matthewakin Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 (edited) It has been years. Yet I still miss her. I couldn't tell you where she is now. I can only say I still love who she was when I last knew her. It ended so poorly that I feel she is better off. I have tried moving on, think of it I've tried it with steely determination (and have not given up yet). But I just can't seem to run far away enough. No final hurdle, a new one each day. Has anyone spent years as a shell? Did it get better? Were you able to truly "get over" it? I still don't know what it means. Edited June 10, 2015 by matthewakin 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NopeNah Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 Sounds like you need a new focus in your life. Buy a boat! Learn to fly a plane..whatever you've been doing so far,hasn't been about yourself(IMO),it's all been about her. Find yourself and you'll find happiness. Either alone and happy or with someone new and happy. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Scorpio Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 It is fine to occasionally miss someone whom you shared a deep bond with. It is even okay to pine for them now and again. But I find it a bit disconcerting that you would describe yourself as a shell after this long. I do believe that time can heal all wounds. But I don't believe that allows us to be passive in our healing. What have you been doing to work on you? What have you been moving forward towards? 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 Life is never about just one person. Pay attention to the other people in your life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 It has been years. Yet I still miss her. I couldn't tell you where she is now. I can only say I still love who she was when I last knew her. How many years are we talking here? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
erklat Posted June 12, 2015 Share Posted June 12, 2015 His post lingers with strange familiarity. For me it has been two years. Still I think of her daily and have regrets but my fortitude is strong. I haven't broken nc ever since it started. I don't stalk. I ask not to mention her in my company. She's a complete stranger to me. I know I don't love her and I could never forgive her for what she did. However, sometimes doing all the things imaginable is not enough. I've done them all and I still have pangs of regret when I see a woman alike her. All of us have the one that got away. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
brokengirl85 Posted June 12, 2015 Share Posted June 12, 2015 This post really is sad. I can understand one year, maybe two, but I find that wasting my life over someone who doesn't really give a s..hit about me Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted June 12, 2015 Share Posted June 12, 2015 I think it took me a few years to get over my first girlfriend. I do not remember it any-more exactly how long it took me. I do remember that I liked other girls after her that lead to entirely nothing. I guess moving on and really finding someone new who adores you too has amazing healing-power in itself. I do not know how it ended, but it seems you are blaming yourself. What happened? Link to post Share on other sites
erklat Posted June 12, 2015 Share Posted June 12, 2015 (edited) I do not know how it ended, but it seems you are blaming yourself. What happened? You mean me ? Let's not hijack his thread. There is my breakup log where I logged my journey here. Edited June 12, 2015 by erklat Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted June 12, 2015 Share Posted June 12, 2015 You mean me ? Let's not hijack his thread. There is my breakup log where I logged my journey here. Eh no sorry, I meant the OP. I think I read it in the past as we came in a similar period. Link to post Share on other sites
Bito Posted June 13, 2015 Share Posted June 13, 2015 I've pined for years about the same girl. I still have brief moments of remembering the times we had. There is one memory I have where we were reunited after some time apart. We ran towards each other and tackled one other in a loveing embrace of passion. Really great memory that used to make me sad when I thought about it. Now after several years it makes me smile to reminisce about our idolized love. Ask yourself why you think you want her back. Cause you dont... What you want is someone that makes you feel good. Makes you feel needed and whole. You already have someone just like that who you are with everyday... Look in a mirror and smile. Link to post Share on other sites
erklat Posted June 13, 2015 Share Posted June 13, 2015 Eh no sorry, I meant the OP. I think I read it in the past as we came in a similar period. Yeah, I like reading and communicating with people who were heartbroken together with me the best. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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