Author DexterLS Posted July 19, 2015 Author Share Posted July 19, 2015 Give her a deadline and say that if she doesn't meet that deadline than your legal representative will be in touch with her. Done. She read the message but didn't reply to it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DexterLS Posted July 20, 2015 Author Share Posted July 20, 2015 She replied to the messages. After several "I hate you", she agreed to send it back. She also made sure to mention how her trip made her really happy. She has really moved on since long and that she didn't post her photos yet because she doesn't want people to judge her for what she did to me. I think I will post a picture of the ring on FB and tell a little story of how I got it back from this cheating bitch. Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 I've been following this thread. Dexter, you've moved from doormat mentality to timidly assertive... but the vector is going in the right direction. Personally, I have my doubts that your deadline, whatever it was, will be met. She's convinced you're weak, and probably thinks you're bluffing about the whole "legal representative" thing. People who don't usually use legal representation are viewed that way. I would counsel you to have your plan B in place, and I would suggest that plan B is a visit to her workplace by your attorney in Dubai to demand the return of the ring, or proof that it has been shipped. Idle threats don't get things done. Hopefully it won't come to that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DexterLS Posted July 20, 2015 Author Share Posted July 20, 2015 I've been following this thread. Dexter, you've moved from doormat mentality to timidly assertive... but the vector is going in the right direction. Personally, I have my doubts that your deadline, whatever it was, will be met. She's convinced you're weak, and probably thinks you're bluffing about the whole "legal representative" thing. People who don't usually use legal representation are viewed that way. I would counsel you to have your plan B in place, and I would suggest that plan B is a visit to her workplace by your attorney in Dubai to demand the return of the ring, or proof that it has been shipped. Idle threats don't get things done. Hopefully it won't come to that. She works for Emirates. A visit to her workplace is a bit tricky, lol. She is at the airport. If she doesn't do it tomorrow, I'm getting her deported Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 She works for Emirates. A visit to her workplace is a bit tricky, lol. She is at the airport. If she doesn't do it tomorrow, I'm getting her deported Not tricky at all. All the lawyer has to do is to call the legal department of the Airport Corporation, explain the reasons for his visit, and ask to use the privacy of their offices at the correct airport to get it done. Lawyers do stuff like that all the time for each other. He probably won't even have to visit. One call to her from the Counsel's office and I'm sure they will take care of it for him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ravfour4 Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 You went from "eh, I guess I don't need the ring, maybe I'll use it as an excuse for communication later on" to "I'm sending a lawyer to her workplace to get it NOW!" all because of the photos and a little encouraging from a few posters. I think she's planning to send it, she's just giving you some **** for asking for it right after she got back from her trip, which she then rubbed in your face. She may also be using it an excuse for future communication as well, "I'll send it soon, when my friend comes back next or when I have enough money". All I'm saying is, yes you're being more assertive, which is good, but involving lawyers etc. takes things to the next level and you changed your mind very quickly about the ring. It's not like she's holding it hostage and you've been trying to get it for a week, you just asked today. We don't know the contents of your text exchange, we don't know if you were saying obvious things to infuriate her or if she was just being a raging bitch and you were being calm and reasonable. I guess if it's the latter, lawyer it up. Otherwise, I think she'll send it soon. But obviously, you know her better than us all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author DexterLS Posted July 20, 2015 Author Share Posted July 20, 2015 You went from "eh, I guess I don't need the ring, maybe I'll use it as an excuse for communication later on" to "I'm sending a lawyer to her workplace to get it NOW!" all because of the photos and a little encouraging from a few posters. I think she's planning to send it, she's just giving you some **** for asking for it right after she got back from her trip, which she then rubbed in your face. She may also be using it an excuse for future communication as well, "I'll send it soon, when my friend comes back next or when I have enough money". All I'm saying is, yes you're being more assertive, which is good, but involving lawyers etc. takes things to the next level and you changed your mind very quickly about the ring. It's not like she's holding it hostage and you've been trying to get it for a week, you just asked today. We don't know the contents of your text exchange, we don't know if you were saying obvious things to infuriate her or if she was just being a raging bitch and you were being calm and reasonable. I guess if it's the latter, lawyer it up. Otherwise, I think she'll send it soon. But obviously, you know her better than us all. I didn't infuriate her. My text messages have been nothing but reasonable and straight to the point. When she started talking about her trip and how happy she is to rub it in my face, I told her she is going off-topic and I am only here to take my ring back. After several "I hate you, I'm f*****g happy without you. I found better" etc, she agreed to do it as I think she got scared. Link to post Share on other sites
pillowpuffs Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 She sounds like a real piece of work!! I truly do hope you know in your heart that you are better off without her. Anyway, I'm glad she finally agreed to pass you the ring back. Even if it caused you some pain/effort to get it done. Hopefully the ring is really returned to you safe and sound soon! Link to post Share on other sites
Author DexterLS Posted July 20, 2015 Author Share Posted July 20, 2015 She sounds like a real piece of work!! I truly do hope you know in your heart that you are better off without her. Anyway, I'm glad she finally agreed to pass you the ring back. Even if it caused you some pain/effort to get it done. Hopefully, the ring is really returned to you safe and sound soon! I started to get a lot of pity messages today and instantly knew something was wrong. Turns out she has uploaded more photos of her with the new boyfriend. It hurts, yes. I also hope she does the necessary so I can get my ring back tomorrow by 3pm. I will let you guys know. Link to post Share on other sites
pillowpuffs Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 This set of photo uploads could be to spite you :/ I know the hurt, I've logged myself out of FB and deleted the app because I don't want to see anything that hurts me. Maybe you could do the same? Although perhaps my measure is extreme. Keep us updated about the ring and how you feel. Take care. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DexterLS Posted July 20, 2015 Author Share Posted July 20, 2015 This set of photo uploads could be to spite you :/ I know the hurt, I've logged myself out of FB and deleted the app because I don't want to see anything that hurts me. Maybe you could do the same? Although perhaps my measure is extreme. Keep us updated about the ring and how you feel. Take care. I'll know more about the ring tomorrow and I feel like she won't keep up with her promise. She will find a way to take control of this situation by sending the ring at a later date or something. I will, however, do what I have to, if I don't get it back. Thank you, I will keep you guys in the loop. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DexterLS Posted July 20, 2015 Author Share Posted July 20, 2015 Sent her a reminder email to get my ring back tomorrow and I get a "**** you" followed by "I'm broke, can't ship" followed by "I can ****ing play this game too. You are harassing me too much. Get a ****ing life psycho. God is ****ing great for taking you out of my life. I ****ing hate you." Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 Sent her a reminder email to get my ring back tomorrow and I get a "**** you" followed by "I'm broke, can't ship" followed by "I can ****ing play this game too. You are harassing me too much. Get a ****ing life psycho. God is ****ing great for taking you out of my life. I ****ing hate you." I'm telling you: All it will take is this: Dexter --> Attorney --> Airport Corp. Counsel --> EX Link to post Share on other sites
Author DexterLS Posted July 20, 2015 Author Share Posted July 20, 2015 I'm telling you: All it will take is this: Dexter --> Attorney --> Airport Corp. Counsel --> EX I already got in touch with an attorney. Let's see what she does tomorrow. Right before I get on here, she just sent me this "I should talk to my husband". I'm not sure if she is kidding or if she actually married that guy lol. Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 You see, you're like really nice. I'd be itching to text her something right before the attorney made his move: You think you're broke now? Wait until I get through with you! I think your phone's about to ring. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DexterLS Posted July 20, 2015 Author Share Posted July 20, 2015 You see, you're like really nice. I'd be itching to text her something right before the attorney made his move: You're right. I'm too nice and would never be able to do that. I didn't even reply to her last message and I will leave it at that. My goal is to get the ring back and I won't reply to her other off-topic messages. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 When I said "set a deadline" I didn't necessarily mean tomorrow. End of the month would have been fine. That being said, she's been a dick to you this entire time so you making her twist in the wind a bit is just fine. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DexterLS Posted July 20, 2015 Author Share Posted July 20, 2015 When I said "set a deadline" I didn't necessarily mean tomorrow. End of the month would have been fine. That being said, she's been a dick to you this entire time so you making her twist in the wind a bit is just fine. Yeah. **** her. I replied to her last message and left. The message is as follows: "Congratulations. Since you got your own ring now, it’s only fair that you return what is mine. Hoping to receive the tracking number from you, tomorrow. Bye." Link to post Share on other sites
ravfour4 Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 Damn dude haha why is she sooo mad?! She's either not over you completely or you were actually a devil of a bf, given all the evidence, it seems like the former. Asking for a ring back is beyond reasonable, just send it, get over it, and go hang out with your new bf that you're so happy with - that's what I'd do if I was her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DexterLS Posted July 20, 2015 Author Share Posted July 20, 2015 Damn dude haha why is she sooo mad?! She's either not over you completely or you were actually a devil of a bf, given all the evidence, it seems like the former. Asking for a ring back is beyond reasonable, just send it, get over it, and go hang out with your new bf that you're so happy with - that's what I'd do if I was her. I was a good boyfriend to her for 6 years. I was not perfect, but everyone knows how much I loved her. I think she is completely over me and she wants to return the ring. She just wants to take this opportunity to rub it in my face since this is the last time we are actually going to speak. Link to post Share on other sites
pillowpuffs Posted July 21, 2015 Share Posted July 21, 2015 Although the interaction has been terrible, it sounds like you're completely fine (to her) and that's probably why she's getting so mad. She is clearly trying to get a rise out of you while you've been completely 'matter-of-fact' about the whole thing. I know it isn't easy, but I'm proud of how you held yourself together while talking to her! Link to post Share on other sites
Author DexterLS Posted July 21, 2015 Author Share Posted July 21, 2015 Although the interaction has been terrible, it sounds like you're completely fine (to her) and that's probably why she's getting so mad. She is clearly trying to get a rise out of you while you've been completely 'matter-of-fact' about the whole thing. I know it isn't easy, but I'm proud of how you held yourself together while talking to her! Thank you. While I was sleeping she sent me the following messages. Her: "I don't want any issues or any negativity in my life. I will do the needful today" Her: "Sorry to make you feel pissed off. You pissed me off too. " Her: "What's your phone number?" Her: *calls at 7.24am* (couldn't pick up, still sleeping) Her: Sends me a screenshot that shipping is costing way too much. Around $250 Her: "Sorry. Ask your legal representative to do whatever the hell he wants now." Her: "It's better I send you the equivalent in money". I woke up and then replied her with this. Me: "I got something from Australia that costed me $125 and it was in a big box. Call DHL and ask how much it's going to cost you. I'm sure you did the estimate wrong. I still want my ring back and not the money. You have until 3pm today" She is probably sleeping right now because she hasn't read the message yet. Link to post Share on other sites
pillowpuffs Posted July 21, 2015 Share Posted July 21, 2015 what will you do if it's 3pm and there hasn't been a peep from her by then? Link to post Share on other sites
Author DexterLS Posted July 21, 2015 Author Share Posted July 21, 2015 Well, I'm waiting for a call back from my attorney right now. I think she will reply and try to ask for 2-3 days more. I really don't want to give it to her. Dick move, yes, but then she has been a dick to me all along too. Link to post Share on other sites
pillowpuffs Posted July 21, 2015 Share Posted July 21, 2015 Sounds good. Actually, from a legal perspective, 2-3 days does sound reasonable even though she has held onto the ring for a while. I wouldn't give it to her either though, she has been horrible to you and she doesn't deserve even a little bit of leniency! Link to post Share on other sites
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