BernardG Posted June 17, 2015 Share Posted June 17, 2015 A question for those who were married with kid(s) and decided that they could no longer be in that situation and chose their ex because of a better connection/communication and burning passion. Are there any who did just that and able to share stories what happened eventually? Did it work out? Does it work out? Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted June 17, 2015 Share Posted June 17, 2015 A woman my mom knew did. That woman has been cheated on constantly ever since she left her family behind, and doesn't dare to leave the ex because she knows she'll get judged even more (we're a rather small town) than she already has/is. Why do you ask? Link to post Share on other sites
Lunay Posted June 17, 2015 Share Posted June 17, 2015 Going back to an ex usually doesn't work out. They are an ex for a reason. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
EverySunset Posted June 17, 2015 Share Posted June 17, 2015 I couldn't go back to my ex. He showed his true colors when we split and they were not shades I can live with. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BernardG Posted June 17, 2015 Author Share Posted June 17, 2015 What if the relationship did not end because of problems but because at the time she just 'chose' someone else because of wrong timing? Kinda like having met someone first and not choosing the second one as it would be 'unfair' to the first one? Link to post Share on other sites
beautifulinside2 Posted June 18, 2015 Share Posted June 18, 2015 I wouldn't recommend leaving one person for another person. I think if a situation isn't working out, then you need to wait until the divorce is final before dating anyone else. What if the relationship with the ex doesn't work out, will you regret leaving your wife or not trying harder to salvage that relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
Author BernardG Posted June 18, 2015 Author Share Posted June 18, 2015 I know i should not form a decision based on ex but should focus on my own situation first. The reason why the current marriage is not working well is that there is a lack of communication due to major culture differences. There are no similar interests. Parenting style differs as she does not want to hear any advice but form her own and i just have the feeling that everything was manipulated from the start to having a marriage and birth of baby. Link to post Share on other sites
cocorico Posted June 20, 2015 Share Posted June 20, 2015 A question for those who were married with kid(s) and decided that they could no longer be in that situation and chose their ex because of a better connection/communication and burning passion. Are there any who did just that and able to share stories what happened eventually? Did it work out? Does it work out? Offhand, I can think of two situations where it seems to have worked out - at least, so far - no one has died yet, so who knows what is yet to come. In the first, the woman - let's call her Jane - broke up with her first husband, John, because she wanted kids and he didn't. She had kids with her second husband, Joe, but they broke up because she still had feelings for John. She then remarried, this time to James, and he raised the kids as his own from when they were in nappies until they were grown and left home. At which point Jane dumped him and went back to John - who had recently divorced. Jane and John are still together, decades later. In the second, the woman - let's call her Mary - was the high school sweetheart of Mark. Mary's family moved, and she lost touch with Mark. Mary and Mark both married other people and had kids. Many years later, Mark came across Mary on social media, and their email exchanges soon led to them meeting up and falling in love again. Mary left her partner, while Mark - who had younger kids - agonised for a few years before leaving his partner too. Mark and Mary are still happily together. I think whether it works out or not depends on many factors. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. Why you broke up in the first place is a big factor; as is why things are not working out with your current SO. Link to post Share on other sites
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