase I myself have felt it. Hope you feel better soon, promise you will:)

[littlekitty]

My condolencies on your loss.

 

I had a very similar experience. I believe very much in the spirtual side of life, and have been unfortunate enough to have lost many people I cared for.

 

When I was 15 and at school, my Grandmother was ill, dying. I was always asked to go and see her, but made my excuses through fear, and childishness. Eventually after a few weeks I had a dream about my Grandmother. I dreamt that she had died, and I hadn't had the chance to say goodbye.

 

The dream scared me so much I begged my mother to take me there that very next evening, she did and we all went to visit my Grandmother. As I said goodbye, when it was time to leave and leant over to kiss her goodbye, she grabbed my hands and looked me directly in the eye (she was heavily sedated, and not always compus mentus) and she said 'Goodbye my Granddaughter, I love you'. I knew in that moment that I would never see her again, and I cried all the way home.

 

The next day in school in the morning I was called out of my lesson. I knew why, and I knew what the Teacher would tell me.

 

My Grandmother had died that morning, and I had as I thought said my last goodbye.

 

My Grandmother was said to be physic, my mother is natural healer, and I have had many other spritual experiences since. But this was the first, and I believe it opened my eyes and mind to allow me to experience more.

 

I wish you well in your healing. Losing someone is never easy, no matter what the situation. Try to remember the positives and celebrate your friends life, I'm sure he is aware you are remembering him. x

[tanbark813]

By the way, you can read all about this in "Electric Universe" by Brian Bodanis. A fascinating read, if you ever get around to it.

 

I was just about to suggest reading "The Field" by Lynn McTaggart as it discusses some of the same things you mentioned, westernxer, and also incorporates some ideas and proven theories from quantum physics.