silverfeather Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Hello. I was in a violent and sexually abusive relationship for two years. I didn't live with the man. I am a long time out this relationship now. (On the calendar at least). I have had other relationships since then. But I still suffer tremendously with anxiety and low self esteem. My theory has always( subconsciously I stress) I will end up with an abuser anyway so better the abuser you know, or well they are all this way anyway. I would like to point out at this stage in my post. This is in no way a judgement on men or anyone but the person who did this to me. I realize consciously these thoughts are not true. But subconsciously I feel they pervade my decisions and behaviors. I have been in counseling with someone for a while now and was diagnosed with PTSD. I have dipped my toe back into the dating world. I would like to say to anyone out there in an abusive relationship please leave now. You have no idea how important this is. And to anyone else in the aftermath. WE ARE SUPERSTRONG! Keep the faith. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
StalwartMind Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 A tremendous applaud to your fortitude. You are brave for dipping your toes back into the dating world again. I do not wish anyone to suffer and go through what you have, and to those that currently are I'll echo your advice to get out now. I hope your recovery and ability to overcome your current struggles will go well and even beyond even your own expectation. It can be overwhelming at times to find the strength to believe in others again after having experienced something traumatic. Patton Oswalt wrote something after the Boston Bombing that stuck with me since then and I'll quote the part that can be applied to any time someone face the darkness in others. "We would not be here if humanity were inherently evil. We'd have eaten ourselves alive long ago. So when you spot violence, or bigotry, or intolerance or fear or just garden-variety misogyny, hatred or ignorance, just look it in the eye and think, "The good outnumber you, and we always will." Compassion, Love and people that genuinely wish you good are found all across our tiny blue planet. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 Good for you for having the strength to leave a sucky situation. Just remember, abusers don't abuse because you're you....they abuse because they're them. Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 You go girl. And if you run into any more abusers, just let me know and I'll abuse your abusers. Link to post Share on other sites
goldway90 Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 I just want to tell that you are survivor,it takes a lot of strength to break free from years of abuse and you did it. I'm a stranger but seriously i'm proud of you. Keep moving forward you'll get there, things will get better. You are a warrior remember that. Demi Lovato - Warrior Link to post Share on other sites
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