Moved to estate with my boyfriend and daughter;having relations with estate keeper!

[Milie]

I am 23 year old women,I recently have moved onto a private estate with my boyfriend and daughter. I have been working on the farm helping out where I can but these last couple of months the keeper of the estate who is 42 has been eying me up and telling me how I'm very pretty attractive etc.. Which was nice to hear but not long ago he caught me on my own in the barn and kissed me... I felt so bad for kissing him back but it felt so good. Couple weeks later we meet up and are now having a sexual relationship I feel so bad and guilty but it just feels so nice and it is so exciting for me, but he has a girlfriend of 3 years. I truly am starting to feel for him and definitely have feelings.. But he keeps telling me thAt we need to be careful sneaking around etc.. Which I agree. He tells me how beautiful I am and if he could he'd take me out etc... Do you think that he is trying to keep me sweet? Am I just a fun time for him? Or does he want to be with me? What shall I do... any advice would be appreciated. thanks

[Confused48]

Wow. You should probably have this moved to infidelity or OW/OM.

 

He probably has done this before. Saw a nice opportunity to get some tail on the side. He knows you will keep quiet bc if you don't you will lose your cushy life with the owner. He is playing you for easy cheap sex. No doubt about that.

[Satu]

Other people's men are other people's men.

 

Other people's women are other people's women.

 

You have chosen to be deceitful and dishonest.

 

The consequences will be terrible.

 

You have made a huge, life-changing, mistake.

[Michelle ma Belle]

Sounds like the making of yet another trashy Danielle Steele novel

 

And that isn't anything to be proud of.

[No Limit]

Break up with your boyfriend, but please leave the child with him so you won't jeopardize his/her life. Then go on and be this guys' plaything. Have fun.

[misspond]

Cut and run.

 

Or, be prepared to deal with a massive emotional mess.

[Cephalopod]

Dump your boyfriend and go with the estate keeper. Follow your heart. It's about your life and what you need.

 

Tell your boring boyfriend to take a hike. He doesn't do it for you sexually, nor does he deserve your honesty and fidelity. He's most likely a selfish boor who only keeps you around as a trophy. He doesn't see the real you. The estate keeper is strong and sexy and solid and all man.

[Clarence_Boddicker]

Sounds like the making of yet another trashy Danielle Steele novel

 

And that isn't anything to be proud of.

 

 

Beat me to it!

 

 

OP, make sure you get pregnant with his love child. You never know, he might be royalty & choosing to live the life of a commoner. This might be your chance of a great life. Of course your boyfriend will have to suffer a tragic fatal like a boating or horse riding accident, to make the story "proper".

 

 

Seriously, do the right thing & let your boyfriend be with someone who really loves him, unlike you.

[Cephalopod]

Does the estate keeper wear a puffy shirt? I have been thinking of getting one.

[mystikmind2005]

hmmm, no easy solution here, not unless your boyfriend will like the idea of having an open relationship. If your getting some action on the side, it's only fair he should too.

[elaine567]

SparkNotes: Lady Chatterley's Lover: Summary

 

Into the void of Connie's life comes Oliver Mellors, the gamekeeper on Clifford's estate, newly returned from serving in the army. Mellors is aloof and derisive, and yet Connie feels curiously drawn to him by his innate nobility and grace, his purposeful isolation, his undercurrents of natural sensuality. After several chance meetings in which Mellors keeps her at arm's length, reminding her of the class distance between them, they meet by chance at a hut in the forest, where they have sex.

 

[Lois_Griffin]

He tells me how beautiful I am and if he could he'd take me out etc... Do you think that he is trying to keep me sweet? Am I just a fun time for him? Or does he want to be with me? What shall I do... any advice would be appreciated. thanks

LOL. I'm SO sure there's nothing more this older letch would love to do than take you out for a night on the town.

 

Seems kind of odd that he finds the time to meet you in the barn to get laid but cant quite orchestrate a night out on the town. But then again, that would take effort and money he doesn't want to spend and lots of time that he doesn't want to waste.

 

I mean...why should he bother with all that when he already knows he can get sex in the barn WITHOUT doing anything?

[Radu]

Does the estate belong to your bf or his family ?

 

If so, besides the horrible idiotic situation you are in, there is another angle ... the estate keeper is also doing this to cuckold your bf, to humiliate him.

 

Congrats on achieving this milestone.

[Spectre]

Wow, this is pretty disgusting behavior. Stop saying you feel guilty, if you truly did then this would of stopped at you kissing him. But here you are spreading 'em for this scumbag who definitely doesn't see you as anything more then a piece of ass.

 

I feel sorry for your kid, he is going to have a lot of "uncles" in his life, I can already tell. Here is what you do: admit the truth to your boyfriend so he can get rid of you. Someone else said leave the kid with the boyfriend. I agree you are not mother material, but you've already burdened this guy enough..so take your kid and leave. You came here for advice, but not the right kind of advice. You are more worried about this prick grounds keeper.

 

I just have to ask..is the notion of just being another notch to this grounds keeper appealing? Since I can guarantee that is all you are to him.

[minime13]

I am 23 year old women,I recently have moved onto a private estate with my boyfriend and daughter. I have been working on the farm helping out where I can but these last couple of months the keeper of the estate who is 42 has been eying me up and telling me how I'm very pretty attractive etc.. Which was nice to hear but not long ago he caught me on my own in the barn and kissed me... I felt so bad for kissing him back but it felt so good. Couple weeks later we meet up and are now having a sexual relationship I feel so bad and guilty but it just feels so nice and it is so exciting for me, but he has a girlfriend of 3 years. I truly am starting to feel for him and definitely have feelings.. But he keeps telling me thAt we need to be careful sneaking around etc.. Which I agree. He tells me how beautiful I am and if he could he'd take me out etc... Do you think that he is trying to keep me sweet? Am I just a fun time for him? Or does he want to be with me? What shall I do... any advice would be appreciated. thanks

 

Uh, what about your boyfriend?

[Cephalopod]

Uh, what about your boyfriend?

 

Pfffffffffth....who cares about him? He's there to support her and her kid and nothing more. He should feel lucky she allows him within ten feet of her.

[William]

Folks, since this appears to be a drive-by, I'll thank you for your responses and close it up.