Doing better with NC

[Zard0z]

I'm doing better with NC. I had been checking her profile picture on messenger and kakao every once in awhile for the first 6 months of not being together. Back in March we exchanged some friendly texts but nothing from her since then.

 

I can proudly say that it's been nearly a month that I've looked at her or any of of her friend's profile pictures.

 

I've blocked her and her friends on facebook and messenger as well. She obviously still has my number, which I feel comfortable not blocking since she was never the one to initiate contact in the first place.

 

I don't need her anymore. My life has changed in good ways since that time. All I need to do now is get over missing her. I will still cherish the memories we had together, but I now recognize them as such, only memories.

[Zard0z]

I'd also like to make a list to explain some of the difficulty in getting over the breakup:

 

1) I'm an American living in Korea. She (a Korean) had a core group of close friends, and I had basically her and some work friends who I wasn't very close to yet.

 

2) It was my first relationship, and we got real close, real quick. We were together just over a year, and we'd sleep together on weekdays and spend our weekends together on top of that. It left the two of us exhausted. I'd suggested seeing each-other less, but she wouldn't have it.

 

3) She is from a much higher class background than myself (her father owned a Nike factory and her extended family seems to be considerably well off). She had also gotten a really stable and interesting job a couple of months before the breakup. And at the time, I felt like I'd been giving her a lot of emotional support throughout her job search.

 

So, shortly after the breakup when she left me (a kindergarten teacher) for a man 12 years our senior, and with an established career, I felt devastated. Like I had been thrown a way for a solid, classic model Mercedes. I was left with a big chip on my shoulder.

 

 

4) She told me I was too short for her. She had a few centimeters on me. And though it was never a big deal for me at the time, I'm a bit more sensitive about it now since she said it played a factor in the breakup.

 

I'm getting over all of these things in my own way. And there are other things about the way I treated her, that I wasn't happy about. She never mentioned them as playing a factor in the breakup, but I'm trying to fix those as well.

 

Only thing I can do now is keep up NC. Take pride in what I'm doing. And keep focused on what I need to do for my own well-being and future.

Edited June 14, 2015 by Zard0z

[loveiswar101]

Good on you. Don't get to far ahead of yourself though. Days will come and go and at times im sure you will think of her more. But thumbs up my friend.

 

Keep NC and strive forward and hopefully she will enter your thoughts less and less.

 

Only then will you be over her and move on...I wish I was at a place like you but am no where near, but reading this gives me hope and direction.

 

Keep it going.