Girls, would you date a 26/27 year old virgin?

[ZA Dater]

When I was in high school, I admit, I never had sex, but yet, the cheer leaders were banging their football playing boyfriends on their summer vacations out at some summer home of their parents. My upbringing taught me not to participate in behavior at that age.

 

Even if there were no jock situation, there'd be these teen pregnancies, and I knew better not to get sexually involved with a woman prior to becoming a legal adult. Who needs that kind of headache. There was this one pregnant girl in my class that kept reminding me of just that. Something I didn't want to deal with.

 

Of course, the boys would talk about getting BJ's under the bleachers or whatever that some girl did in their class to them. I stayed out of those conversations.

 

Some never even went to the prom nor had a prom date....I think these are the beginnings of a man going into a transition from out of high school into the adult world. Sometimes you were considered flawed if you didn't get to bang a chick in a rented hotel room on your prom night. The movie "American Pie" pressed this as well as some of the 80s "coming of age" movies. "Get laid on your senior year of high school, or else, be labeled a social pariah!"

 

I recall an article recently, about how young men aren't relating to women the way they did in the olden days. For instance, there was some kind of church dance going on...the parents would be privy to this and would push their sons to ask some girl to the dance.

 

The boys seemed to lack some kind of motivation to do so as some dances turned out to be two genders standing across from each other on either side of the room, music playing, but no one on the dance floor.

 

Some parents used some kind of incentive to ge their their boys ask girls to the church dance. The parents would be like, "So how come you didn't ask your friend Susie to the dance" and they'd respond, shrugging shoulder "I dunno."

 

Basically saying, that these Jr. High aged boys are having a hard time asking women out in a traditional sense as opposed to our 1940s or 50s counter-parts. It's like...something is missing in these guys/boys to interact with women.

 

This kind of explains the threads popping up of "I'ma man, I'm this age...and I'm still a virgin....what does this mean for me?"

 

Typical responses that are given and of course NON-encouraging, "Dude, you're screwed, no woman will ever want you!" If you do want to get some action, please....find a hooker!"

 

Yeah, talk about lowering yourself to a level of pond scum to do that...and of course, if a woman ever found out you went to see a prostitute/escort....well, say sonyonora there, too.

 

Yes, I've seen ludicrous advice given on these boards about "seeing a hooker, you'd be better off."

 

Anyhow, also, not to bash women, but women haven't made it much easier for men to ask them out...with all the game playing that goes on, there are just some men who aren't willing to go along with the game playing.

 

I got a friend of mine, he pretty much gives up after 1 or 2 times tops when calling a woman and her NOT returning his calls. Then women proceed to tell him he "Gives up too easily, you need to keep pursuing!"

 

Of course he refuses this advice as he's not willing to put up with this behavior...some of these men are likely to "giving up too easily" and winding up dateless or of course unlaid on a Sat. night.

 

I think its one thing having opportunities and having quality opportunities.

[ZA Dater]

I've even turned down FWB sex with women on the chance I thought it was rather sleezy for them to offer. When I'd be dancing at a Meetup, I knew a couple of women that would get up close to me, dancing....and in a alcohol induced conversation (and breath)....they'd whisper to me that they'd want to do me in her car ...I'd pretend I didn't hear because of the music.

 

So I've had missed opportunities to get action as some men would jump on such an opportunity.

 

I turned down something similar based on the fact she didn't "wow" me, I am going to have sex then I want the full package.

[E-Squared]

Here is something that I had written in another thread on this board:

 

I want to give some input to this discussion, and I have been there many times. I am turning 29 next month and I still have yet to lay the pipe. I remember one of my best friends had given me lots of $#!+ for not being in a relationship or going out and meeting some strange wool on a regular basis, like he claimed to have done. First off, he claimed that he was a man-whore who has a rather high count and I don't even know why it mattered to him that I was always single or something. Hell, even when I "dated" this one girl a long time ago for only a couple of weeks (I put in quotes because I didn't actually date her; This girl liked me and asked me out, and I only went with it because at the time, I was depressed, lonely and bitter, so I thought that a girl who liked me would be someone I'd like, not to mention that I thought it was my ticket to getting lucky). He gave me some crap about how I just let her leave me like that, but I was not into her.

 

I guess it's true about what some people have said about that old Snoop Dogg song, "It ain't no fun if the homies can't have none." That's just what the song says, and I think that is the reason why men always have to give their friends crap for not dating often or having sex.

 

One thing that I will say is that I utterly DETEST being asked if I am a virgin. I remember one example of this was this one girl who I met at a festival and she was someone who I checked out. She noticed that I acted all shy and stuff, but I gained her contact info. Later on, she assumed I was a virgin because of how I acted, and I will say that when she asked me the dreaded question, I immediately got defensive with her.

 

Now I am talking to some girl right now who is only a few years older than I am, but she said that she doesn't have a problem with it. Hell, even when she asked me a question related to sex, she sort of knew because I tried to "pass" that question, by saying "I would rather not talk about it." She said she figured it out even before she asked.

 

I feel left out because it's hard to find a woman at my age now. Every time I gain interest in a woman, it turns out she is married, engaged or with someone, not to mention has children. I feel like the older I get, the more anxious I get. I somehow wonder if I should have a female friend do me a favor, even though I fear that it may kill the friendship, and sometimes I wonder if I should just save money for a hooker or escort.

 

I have dating experience. Sure, the longest relationship I was in last for only two months, and most of the other women were in the "talking" stages. I have kissed women before. I have felt breasts before. I have even SEEN breasts before. I have never reached a point where both parties, including myself, got naked. The last time I have been on a date was a year ago, and me and this girl liked each other a lot. However, the girl had issues and she cut me loose. We never really made anything official, either. I have not been on a date all year, but I am willing to try contacting someone who I have not talked to in a while to see what is up, but I am not getting any hopes up. I even try POF, but the girls on there never respond to my messages.

 

Of course, lately I've also been lusting after an older woman who I am cool with. She is in her mid-40s and I am wondering if I should make my fantasies into a reality. Not to mention I turn 29 next month and I wonder if I should just try to gain some experience that way.

 

I remember in the past I had considered having a close female friend of mine do me a favor, but then I remember she had told me that she had bad experiences with FWB's. I backed out of it. I was afraid that I would have ruined the friendship if that happened, if killed it. It would not have been worth it, even though I have moments where I have unclean thoughts about her.

[Dat55]

You are asking the wrong question. You should be asking whether or not a woman would date you. If you give women a reason to date you as a person, you won't be a virgin for long.

Many reasons.

[BronzeAgeJaeger217]

Here is something that I had written in another thread on this board:

 

 

 

Of course, lately I've also been lusting after an older woman who I am cool with. She is in her mid-40s and I am wondering if I should make my fantasies into a reality. Not to mention I turn 29 next month and I wonder if I should just try to gain some experience that way.

 

I remember in the past I had considered having a close female friend of mine do me a favor, but then I remember she had told me that she had bad experiences with FWB's. I backed out of it. I was afraid that I would have ruined the friendship if that happened, if killed it. It would not have been worth it, even though I have moments where I have unclean thoughts about her.

 

I would imagine cougars are easier to snag