shockedheart Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 So we broke up 1 month and 1 week ago (dated for 3.5 years) - he left me kinda... we both agreed to it but he was more the initator. I love him - not the same way anymore but still love things about him and want to try again to see if he really has changed and if I have changed enough to be together. I know he still loves me - he doesn't trust himself alone with me in private because he feels he will fall for me hard again. Anyway, back when we broke up, he jumped into bed with a girl pretty much the first day we broke up. It wasn't someone he had a long term crush on - just a girl that was there for him the week we were breaking up. She is known around these parts as a pro-ho and he is a pro.. so she is set and will do anything to keep them 'together.' According to him (and apparently she has agreed) they are 'seeing' each other but do not have any commitment (they are free to see other people) although she doesn't. She is doing everything in her power right now to keep him on lock down and make him hate me - to the point of telling him lies about me. She tries to bug me when I am out at bars (it is a small town so we do see each other). I am trying to do the NC thing which worked for 3 days - then he called. I am keeping a calendar (and let me tell you, it does help). Now I am wondering - it is clear to myself and everyone else in this small town that she is a band-aid... a filler for what is missing... and possibly even his subconcious way of trying to hurt me and protect himself. I get the feeling it is just a waiting game - but is there anything else I can do to help my situation and get him back? Everyone in town says over and over that he is in love with me and is just using her to fill and protect... may be true but it dosen't matter if he dosen't see it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shockedheart Posted April 27, 2005 Author Share Posted April 27, 2005 I forgot to mention - when drunk a while ago he mentioned something about waiting 3 months before we hang out again. I think she told him this...that he has to wait a month for every year or something. Link to post Share on other sites
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