Matt17 Posted June 7, 2015 Share Posted June 7, 2015 I'm in a long distance relationship. I've been together with a girl for 3 months. Two months ago she was considering to leave me for her ex. Apparently her ex contacted her and they talked for a few days, and she felt that she might wanna go back to him. However, she did not go back to her ex and decided to stay with me. I feel like everything has been going pretty good ever since that, and I really do think she loves me. We've met twice and she's been telling me how much she loves me, and how she couldn't imagine a life without me. We both made it clear that we see a future with each other. But the fact that she was considering to leave me before makes me think that she's just using me as a backup till she finds someone "better". I'm surprised that I didn't leave her back then when she admitted her feelings for her ex, that's probably why I'm asking this a few months later. I guess I was so in love with her that I just wanted to be with her. Also, this might sound stupid, but her relationship status on Facebook is "single". I know it's just facebook but since we're in a long distance relationship it makes me wonder if she wants people to think she's available. In her previous relationship she changed her relationship status. Why not now? Maybe because she doesn't want people to jeopardize our relationship or because she wants people to think she's available? Not something I would like to ask her about, because it's not a big deal really. It's just facebook. But this facebook thing and then what happened a few months ago makes me wonder. Also, let me remind you that we're in a LDR. Sorry for the wall of text, but I would like to hear opinions about this. The main issue is that she was considering to go back to her ex. I kinda feel that she's been having me as a backup. Edit: (If I'm not wrong, the reason she decided to not go back to her ex is because she realized he is too old for her. She 15 - He 21. I am 17.) Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 7, 2015 Share Posted June 7, 2015 3 months is long in teenaged relationships but she is a 15 year old girl. She probably doesn't have a great handle on what she actually wants. If I was her parent I'd prefer she date 17 year old you not 21 year old him. Whether he can legally date her is another issue altogether. How much distance are we talking about? Once school is out can you spend more time together in person? That may help Link to post Share on other sites
Author Matt17 Posted June 7, 2015 Author Share Posted June 7, 2015 3 months is long in teenaged relationships but she is a 15 year old girl. She probably doesn't have a great handle on what she actually wants. If I was her parent I'd prefer she date 17 year old you not 21 year old him. Whether he can legally date her is another issue altogether. How much distance are we talking about? Once school is out can you spend more time together in person? That may help She lives 500 miles away. We won't be able to spend that much time together unless we move in together. Which is something we both want to, however that won't be possible in a few years. Link to post Share on other sites
GoBlue Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 It's very hard to convince a teenager that feels something SO strongly in THIS moment that everything will work itself out for the best. Honestly, very few relationships between people who are 500 miles apart work out. To be even more honest, very few relationships with a 15 year old teen girl ever works out in the long run either. It may be better to acknowledge the extreme obstacles this relationship faces and pursue more of a friendship. By not putting too much pressure on this as a romantic relationship the two of you can relax and spend more time getting to know one another better. This may not sound all that helpful but thinking through the situation can help your feelings come in line with what's best for both of you. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 She lives 500 miles away. We won't be able to spend that much time together unless we move in together. Which is something we both want to, however that won't be possible in a few years. In the unlikely event your teenaged romance survives the turbulence that is adolescence growing to adulthood, going from an LDR to living together with no transition in in between is a recipe for disaster Link to post Share on other sites
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