AliceW Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 I've run into a range of preferences. I myself am a very physically affectionate person most of the time, but I also have terrible, chronic insomnia, and I hate to be touched while I'm sleeping (or trying to to sleep). I like to have sex, cuddle for a while...and then roll over to my side of bed to sleep! Unfortunately, this bothers my bf, because he loves to sleep curled up together. What do you all prefer? Does your SO like to sleep the same way? Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 It depends. I don't feel the same every night. Some nights I feel like sleeping on my own, some nights I feel like cuddling until we fall asleep, but I do tend to get hot when I'm physically against someone in bed, and it's harder to sleep that way, but sometimes it feels too damn nice to stop. Well, when I had a girlfriend anyway. Now the only other thing that sleeps in my bed is my dog. And he's a f*cking bedhog. Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 i don't think i ever really had a choice of cuddling in bed usually she always just wanted to be all over me or have me hold her which i guess i didn't mind so i guess i like to cuddle in bed Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 I like to sleep with my BF... I dunno.. I just seem to sleep better when he's there.. maybe because we had mad sex before going to sleep I also tend to get hot sleeping right up against someone... but like Kevin said as well sometimes it feels so good you don't mind... When we go to sleep though usually my back is against his chest and his arm is around my waist... and got to admitt... I do like that a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
Elmo Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 My husband and I are addicted to cuddling! Our dog had puppies a few years ago and we noticed they "dogpiled". That's what we do. I've never wanted to be so entwined with anyone else and neither did he. It's wierd. But sleeping together, all wrapped up, is our favorite thing. I don't think it's at all unusual for you to need your own space after cuddling a bit. If you are a light sleeper you may need no stimuli. I use earplugs....but love the "dogpile" effect. Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 i usually lay on my right side and curl into fetal position when i sleep......he lays on his left side. i also get really really hot when i sleep, so if he is too close to me i will start sweating and then wake up. we cuddle in the morings when he wakes me up and right before bed. Link to post Share on other sites
LuvPup Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 Hi! New here! Hubby and I do cuddle, but he is so hot natured that pretty soon we are both gettting all sticky sweaty, and not in the good way! Sometimes I will put the covers between us so that I can spoon with him without the body heat! LuvPup Link to post Share on other sites
scarlyjones Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 I look at it this way..................too often people get pissed or hurt or offended when their "other" doesnt want to cuddle while sleeping. These people need therapy. If they need to be wrapped around someone even while sleeping, then they have serious issues. ITS SLEEP !!!! You arent even awake to experience it. Jesus,....when are we supposed to get rest????????????? Between your "hold my haaaAaAaAaAaAnd..." and cuddling AFTER sex,......sleep is all we have left. Needy sons a bitches..... Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 Originally posted by scarlyjones I look at it this way..................too often people get pissed or hurt or offended when their "other" doesnt want to cuddle while sleeping. These people need therapy. If they need to be wrapped around someone even while sleeping, then they have serious issues. ITS SLEEP !!!! You arent even awake to experience it. Jesus,....when are we supposed to get rest????????????? Between your "hold my haaaAaAaAaAaAnd..." and cuddling AFTER sex,......sleep is all we have left. Needy sons a bitches..... I do it here and there. Moreso at the beginning of a relationship. Then it's like, get real pal, I gotta sleep. Link to post Share on other sites
scarlyjones Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 Not me,...........I needs mah space..........I have this thing I was born with called "personal space". If you think even for a second that you can get mad at me for not letting you bombard my personal space while Im trying to sleep so I can get enough rest to be able to work 7000 hrs the next day,...you're loco. By the way,...most guys SAY they like to cuddle while sleeping. But thats just bull**** they say because they really are trying to parlay that into sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AliceW Posted April 28, 2005 Author Share Posted April 28, 2005 Nah, my guy really does like to cuddle while sleeping! I wish he felt more like you do! It seems to really bother him that I don't like to cuddle at night, and that bugs me...I am upset by the idea that I can't provide something that's so important to him, and also because i don't know why he persists in mentioning it when he KNOWS that I have a lot of trouble sleeping that way and that I feel bad about it... Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 just start flopping around saying " i am just soo hot...." but he may take it the wrong way and really get you hot! Link to post Share on other sites
Skeered Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 I loveeeeeeee to cuddle..and be close when I sleep with someone...I'm a touchy feely person anyway so touchin, kissing and huggin is alllllll good with me... Link to post Share on other sites
Cecelius Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 Used to hate it but also used to only date tall women. Once I figured out petite ones fit better, I don't mind Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 Same here, Alice! My partner is a contortionist who can fall asleep in any position. Likes to wrap himself around you like pretzel, stick his nose in your armpit and his cold feet up your butt. I get Closter phobic. Even have to kick off the covers sometimes because I feel pinned in and unable to move. The compromise: we cuddle until he falls asleep and starts snoring. I'm a very light sleeper, so if it gets too loud I have to gently untangle his arms and legs from around me and sneak off into the other room without waking him. Haven't been able to make a clean getaway yet! But he doesn't feel as insecure about it as he use to. Since he gets up a 4:00am he now prefers a good night sleep rather than me shaking him awake all night or pinching his nose shut to cut off all the noise. Plus, he doesn't have to worry about holding in his farts. Romantic, ain't it?? There's play time and there's sleep time. For us, we've finally worked it out! Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 Originally posted by AliceW I've run into a range of preferences. I myself am a very physically affectionate person most of the time, but I also have terrible, chronic insomnia, and I hate to be touched while I'm sleeping (or trying to to sleep). I like to have sex, cuddle for a while...and then roll over to my side of bed to sleep! Unfortunately, this bothers my bf, because he loves to sleep curled up together. What do you all prefer? Does your SO like to sleep the same way? I love to cuddle while we are sleeping!!! but my bf thinks that it's too uncomfortable to sleep like that I feel so left out when we don't hug while we fall asleep or if I wake up and he is facing the other way I guess I love attention.... Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted April 28, 2005 Share Posted April 28, 2005 while i am sleeping anything could go on, and i would never know! so if my guy wants to cuddle while i am sleeping, fine.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author AliceW Posted April 28, 2005 Author Share Posted April 28, 2005 I love to cuddle while we are sleeping!!! but my bf thinks that it's too uncomfortable to sleep like that I feel so left out when we don't hug while we fall asleep or if I wake up and he is facing the other way I guess I love attention.... That's interesting. Does your bf try to make up for it by being very affectionate to you in other ways and at other times? I'm just trying to understand my bf's feelngs...I could understand hjim feeling unloved if I weren't affectionate in general, but since I am, I have a hard time getting why the cuddling while sleeping thing is so important.... Link to post Share on other sites
HOTRODDERS WIFE Posted April 30, 2005 Share Posted April 30, 2005 My husband is a big time cuddlier. I love it, it makes me feel good to have his arms around me Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 Originally posted by AliceW That's interesting. Does your bf try to make up for it by being very affectionate to you in other ways and at other times? I'm just trying to understand my bf's feelngs...I could understand hjim feeling unloved if I weren't affectionate in general, but since I am, I have a hard time getting why the cuddling while sleeping thing is so important.... He does try to make up for it but it does not work because what I want is for him to be affectionate while we are going to sleep It just makes me feel loved. Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted May 6, 2005 Share Posted May 6, 2005 Originally posted by AliceW What do you all prefer? Does your SO like to sleep the same way? I love to cuddle. Unfortunately, she has chronic back problems, & I'm very warm & sometimes tend to snore. So we can't. I wish we could, but that's the way it is. Link to post Share on other sites
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