burgily Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 Hello I am 22 years old and so his my boyfriend we have a 3 year old son together and have been living together since we were 18. as most relationships and new young parents we had a rocky start , it was violent , toxic , he woundnt pay attention to me and numberous times put his hands on me..I cheated on him with a loser that i regret. and i left . i moved out . during our 1 year break from eachother I saw other people , Im not sure if he did , he never told me.. We started talking again and spending time together with our son the 3 of us and made us want to have our family back, we missed eachother and eventually dec 2014 we ended up getting back together.I moved back in. Everything was peachy at first , our sex life and emotional relationship was great..We were getting along. As time progressed we would fight about money , me having to work/be a mom/wife / cook clean etc. and him not helping. We both gained some weight and he actually took initiaive and got a gym membership , I used the i dont have time excuse.. My insecurities have gotten the best of me , that Im angry that Im fat , that i havent finished school , that i dont take the time to do little things for myself like do my nails or wear cute clothes. that I make any little issue we have into a huge deal. I start insulting him , and comparing him to guys from my past.in really low ways.. I **** up by sayign those things.. He never talks to me that way.. He tells me why im at his house and to just leave if im so unhappy... I dont want to keep runing back to my moms house....I want my son to have both parents and I want to be him, I love him I just say things to "win" the argument shortly realizing I dindt win ****.. Yesterday we had a huge fight about our phone bill and i gave him back the phone he got me saying i would go start my line on my own at another company... Once again that spun out of control yelling screaming cursing , me again with the comparisons and name calling.. We eventually went to bed. I went through his phone and I looked @ his search engine on Facebook and noticed he had alot of "KIMBERLY'S" as if he was going through different pages of girls with the name Kimberly , as if he was looking for somoeone... Initially it didnt bug me , i dont know why? Perhaps because i have done worse, or ive looked for ex's and guys myself.???.. I asked him he said what do i care? I looked for ex's i bring it up in his face and that him and i havent been acting or being a couple for a while now...we dont talk much we hardly have sex...hes right. I told him i need to know so i dont waste my time.. yelling he says no im not seeing anyone and if i was who cares, i dont want you here ... and then went to work. I just want to know how to fix or get passed this, should i just not talk to him for a few days, ? apologize when i get home? (he'll blow me off )..write him a later stating how i feel?..help please..anyone who can relate or give some advice from either perspective.. thank you:( Link to post Share on other sites
AJH1982 Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 You have to take control of your feelings! Dont yell or curse, it wont change your life or make it better, it will only create more negativity and problems! If you really love him and your son try to work on you to became a better mother and wife. Your life`s not easy but what will you win by acting like this. Try to talk to him, apologize for your behavior and try to talk to him about your feelings! Link to post Share on other sites
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