JackJackxD Posted June 7, 2015 Share Posted June 7, 2015 So 9 months ago, I was dumped by my Ex-GF of 2.5 years. We stayed "friends" for 3 months after the break up, and then I went no contact after asking for another chance and got rejected. It had been 6 months no contact, and yesterday I broke it. I sent a text asking her if she wanted to talk again, and that if she doesn't she can just ignore the message. I also wished her luck in her exams. She still hasn't replied yet, so I think the message is pretty clear that she doesn't want me in her life. To be honest, I'm actually less upset than I expected to be. Of course, I was disappointed, but no where near enough to be me feel upset. It gave me the courage to finally throw away the gifts and letters we had together. There is no more No-Contact rule I have to abide by anymore, its just called life now. I don't regret going no contact, because it actually made me grow up a lot. I've read many posts here before, and it seems that the general response is to "never break no-contact". From what I've been through, I would actually suggest breaking no contact, but only when you are prepared mentally and have actually taken the effort to improve yourself. Only play the game when you are prepared to lose. However, you won't find the answer that you need if you don't go for it. There are probably a lot of people out there like me, who still cling on to a fragment of false hope, and still live in the world of "what ifs" months down the line. I think as long as you are living the life of "no contact rule", then you haven't moved on. Because when you've truly moved on, there is no rule, it is just ordinary life. Whether you make contact or not it won't matter to you. Well it is a shame that my Ex didn't reply my text, but I guess I'm ready to put myself out there and start dating again! Thanks LoveShack for helping me through my hard times! Bye! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 7, 2015 Share Posted June 7, 2015 NC works when you need it to. If you feel better about yourself based on the action, being true to yourself is always the best. Feel free to come back if you need insights into your search for the next GF Link to post Share on other sites
dyna85 Posted June 7, 2015 Share Posted June 7, 2015 Oh my gosh, Jack. This makes me so sad. I wish you luck in your future dating endeavors, and do believe you did what was best for you, to help you move on. Sometimes, we find things out, or don't get the response we're hoping for... or the person doesn't live up to our hopes and it sucks. However, you are right that such is life. I wish I had your fortitude to break NC and be okay with no response. I think you are a brave soul and you can at least look back and say you tried. Best of luck and lots of love to you in your continued healing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author JackJackxD Posted June 7, 2015 Author Share Posted June 7, 2015 Oh my gosh, Jack. This makes me so sad. I wish you luck in your future dating endeavors, and do believe you did what was best for you, to help you move on. Sometimes, we find things out, or don't get the response we're hoping for... or the person doesn't live up to our hopes and it sucks. However, you are right that such is life. I wish I had your fortitude to break NC and be okay with no response. I think you are a brave soul and you can at least look back and say you tried. Best of luck and lots of love to you in your continued healing. Thank you dyna85. It really is a shame that me and my Ex didn't get to talk again, but that is life. You don't get what you don't ask for, but you might not get what you want even if you ask for it. I wish you the best staying in NC too! If you aren't okay with getting a rejection, then you would need a while longer doing NC. But everything will be fine eventually! Best of luck to you too! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 7, 2015 Share Posted June 7, 2015 Thanks LoveShack for helping me through my hard times! Bye! bye! see you later JJxD Link to post Share on other sites
dyna85 Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Thank you dyna85. It really is a shame that me and my Ex didn't get to talk again, but that is life. You don't get what you don't ask for, but you might not get what you want even if you ask for it. I wish you the best staying in NC too! If you aren't okay with getting a rejection, then you would need a while longer doing NC. But everything will be fine eventually! Best of luck to you too! Thanks Jack. Yep, we definitely don't always get what we want, but to have tried is good, because then you won't have regrets. Thanks also for the support. Wish you the best. The road is long and hard, but yes, hopefully everything will be fine eventually. Link to post Share on other sites
TrevorDia Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 So 9 months ago, I was dumped by my Ex-GF of 2.5 years. We stayed "friends" for 3 months after the break up, and then I went no contact after asking for another chance and got rejected. It had been 6 months no contact, and yesterday I broke it. I sent a text asking her if she wanted to talk again, and that if she doesn't she can just ignore the message. I also wished her luck in her exams. She still hasn't replied yet, so I think the message is pretty clear that she doesn't want me in her life. To be honest, I'm actually less upset than I expected to be. Of course, I was disappointed, but no where near enough to be me feel upset. It gave me the courage to finally throw away the gifts and letters we had together. There is no more No-Contact rule I have to abide by anymore, its just called life now. I don't regret going no contact, because it actually made me grow up a lot. I've read many posts here before, and it seems that the general response is to "never break no-contact". From what I've been through, I would actually suggest breaking no contact, but only when you are prepared mentally and have actually taken the effort to improve yourself. Only play the game when you are prepared to lose. However, you won't find the answer that you need if you don't go for it. There are probably a lot of people out there like me, who still cling on to a fragment of false hope, and still live in the world of "what ifs" months down the line. I think as long as you are living the life of "no contact rule", then you haven't moved on. Because when you've truly moved on, there is no rule, it is just ordinary life. Whether you make contact or not it won't matter to you. Well it is a shame that my Ex didn't reply my text, but I guess I'm ready to put myself out there and start dating again! Thanks LoveShack for helping me through my hard times! Bye! Haha! Legend! Somehow this reminds me of the movie Groundhog Day. See, most of us are still in the endless day. The "No Contact" day. You made it to tomorrow, you broke NC, not because you wanted her back, but because you were at peace with the consequences. That's pretty commendable. I too, don't believe this whole "never ever break NC" principle, and I think you were spot on with your analysis of NC. I just hope I too one day have the fortitude to be able to message my ex and not give a damn about whether she responds or not. Congratulations on making it this far - and enjoy your blissful future without the grief and negativity Link to post Share on other sites
SycamoreCircle Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 Satan: And what did he say? Satan's helper: He said that he'd been to hell and back and knew that he was better off without us! S: And you showed him the way out? SH: Oh Master, I showed him the special exit. S: This is his first attempt at escape, correct? SH: That's my understanding, yes. [pause] S: Well, make sure when he returns that you turn the temperature of his room up by 10 degrees. SH: As you will... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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