ConfusedInOC Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 Originally posted by Marshbear SHe didn't tell me that from the beginning. She changed her mind down the road and I was supposed to accept it. It was probably close to a year before she sprang the " I don't want to get serious" statement. I was supposed to bow to her wishes and conform. I tried the routine for awhile but it was to frustrating for me. I needed to get out..... Ah well you said "pretty early on." To me that'd be a lot sooner than a year. That makes more sense. Well, let her be mad. It's not your problem now. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 Marsh, you made the right decision to get out. The bitter pill is hers alone. Link to post Share on other sites
dgiirl Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 Originally posted by Marshbear Sometimes closure might be what we think we want but not what we need. Sometimes just saying " I need to move on " might be the best solution. To much information might hurt them more than you intended. Hell yeah! Some of the things my exh told me, I really do not want to believe and wish I _never_ knew cos now I'm over-analzying everything in the past and wondering if what he said was true. I just watched Ophra with the guy who wrote the book "He's just not THAT into you". I'm going to keep repeating that phrase in my head while I'm implementing NC. For the guys, replace he with she Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 Originally posted by dgiirl I just watched Ophra with the guy who wrote the book "He's just not THAT into you". I'm going to keep repeating that phrase in my head while I'm implementing NC. For the guys, replace he with she That's the way I see it, too... if they don't like me, they don't like me. Nothing I can do about it either, except to move on (hard as it may be), so just lay it on me and I'll be on my way. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 I think it's too much to expect that the person who left you could really give you closure. Chances are at least as good that the things they say will just open wounds further. If you're waiting for them to deliver some kind of message before you can start the process of moving on, then you're just giving them more control over your life for no good reason. In the end, no matter what they say, you have to provide your own closure. Link to post Share on other sites
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