empathic121 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 (edited) My husband and I have an unhappy marriage. The reason I am unhappy is because he does not communicate. I have to ask him to respond much of the time. So we are not doing well, and seeking counseling. Today is my birthday, and the day went on in a cordial manner (despite our current problems). He announces he is going to bed, and leaves without any type of physical touch (hug, kiss... and he doesn't say I love you or anything). I can see feeling insecure on a regular day, but to be like this on my birthday. It really hurt my feelings, and ruined my day. He says he is unsure about us, and what I want? I feel I always have to approach him, and be the brave one. I am tired of it, and feel deflated. It has been 12 years, and I am wondering if being with someone passive, and insecure will only hurt me in the long run. Anyone else feel this way? Edited June 8, 2015 by empathic121 My title is supposed to say lash, not last.
spanz1 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 passive and insecure? are you sure? he sounds more like an asexual, or at the least someone with a low libido. Try to do things to up the sex life at home....a good sex life is the key to a good marriage. without sex...a guy does not have all that much impetus to work out the other details, like good communications, etc
whichwayisup Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 My husband and I have an unhappy marriage. The reason I am unhappy is because he does not communicate. I have to ask him to respond much of the time. So we are not doing well, and seeking counseling. Today is my birthday, and the day went on in a cordial manner (despite our current problems). He announces he is going to bed, and leaves without any type of physical touch (hug, kiss... and he doesn't say I love you or anything). I can see feeling insecure on a regular day, but to be like this on my birthday. It really hurt my feelings, and ruined my day. He says he is unsure about us, and what I want? I feel I always have to approach him, and be the brave one. I am tired of it, and feel deflated. It has been 12 years, and I am wondering if being with someone passive, and insecure will only hurt me in the long run. Anyone else feel this way? This man, even though you may love him, isn't the one for you. A husband is supposed to make you feel adored, needed, loved and safe! He has made you feel bad, sad, insecure, unloved, ignored, unimportant and worthless. You shouldn't have to live the rest of your life with someone who treats you like that. 1
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