How do people find a connection on all levels?

[xxoo]

Huge difference in era's

 

People fixed things that broke back then....now they throw them in the garbage and get a new one...

 

TFY

 

But what about those of us married and raising families right now? We value our marriages, fix problems, love deeply and strongly, and will one day be the success stories.

[autumnnight]

I'm sorry I don't know how to explain this to you. It's a certain way of relating to someone where passion about some material objects don't feature at all. It's not just about intelligence, it's almost like sharing another person's psyche. Their darkness and not being scared of it. I don't know how to get you to understand it if you think flicking through manuals with your SO is important.

 

Actually, part of being an individual is having our OWN definitions of what intellectual/ physical/ etc connection means to US. As far as I know, Webster does not have a standard black and white definition of what intellectual connection means.

[xxoo]

Another important point: super hot sex is not limited to physically "hot" people. I see this assumption all the time. I'm not even saying that beauty is in the eye of the beholder or looks are subjective. I'm saying that physical attractiveness is not always necessary for sexual heat. So don't assume that the man or woman with the unattractive partner settled physically. They may be burning up the sheets.

[candie13]

So don't assume that the man or woman with the unattractive partner settled physically. They may be burning up the sheets.

 

best sex I've ever had (and for a long period of time, much longer than I should have ) was not with the hottest looking man I ever dated. The hottest bloke I ever dated was f*cking like a train .

[thefooloftheyear]

But what about those of us married and raising families right now? We value our marriages, fix problems, love deeply and strongly, and will one day be the success stories.

 

That's great for you...I really mean that and I am not being sarcastic..

 

 

And I have a great set of abs and I am 50 years old..yet, obesity has risen exponentially...My experiences, like yours, don't really mean shyt in the grand scheme of things..

 

It really is tiring to hear of the "hey, but what about me?" stories...

 

Divorce is on the rise exponentially as well and there is no doubt that people move in and out of relationships far more frequently than they did in the past...Entitlement mentality?, throw away culture?, accessibility.?..whatever it may be....it is what it is...

 

To think that everything is going to be rainbows and unicorns on all levels is great, but its highly unlikely...

 

TFY

[xxoo]

That's great for you...I really mean that and I am not being sarcastic..

 

 

And I have a great set of abs and I am 50 years old..yet, obesity has risen exponentially...My experiences, like yours, don't really mean shyt in the grand scheme of things..

 

It really is tiring to hear of the "hey, but what about me?" stories...

 

Divorce is on the rise exponentially as well and there is no doubt that people move in and out of relationships far more frequently than they did in the past...Entitlement mentality?, throw away culture?, accessibility.?..whatever it may be....it is what it is...

 

To think that everything is going to be rainbows and unicorns on all levels is great, but its highly unlikely...

 

TFY

 

Statistics show divorce rates are down. People who married in the 1990s (like me) divorced at lower rates than those married in the previous couple decades. So there is good reason to believe that we are in good company.