down hearted Posted June 16, 2015 Share Posted June 16, 2015 I want to be over it so badly, but he is all i think about its been 11 months since i divorced him. I tried to think of all the bad he did to me and i still miss him like crazy, my life is super stressful as i am in med school and its really hard and the stress is so much that i just feel alone sometimes and just really wish i had someone to talk to at the end of the day and i dont have that anymore even (if he didnt pay any mind) it was comforting to just have someone. We do not talk at all or have any contact what so ever, i dont have facebook and not interested in having it either.I do not look for him, i do not try anything to contact him absolutely nothing i am trying to move on with my life as healthy as can be with new job and school opportunities of my drreams. I don't do anything to look for him and neither does he to me. We just completely ended it. I wonder though if i at least cross his mind, we were together for 9 years and we were each other's first love. His mom tried to add my mom on facebook last month (my mom obviously denied her request) and when my mom told me i flipped and had so many questions in my mind with the whys and for whats. I just want to be over it already but how do i get over it. I feel i will never get over this i wish i could get over it so badly. What can i do to get over him for good? Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted June 16, 2015 Share Posted June 16, 2015 I guarantee you you cross his mind. There's no way you could live with someone for 9 years and just utterly forget them one day. Time's the big healer hon. There'll come a day when you realize you don't really care if you cross his mind anymore or not. There are a variety of viable coping techniques, none of which will totally restore you but they do all help. In my mind the big ones are - - Socialize (with friends, etc.). Not all the time or even very much but you have to get outside yourself or you become isolated, which only promotes the negative feelings. - Exercise. It's good for body and soul, very directly. Just take a half hour walk every day. - Do things. Get a hobby or work on a project. It's silly to think that distracting yourself will distract your troubles right out of your mind, but having stuff to work on does help you process more effectively and get outside your head. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mangetout Posted June 16, 2015 Share Posted June 16, 2015 You will get over him one day. But there is no fast lane on this one. The only thing you can do is carry on being good to yourself during this difficult time. I was in your position once. I truly believed I would never move on from the love of my life..that I would love him for the rest of my life and no other man will ever take his place. 20 months later and I. don't.care.for him. In fact he text me the other day and I ignored it. Just not bothered anymore. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 16, 2015 Share Posted June 16, 2015 There is no set time frame for grief. the loss of a marriage is significant. Do you have any outlets? Does your med school offer counseling? If so take advantage of it 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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