jittybeat123 Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 hi guys 1st ever post so go easy on me , right were do i start , met a girl in australia we stayed here for 2 years together then she left for new zealand , we agreed to meet again in september ,but now she,s with another guy this past 10 weeks and guess what she,s now pregnant , i dont know what to think are do about this , she,s from europe and this other guys from south america , now there in italy together trying to make a life , come on a 10 week relationship and now a baby , what the hell is going on , 2 years together and she breaks it of without seeing me again how does this happen , she was totally crazy for me and me for her , the problem is we speak every single day by skype and messages and i know that she,s not ready for me to leave her life , it would kill her not to see me again , but bloody hell a baby with a guy you know for 10 weeks , all she ever wanted was a life with me but i guess lonelyness kicked in for her and she met this other guy , i just dont get how she can keep in touch with me every day and think that everything is just fine , ive nearly destroyed myself the past few months worrying about her but i know i really need to cut of all contact with her to move on but its just really really hard , the conection is just to strong with her to cut of all ties to her , any advice would be great guys cheers Link to post Share on other sites
Lethalkiss Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 I think you should let her know how you feel about her,and make clear that this contact is devastating to you.. If she wants to be with this guy,then it's clear she left you out of her life.. even if she says she wants to keep in touch with you,there is a baby in the middle...she is starting a new family.. whether she made a mistake or not,it's her problem,not yours.. She chose to make things get the way they are.. In my opinion you should try to move on with your life..no matter how hurtful this might be in the start.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jittybeat123 Posted June 8, 2015 Author Share Posted June 8, 2015 Thanks lethal just the words that im looking for , i know i have to move on but its all a big shock to me , we was to get married start a family together when we were to meet again in september and now she,s dug herself a great big hole , its just hard when your plans for the future are took away just like that but i know deep down that its best to forget about her and move on with my life , but the only thing that concerns me is that i know we,ll meet again sometime and she knows this also , our conection together is just to strong not to meet each other again , but with a child on the way maybe its best just to let her live her life and see were things end up in the future Link to post Share on other sites
Fleur de cactus Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Move on. Forget about her. She is only taking advantage of men. She is lying to her current boyfriend when she maintains contact with you. She is a liar , a cheater, selfish. I dont see why you continue to contact her. She shows you who she is , a liar. Now it is time to move on. You will find another girl who is not a player. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lethalkiss Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 I see what you mean about the strong feelings and connection.. Maybe ,just maybe one day you two meet again...BUT you cannot rely on that day..you are a strong man ,you can make new plans.. maybe enjoy being single for a while..and who knows?maybe she was not the one.. You can only know what's next for you,if you stop talking to her... I'm sure you don't want to be the guy who sits and watches miserably her ,living her life and pity yourself that you are ..waiting.. It will be hard to cut off all ties...but you will feel independent and strong in the long term...cause right now..she seems to manipulate your affection and love,whenever she needs someone to talk Link to post Share on other sites
Author jittybeat123 Posted June 8, 2015 Author Share Posted June 8, 2015 Thanks guys your words are spot on , just what i needed to hear , look listen this girl is the most nicest person you could ever meet but i know that her head is lost at this time and she,s not being herself but as you say its not my problem anymore so i think its time to forget and move on , cheers guys for the advice i,ll take it all on board and see were it takes me , cheers 1 Link to post Share on other sites
coryreply Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 I'm sorry, bro. That's a tough situation for sure, especially when such strong feelings are there. I was in similar situation many years ago. I had to let her go. It was hard then but everything worked out for the best. Good luck to you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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