No Limit Posted June 28, 2015 Share Posted June 28, 2015 There are still a few loose ends. Your daughters' paternity for one - what if WW reveals to them that you're not their biological father? She's unpredictable, who knows what she might come up with. Link to post Share on other sites
Morro72 Posted June 28, 2015 Share Posted June 28, 2015 There are still a few loose ends. The past 15+ years are still almost entirely loose ends. The surprises are going to be dribbling out for decades. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 (edited) You shouldn't of slept with the OBS, but make no mistake..that pales in comparison to what your wife apparently did. With your life? Is cheating really that heinous a crime? I don't think a cheater deserves death, but I absolutely feel it is a very heinous crime. Cheating DESTROYS lives, it emotionally kills people, and it rips apart families. So no question about it..it is an utterly deplorable thing to do, especially when children are involved in all that, like in this case where the mans kids turned out to not even be his? I just don't know, in this day and age things like cyber bullying and stuff are illegal, right? Yet people can do what this woman did for 15 years and tricking the guy into raising kids that aren't his own and it all seems perfectly legal. You should flat out be able to be arrested for tricking your partner into raising a child that is not their own. All custody over the children should likewise be revoked. Good parents do not trick others into raising their kids. Edited June 29, 2015 by Spectre Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 My FIL knew about the affair for the past 2 years and said nothing to me him and I got on so well and I admired the hell out of him. My MIL came over and told me this. He confessed to her the other day and she isn't happy with him at the moment either, they are not living in the same house. If I see him I don't know what I would do, the betrayals keep coming to light left right and centre. Another issue is I ended up caving, I slept with OBS a few days ago and WW is now begging me for R, said that she will do everything right by me to prove to me that it's me she truly wants, and has always wanted... I want divorce for sure and going ahead with it but I think I may have screwed up my chances of an amicable divorce since OBS is hell bent on rubbing it in WWs face that we slept together. I told her not to say anything and she reluctantly agreed but i'm nervous that I may have lost my victim card. I still want full custody of my kids and it seems OBS will automatically have full custody of her kids since OM has passed away. WW is pissed off that OM didn't include her in any part of his will, and yet is claiming she truly wants to be with me? What a joke. That must have been some Hot Sex you both had! You could've waited you know until the divorce was final! So what made you cave? Yeah, okay we're all interested! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 You shouldn't of slept with the OBS, but make no mistake..that pales in comparison to what your wife apparently did. I don't think a cheater deserves death, but I absolutely feel it is a very heinous crime. Cheating DESTROYS lives, it emotionally kills people, and it rips apart families. So no question about it..it is an utterly deplorable thing to do, especially when children are involved in all that, like in this case where the mans kids turned out to not even be his? I just don't know, in this day and age things like cyber bullying and stuff are illegal, right? Yet people can do what this woman did for 15 years and tricking the guy into raising kids that aren't his own and it all seems perfectly legal. You should flat out be able to be arrested for tricking your partner into raising a child that is not their own. All custody over the children should likewise be revoked. Good parents do not trick others into raising their kids. Could OM have been murdered and it was made to look like he killed himself? Perhaps I've been watching too many murder mysteries........ 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Susmay Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 Could OM have been murdered and it was made to look like he killed himself? Perhaps I've been watching too many murder mysteries........ Men who have embezzled and cannot pay the money back, have been known to kill themselves. Men caught having affairs less so I think... This guy seemed to have had the money to pay back, and did so, so it seems unusual for him to then top himself, not that I'm a real expert in these things... I'm a lawyer (in Australia, so not wherever LD is) and things to think about, are: The OM's estate. If he hasn't made provision for his biological children (ie LD's 2 youngest girls), then seek legal advice about claiming on his estate. Obviously this will impact on the other BW and her children. If the OM paid over $300,000 to the employer then killed himself, there may be issues in that this repayment may have come from family assets that also belonged to the BW. She should get advice about this, as it will depend on the actual facts. It may well be that she's been left with a debt and if she never benefitted from the embezzlement then she may be able to claim some of it back in some way (eg if "stolen" from her). This also may impact on the OM's estate and what might be available to his wife and all his children. This may also impact the WW's legal culpability if indeed it was she who benefitted from the embezzlement. The employer may not be able to happily take back the money, if in fact it was stolen by the OM from the BW and family! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 Just a suggestion before you go there: Let's try to avoid sleeping with the MIL. 11 Link to post Share on other sites
cozycottagelg Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 Just a suggestion before you go there: Let's try to avoid sleeping with the MIL. He's vulnerable. Nobody is safe. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Cephalopod Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 When is the car chase? 9 Link to post Share on other sites
BeholdtheMan Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 I love this woman so much Stop loving her... She doesn't love you 2 Link to post Share on other sites
spanz1 Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 you'd "better call saul" (usa tv show) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sidney2718 Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 Now I am more worried that OBS could be pregnent with my child since we slept without protection. Our passionate encounter should have been more responsible but what's done is done. If OBS is pregnant I am screwed! Is it possible that OBS is already pregnant but that you are about to be named father? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author lifedestroyed Posted June 30, 2015 Author Share Posted June 30, 2015 I had a chuckle to some of the jokes but that comment by cozycottagelg hurt. Nice way to minimise my feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
autumnnight Posted June 30, 2015 Share Posted June 30, 2015 I had a chuckle to some of the jokes but that comment by cozycottagelg hurt. Nice way to minimise my feelings. Sometimes a BS's pain makes other people uncomfortable. How are you today. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Noirek Posted June 30, 2015 Share Posted June 30, 2015 (edited) I had a chuckle to some of the jokes but that comment by cozycottagelg hurt. Nice way to minimise my feelings. Your wife just had a lta that resulted in not one but two children you raised unknown. By your own accounts you had the perfect life and were very happy. You learned all this and now the man banging your wife is dead. Probably suspicious circumstances. You've slept with his wife (the day he killed himself even though you didn't know) and you have a huge mess ahead of you regarding the children. I don't think you should bother being hurt by an unknown person online. Not with all you already have on your plate. Edited June 30, 2015 by Noirek 2 Link to post Share on other sites
autumnnight Posted June 30, 2015 Share Posted June 30, 2015 Your wife just had a lta that resulted in not one but two children you raised unknown. By your own accounts you had the perfect life and were very happy. You learned all this and now the man banging your wife is dead. Probably suspicious circumstances. You've slept with his wife (the day he killed himself even though you didn't know) and you have a huge mess ahead of you regarding the children. I don't think you should bother being hurt by an unknown person online person. Not with all you already have on your plate. Actually, it is not for us to dictate how HIS hurt should manifest itself. Sometimes we can carry quite an emotional load, and one insensitive dig can be the straw that broke the camels back. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Susmay Posted June 30, 2015 Share Posted June 30, 2015 (edited) I'm a BW and my "story" (true not fiction) had a death in it (of the other BS/BH), a workplace confrontation, (me confronting the OW at her workplace), the OW losing her job, a child born to the OW during her affair with my husband, the BH bringing up the child as his own until the BH's death, me not finding out about the A until 7 years later, the OW having an affair with a different MM (overlapping with the A with my WH) whose marriage broke up as a result of the A; and more... Sadly for me and the 3 families involved none of it was fiction! Edited June 30, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Response to fiction troll redacted 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author lifedestroyed Posted June 30, 2015 Author Share Posted June 30, 2015 autumnnight in response to your question, how am I doing? Not so good! I just got news from OBS that she is pregnant and it is my child. Just when I thought things were starting to calm down now this happens. LS, what do I do? Please help! I am beyond freaking out! WW doesn't know yet of course. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveMachine67 Posted June 30, 2015 Share Posted June 30, 2015 Is it possible that OBS is already pregnant but that you are about to be named father? Sidney, you called this one! Link to post Share on other sites
Susmay Posted June 30, 2015 Share Posted June 30, 2015 autumnnight in response to your question, how am I doing? Not so good! I just got news from OBS that she is pregnant and it is my child. Just when I thought things were starting to calm down now this happens. LS, what do I do? Please help! I am beyond freaking out! WW doesn't know yet of course. Approximately 10 days ago the OM was still alive, and about 5 days ago you let us know that he was dead and you later said you'd had sex with the BW on the day of his death. When a woman gets pregnant she usually conceives about 14 days before her menstruation is due so she will be unaware she's pregnant until her period is late, which is unlikely to be for another 4 or 5 days (at least) in this instance! If she already knows for sure she's pregnant then by my reckoning you cannot be the father! Just get the DNA test to prove it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted June 30, 2015 Share Posted June 30, 2015 Sidney, you called this one! The risk of pregnancy had already been discussed in the thread - 27/6, before Sidney posted yesterday. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Susmay Posted June 30, 2015 Share Posted June 30, 2015 The risk of pregnancy had already been discussed in the thread - 27/6, before Sidney posted yesterday. Another risk is an STD, which given what's been going on seems quite likely. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Morro72 Posted June 30, 2015 Share Posted June 30, 2015 autumnnight in response to your question, how am I doing? Not so good! I just got news from OBS that she is pregnant and it is my child. Just when I thought things were starting to calm down now this happens. LS, what do I do? Please help! I am beyond freaking out! WW doesn't know yet of course. Not to be too cynical, but you may want to consider the possibility that OBS was already pregnant and that she knew she was pregnant when she hopped into bed with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Noirek Posted June 30, 2015 Share Posted June 30, 2015 Actually, it is not for us to dictate how HIS hurt should manifest itself. Sometimes we can carry quite an emotional load, and one insensitive dig can be the straw that broke the camels back. I think the pregnant obs trying to pass the child off as his would be the straw... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Noirek Posted June 30, 2015 Share Posted June 30, 2015 autumnnight in response to your question, how am I doing? Not so good! I just got news from OBS that she is pregnant and it is my child. Just when I thought things were starting to calm down now this happens. LS, what do I do? Please help! I am beyond freaking out! WW doesn't know yet of course. Well, I guess she isn't that nice and wonderful of a person if she is trying to trap you in child support payments to her husband's kid. Pretty calculating of a woman that just found out her husband was cheating, embezzling and then killed himself. Unfortunate for her she found herself pregnant during this time. As to what someone does in a situation like this? Point out she jumped the gun on telling you she was pregnant (odd for a woman who has been pregnant before). And of course wait for the paternity test. They can do in vitro ones. You won't have to wait until it's 15 and sneak into the room and steal the dna. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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