lilin97 Posted June 16, 2015 Share Posted June 16, 2015 I will try to keep this to the point. We were together in 1997, I was 15, he was 21. My mom, of course because of the age difference made us breakup. We re-united in 2009. After our breakup in '97 he moved on right away with an old friend of mine from school. And I ended up moving on with one his friends, lasted 6 years and he lasted 12 off/on with her. I cheated on his friend and he cheated on my friend, we held onto eachother, still loved eachother, we cheated on our spouses with eachother and others. Since we got back together, it's been rough. He just broke up with my friend 3 months before, still fresh out of their 12 year thing. I was single for 2 going on 3 years before him. He was still pretty much with her, led her on drank with her, gossipped with her, ran and cried to eachother, long intimate conversations, he doesn't know I saw and heard. Both our exes, our old friends TRIED hard to sabotage our relationship, rumours gossip. And my ex believed it all. Plus he was emailing another ex trying beg for her back not long after we re-united. And he tried to hook up with my cousin and hit on her friend and tried track down his "cousin" in middle night asking her mom for her cell number + other females, times I'm sure don't know of. He excused it because he was drunk. I got my stupid immature revenge on him recently with my co-worker. By sexting and texting emails ONLY on facebook. Nothing physical happened and I had no intention of it getting physical. Plus this guy and his mistress were trying to get me fired or to quit. So I wanted to blow their plan out of the water AND my co-workers wife got all insecure recently forced my spouse to up and leave millionth time in 5 yrs, he dumped me for a month and nothing was going on then . My ex has a very deep seeded issue deep distrust in ALL women because his mom and his 3 siblings and dad all cheat. So the past 5 years he's always been very insecure, paranoid, jealous and accused me when I wasn't. I havn't cheated until recently. I admit I was wrong stupid ,eye for eye was not right. But my ex refuses hear my full side , the actual truth, refuses believe me, claims already forgiven me. He is making me suffer he thinks the whole world needs to full on details of what I did just because everyone saw knew what he did in first few years with me. He said I need to come clean with my family, his, my 3 kids??? Can this be saved? Link to post Share on other sites
Clay Posted June 16, 2015 Share Posted June 16, 2015 I doubt it. How can you or him ever trust each other when you have a long history of being these kinds of people. Sadly people don't just change over night. I would suggest you move on and get into counceling but with your long history of this behavior I doubt anything is going to do any real good until your ready to change the kind of person you are. He is probably in the same boat so at least your not alone in this. Clay Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted June 17, 2015 Share Posted June 17, 2015 Both of you are far to selfish and immature to have healthy relationships. You may be able to change this after a couple of years of counselling. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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