Ex Randomly Contacted Me.. I'm Lost.

[Astraia]

Hi guys. As the title suggests, my ex boyfriend contacted me out of nowhere. I'm not entirely sure what he wants..

 

Backstory:

We met at the end of 2012 and became really close friends pretty fast. Fast forward to fall of 2013, we became a couple. Broke up spring of 2014, so it's been a little over a year at this point.

 

Basically he kind of broke up with me out of the blue. It was his senior year of high school and my sophomore year at that point. I was hurt, and he didn't give me a straight answer as to why he didn't want to continue the relationship, so I just let it go and moved on with life. We completely stopped contact.

 

So, Monday I was surprised to see a friend request from him on FB (I didn't even know he had one). Part of me said "ignore it, it's going to stir up old feelings, forget it." The other part of me said "just accept it, it could mean nothing."

 

So I accepted it and he messaged me a few hours later. It just said "hey."

Against my better judgement I decided to respond. The conversation was really light and superficial, about stupid stuff like school and our families. But suddenly he said "I'm sorry for what happened between us."

 

Ugh. Eventually he explained that he was worried about going to college, etc. I guess I can understand that, most people end up breaking up anyway. But he didn't even try to talk to me about it, he just shut me out, suddenly went cold. As if someone flipped a switch inside him.

 

Anyways I asked, why, all of a sudden, he decides to tell me this now? Over a year of not seeing or speaking to each other? He told me it's been bothering him for a while and he recently made a FB and saw my profile come up so he decided to try to talk to me. He was also shocked I actually responded. Heck, I'm surprised I did too.

 

Then I was thinking "okay, he's just trying to make himself feel better, move on and forget this ever happened." But we did end up talking about other things afterwards. For a good 5 or 6 hours. Same thing happened yesterday.

 

It's like we picked up right where we left off, but because I'm an idiot and continue speaking with him all of my old feelings are coming back. He has never said anything about hanging out again (unless playing XBox together counts) or dating.

 

I don't know what to do. Does it even sound like he would consider dating me again? I mean why continue to talk to me? I don't want to jump into anything, part of me wants to date him, but I don't even know if he wants to. I also don't want to get hurt again. My brain says run far away, my heart says stay. Usually I listen to my brain but he's one of those people that started something in me that I can't help.

 

I just need help haha. I don't know what he wants. Maybe some outside opinions will help me here. I get it, we're both stupid teenagers and stuff like this rarely ends up lasting. But he was my first real boyfriend, and more importantly my best friend. I can't pretend I haven't missed him.

[forumman83]

He is obviously intersted in rekindling things but I fear that you are too readily available and "easy" to get back. I think if you do take him back he won't value it because of how easy it was.

 

If youre going to go down this road, make him work real hard for it otherwise you're setting yourself up for long term failure.

 

Trust me, I've been this guy before.

[foolinlove79]

My ex broke up with me a few months ago and has contacted me several times Via facebook and email. First he wanted to go for a drink. I said not a good idea. Now he come up with some excuse about dropping stuff off.

 

In mu opinion they dumped us so **** them. I think its that they are lonely and horny and single. Not that they love us. Its more about them.