ConfusedInOC Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 ...when thinking about my Ex, I get that feeling. Like taking a sucker punch to the gut. How long will I feel like this?! Link to post Share on other sites
Amalphia Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 Hun I hate to tell you this but I felt that way for about two years. The feeling finally went away when the love was replaced and the emptiness was gone. All I can tell you is just take it day by day on small step at a time. It was extremely hard for me and if you are anything like me it will be the same for you. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 How long did you date her? I think usually it's comparable to your healing time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ConfusedInOC Posted April 27, 2005 Author Share Posted April 27, 2005 Originally posted by tiki How long did you date her? I think usually it's comparable to your healing time. A year. I know, not a lot of time, but again - I fell hard, I feel fast. Amalphia - D'OH! That sucks..... Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 So how long have you two been apart? I say just get over her. I think she served her purpose. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ConfusedInOC Posted April 27, 2005 Author Share Posted April 27, 2005 Originally posted by tiki So how long have you two been apart? I say just get over her. I think she served her purpose. Well I haven't seen her since April 1st (yeah I know...). But she didn't end it until 2 weeks ago. So....basically I haven't seen her in some time. Her birthday is early next month too. It's taking all my will to NOT send her emails or buy her something for her birthday. I know she doesn't deserve it. She took me for granted. If I gave her something, she'd just take that for granted too. She doesn't want my gifts...or me. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 Ah, it's still fresh. You'll heal. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ConfusedInOC Posted April 27, 2005 Author Share Posted April 27, 2005 Originally posted by tiki Ah, it's still fresh. You'll heal. I hope so. I mean, I want to forget (which is why NC is essential) but my heart is still attached. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 if you institute total NC, probably around 3 months I guess but getting better every day without total NC, probably a year or more. take your pick. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ConfusedInOC Posted April 27, 2005 Author Share Posted April 27, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale if you institute total NC, probably around 3 months I guess but getting better every day without total NC, probably a year or more. take your pick. Yikes. Not much of a choice. But I know, the sooner the better..... Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 Sooner than you think. Don't worry, don't contact her in any way, refuse to think about her, get out a lot.. just keep yourself busy. That's what usually does the trick. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ConfusedInOC Posted April 27, 2005 Author Share Posted April 27, 2005 Originally posted by CurlyIam Sooner than you think. Don't worry, don't contact her in any way, refuse to think about her, get out a lot.. just keep yourself busy. That's what usually does the trick. Thanks. I've been trying but it's hard to concentrate. I have a business to run and this is taking a lot out of me. If I could get her out of my mind I think I could be productive. Are you in Paris? I was there a year ago, had a great time! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 Originally posted by CurlyIam Sooner than you think. Don't worry, don't contact her in any way, refuse to think about her, get out a lot.. just keep yourself busy. That's what usually does the trick. heavy alcohol consumption also helps Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 But will leave you penniless. Work! It will also ruin your health, but not your bank account! Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 It'll happen for a while. You'll begin to think of her less and less and the pain will get less and less, and one day you'll not think of her at all until something odd reminds you of her and it's another sucker punch but luckily that one doesn't last as long as the others did and gradually, it just becomes a fleeting thought. I haven't hit the fleeting thought yet. It's been a while since my ex and I broke up, since November of 2003, and I'm more or less over her, but I still miss what we had and think about her and what it would be like if we made it thru the tough times, but only every so often. Life goes on. It finds a way. So will you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ConfusedInOC Posted April 27, 2005 Author Share Posted April 27, 2005 Originally posted by UCFKevin It'll happen for a while. You'll begin to think of her less and less and the pain will get less and less, and one day you'll not think of her at all until something odd reminds you of her and it's another sucker punch but luckily that one doesn't last as long as the others did and gradually, it just becomes a fleeting thought. I haven't hit the fleeting thought yet. It's been a while since my ex and I broke up, since November of 2003, and I'm more or less over her, but I still miss what we had and think about her and what it would be like if we made it thru the tough times, but only every so often. Life goes on. It finds a way. So will you. Thanks. Have you had any meaningful relationships since then? Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted April 27, 2005 Share Posted April 27, 2005 Not a one. She was a tough act to follow and I'm not trying to find a replacement. I wasn't even ready for it before. Maybe still not, who knows. When it's meant to happen, it'll happen. I've had plenty of flings but I'd give up every single one to have what I had with her again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ConfusedInOC Posted April 27, 2005 Author Share Posted April 27, 2005 Originally posted by UCFKevin Not a one. She was a tough act to follow and I'm not trying to find a replacement. I wasn't even ready for it before. Maybe still not, who knows. When it's meant to happen, it'll happen. I've had plenty of flings but I'd give up every single one to have what I had with her again. How old are you? You seem pretty young and there is plenty of time. I agree with you as well, I'd give up anything to be with her. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 Twenty fiver, good buddy. OVer and out. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 Twenty fiver, good buddy. I didn't say I'd give up anything to be with her. I don't want to be with her. She changed. In the end she wasn't the person I loved before. I said I'd give it all up to have a relationship like the one we used to have. Link to post Share on other sites
BigB Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC ...when thinking about my Ex, I get that feeling. Like taking a sucker punch to the gut. How long will I feel like this?! Took me maybe a year or so, I spent most of that time drunk, high, chain smoking, broke, and working 60 hour weeks. Sometimes I'm glad she skipped town and I had no way of contacting her. It hurt, and I was pissed, but I definitely didn't want her back after all crap she pulled the day she left, and stole most of my stuff. I know it sucks now, but it will get better. NC will help it go away sooner. go to the gym and beat the s*** out of a punching bag, it'll help. Link to post Share on other sites
XNemesisX Posted April 29, 2005 Share Posted April 29, 2005 Sometimes I'm glad she skipped town and I had no way of contacting her. Yikes. So that happened to you too, huh? My ex and I broke up 6 months ago and the last time I talked to him was early April, telling me to call him on April 4th and made me swear and promise I would call. I call on that day and his phone was disconnected..yeah gotta think he did that intentionally to hurt my feelings. He moved back to Ohio and I have no way to reach him. Oh yeah..and about her stealing from you. My ex owes me a good $3000 if not more and he stole a lot of my stuff too. Basically, I feel the way Kevin does. I would give up all the flings I've had the past 6 months to have what I had with my ex during the good times I wouldn't want him back personally though, but would like to have that again...if ya catch my drift. COC~ 2 weeks is still VERY fresh. I don't think the pit in my stomach was gone until like 4 months after my break up. People suck. You will get over it though, eventually. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ConfusedInOC Posted April 29, 2005 Author Share Posted April 29, 2005 Originally posted by XNemesisX Basically, I feel the way Kevin does. I would give up all the flings I've had the past 6 months to have what I had with my ex during the good times Me too. I wouldn't want him back personally though, but would like to have that again...if ya catch my drift. Definitely. 2 weeks is still VERY fresh. I don't think the pit in my stomach was gone until like 4 months after my break up. People suck. Yes, she does.... You will get over it though, eventually. I know. 100% convinced huh? She's never been 100% convinced of anything in her life... Link to post Share on other sites
Fallen_Angel Posted April 29, 2005 Share Posted April 29, 2005 4 months?! A year?! I want this to go away NOW!! Ah, patience is a virtue. I feel as though I'm beating myself up and losing hope because the ex hasn't made any attempt to contact me since I talked to him Sunday. But, why should I bother? So what if he doesn't come back?! It's HIS loss. I hope if I repeat this enough, I'll start to believe it... Link to post Share on other sites
beejsea2 Posted April 29, 2005 Share Posted April 29, 2005 My ex and I have been broken up for six months now...God time flies!! There are days that I'm fine and than I still have my moments of doom and gloom, which I really hate!! My therapist paraphrased it like I'm on a roller coaster...ups and downs, one day I'll get tired of the ride and get off... Six months ago I would never think I'd be here...but I'm getting tired of the ride and soon I know that I'll be getting off. My ex snuck out on me, stealing stereo equipment you name it...plus he owes me money but I don't care any more because he's going to have to remember how he he treated me. Hang in there...it will get better!! Link to post Share on other sites
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