I Just Wanna b Happy Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 While there is never an excuse to hit a woman, I understand mistakes happen. I am in a similar position as my wife is gone and I am devastated. Despite the terrible things she did, I can't get her off my mind. I truly hope to get out of this funk ASAP. Best thing we can do is focus on improving what is left in our lives. Kids, career, health, social and things of that nature... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
wizer Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Which she responds with "sex isn't that important to me, I'm not that person that I was, why don't you go have sex with our manager or our friend Lexi?" Well, I had an inch and took a couple more. I end up having sex with a different person not on the list she gave me and then she finds out. That's when she drops the divorce bomb on me. Here's where you screwed up. You're only supposed to have sex with women on the "approved" list. Link to post Share on other sites
66Charger Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 (edited) I've never had a relationship get to the point of being physical. I hate myself for it. My dad was abusive with my mom and me and I told myself I would NEVER become that person. And now I have. It's the hardest thing to live with. Now I'm just "one of those guys". These are your own words. Dont be slamming LS posters for being able to read English. "One of those guys" exactly what is the meaning of that part? Dont bother answereing, we know. Trying to backtrack, minimilize your "deeds" and paint your EXWIFE in a even more terrible way seems cowardly. Why dont you give her this address and lets hear the dirt on you. On second thought, Just leave her alone "bro" Edited June 9, 2015 by 66Charger 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Moarbread Posted June 9, 2015 Author Share Posted June 9, 2015 I've never had a relationship get to the point of being physical. I hate myself for it. My dad was abusive with my mom and me and I told myself I would NEVER become that person. And now I have. It's the hardest thing to live with. Now I'm just "one of those guys". These are your own words. Dont be slamming LS posters for being able to read English. "One of those guys" exactly what is the meaning of that part? Dont bother answereing, we know. Trying to backtrack, minimilize your "deeds" and paint your EXWIFE in a even more terrible way seems cowardly. Why dont you give her this address and lets hear the dirt on you. On second thought, Just leave her alone "bro" You take my words out of context. I didn't beat my wife. That's what you said. And I didn't slam anyone. In fact from the start you have provoked, demeaned, and ridiculed me for talking about a subject I am ashamed of. Not part of the policy of the forums. But I forgot you can read English. I said I what I did was wrong but what I did you took for something else. I don't see how I backtracked. And you being this big, macho seeming guy that wants to inflict violence upon me doesn't really paint you in much of a better light than what you are saying about me. I've never even been in a fight. Did you catch the part where my wife ASKED me to slap her face during sex and I was not comfortable doing so? Does that sound like someone who ever wanted it to go as far as it did? What I meant by "being one of those guys" is that I put my hands on my wife. Even if I had only pushed her on the couch that would still be putting hands on her. But I didn't send my wife out of the house caked in makeup b/c she had bruises all over her face. And I'm pretty sure that I laid out my dirt pretty plainly for all to see. My wife didn't deserve what I did and I have made clear what my part in this relationship was. That doesn't mean that she also wasn't a part of it and didn't do things she shouldn't have or was some perfect, innocent flower of a person. She could be cold and calculating and say things that would make a grown man cry. That still doesn't mean what I did was right. So step off your high horse. Is there nothing in this life you've done you regret? Like the saying goes don't throw stones in glass houses. I see that your wife left you. And you don't deserve what she did to you. I'm sorry for that. But please don't take you anger out on me. Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 More than anything, you need to learn about boundaries and limits, because they were either not present, or blurred in your relationship. When there are no boundaries, the good stuff leaks out, and the bad stuff gets in. Where there are no limits, people end up doing things they regret. Start at the beginning, by gaining an understanding of what love really is. Its not what you think it is. Good luck. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 That doesn't mean that she also wasn't a part of it and didn't do things she shouldn't have or was some perfect, innocent flower of a person. She could be cold and calculating and say things that would make a grown man cry. Why exactly do you want her back? Your own issues aside, she doesn't sound like the kind of partner one wants on the road of life. There are women out there that don't throw things at you ... Mr. Lucky 1 Link to post Share on other sites
66Charger Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 I am not mean or macho. I am a Father to a daughter that will soon turn 17. To think that in a little over a year, she could meet someone like you, and all that happen to her? I am "one of those guys". You know, Provide, Profess, Protect. I didn't threaten you with violence. If you struck your wife in any kind of way, you belong behind bars. Period BTW. My wife didn't leave me, as I am not married. I am considering it though. You confused me with someone else, but I don't think I was confused about your thread. Nevertheless I will take my leave and others may support you. Rarely do I post on a male cheaters thread. Usually I just deem them unworthy. Good day sir Link to post Share on other sites
Author Moarbread Posted June 9, 2015 Author Share Posted June 9, 2015 Sorry if i confused you. My wife cheated as well. Again not innocent. Im not the person you think i am. Im not happy with what i did but i dont know if behind bars is where i belong, i imagine its different having a child her age, i understand your angst, i always looked out for my girl. My hopes is your child doesnt inflict the hurt my wife did to me. Hate me all you want, people can and will push you. Link to post Share on other sites
unrequitedluv Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 Sometimes I wonder if one know what does love really means. We claim that we love each other and only realize it when one is lost. emotional betray is a no. physical is a no no. Why you don't allow her to make out with other guy? A matter of fact when you did with other girl? Because you are possessive and selfish at the same time. Guess this is a part in human that none of us could understand. Maybe in your country making out with people in pretty common. However, you did realize that you love her at the end of the day. You had divorce but that doesn't mean its the end. I do believe if you really love her and change to be a better man. Prove to her by being her best friend for the time being. End of the road maybe you two can be together again. Link to post Share on other sites
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