autumnnight Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 Why do you let it affect you so much? Is he hitting on her? Are they going on dates? It sure sounds like it from the reactions. Do you want to play eyeball policeman or enjoy your time together? Some things are insignificant and inconsequential until we make them otherwise. This is one of them. Actually, it wouldn't affect me. If I was dating someone and he stopped talking to me to soak in a woman's ass for 30 seconds, I'd just get up and leave the table while he was watching. Now, if she walked by and I saw him just notice her, I might even joke and say, "Nice butt on that one." But stopping our convo to stare while allowing drool to wet the tablecloth? Um....no Then again, I tend to go for men who are way past puberty Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 OP: If the "staring" detracts from normal social behavior, then its a concern that needs addressed. You are correct that until he acknowledges that he does it, he will continue to hold his glaring ways as a poor habit. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 “I can’t help myself” and “boys will be boys” have never been good reasons. If he’s that oblivious and lacks self-control, it will affect more than his relationships with women. I’ve been in business settings with men where some guy stared or head-swivelled and other men reacted with eye-rolling or quizzical looks of skepticism. Few bosses are going to take that guy on a meeting with an important client. “I can’t help myself” says A LOT about a person at many levels. “I don’t even know I do it” is worse. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Thegameoflife Posted June 12, 2015 Share Posted June 12, 2015 Sounds like you're an insecure person, so you seek people who are socially awkward because you subconsciously know they are low risk for replacing you. When your BF leers at women, it also exposes those insecurities. Since he's an awkward person, he'll do awkward things like stare. Maybe meet someone that is more in line with what you see as appropriate behaviors. However, with that person, they'll also be capable of easily replacing you, so you're probably going to feel just as insecure. In reality, you have nothing to be concerned about when a guy stares, or gives a possibly inappropriate amount of attention to a stranger. It's when women are staring at your man that he truly has temptations. My wife doesn't care if I check out women or even point them out. She gets bothered by the women who stare at me, and are also attractive. Link to post Share on other sites
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